problems with wife.

I agree, you haven't said much for me to give you an opinion....need to know more!

We can't help you very much because you have not told us any thing,about why she left,or what kind og chargesyou have or trouble.What did you do or she do to cause her to leave?

It seems like we are only hearing one side of the story. For us to make a good suggestion we need a lot more to go off of. Why did she leave? What kind of case did she file? And what did you do to contribute?

I have a question for you. Are you a spiritual/religious person. If so, did you have pre-marital counseling? I would also reccommend pre-marital counseling for those who aren't religious/spiritual as well. You have to get to know the person you are going to marry. There are a lot of past hurts, decisions, and things that people do that tend to not get exposed until later in a marriage. I am speaking from experience. My husband and I didn't get counseling prior to our getting married and I wish I did. Not to say that I wouldn't still marry him or that I didn't truely love him, but I think we would have been better prepared for what was to come. I'm sorry your wife left you, but we can't change anyone. You must look at you first and see what you could have done to change the outcome. Once you've done that, then you can truely move on and try to make some sense of this crazy world.

I noticed you said she caused you lots & lots of problems, but did NOT say why she left. Did she leave because you were hitting her???

I have had a very rocky marriage. We fought non stop for six years. I was beaten for six years. BUT we decided from the beginning that we would work through whatever we had to. We dug our heals in and made it work. We celebrated our seven year anniversary last week. We have been together for a total of eight and a half years, we have two kids and we MAKE it work. The problem with this is that just because one person is willing to do whatever it takes, it doesn't mean the other is. I have survived alot in my marriage and I know it can be done but if your wife is a give up easily person then the effort will never be met and you can only do so much in that situation. My advice would be to have a sit down with her and find out if she wants to give all of herself and work through the hard times or if not, it's time to move on. I got married at 18 and I was determined to not become a statistic and let my family down. It isn't the best reasons to make it work but it worked for me until I found more solid reasons (now its 2 kids) and I truely do love my husband more the more things we survive together. It's possible for your bad situation to make your marriage stronger but it's completely up to her now.

What kind of case did she file against you, what is she accusing you of? There has to be a reason why she left.