When A Man's Best Friend Is His Teddy Bear
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
September 28, 2008 5:04pm CST
Imagine you are invited back to your boyfriends place for the first time, and he takes you up to his bedroom to partake in some wanton activities and when you walk into his bedroom his bed and most of his bedroom is taken up by teddy bears, there's loads of them, all over his bed, sitting in the window, on shelves, every available space there's a teddy bear
What's your first thought?
Would it put you off your boyfriend and would you start laughing or would you think wow, he loves teddy bears and bond with him even more?
Would you be happy that he has a very soft sensitive, gentle side?
What if he wanted bears in bed with you too?
Does your boyfriend, husband, significant other (males only) have a teddy bear collection?
What would you think if your boyfriend collects or started collecting teddy bears
Would it freak you out?
How do you feel when men have teddy bears or even sleep with them?
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23 responses
@nannacroc (4049)
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28 Sep 08
I think I may suggest that he was not my type and give him a male friends number.
My nephew loved his teddy bears and had a large collection. Him and his boyfriend are very happy together.
How would you feel if your girlfriend had a collection of trains or cars?
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@nannacroc (4049)
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28 Sep 08
Bears are a bit scary because they wake at night and try to eat you. Didn't our mummy warn you?
@nannacroc (4049)
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28 Sep 08
Should have been your mummy. I've got enough brothers without finding any more.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Sep 08
Wow I would love to play with the train set with her! Wouldn't matter to me at all, as long as I had the big engine! Cars too, I think I would have loved a sister to share my cars and trains with. There are far worst things your other half could be obsessed or addictive too and bears are harmless!
@msmell (1378)
• Australia
28 Sep 08
Hi Wolfie are you trying to work up the courage and bring home a girl and show her your bedroom..... 
But no seriously I honestly don't know what I would do but I am one of them people that would more likely laugh and then tease the crap out of the poor buggar for ever that he would end up dumping me hahaha
But no seriously I honestly don't know what I would do but I am one of them people that would more likely laugh and then tease the crap out of the poor buggar for ever that he would end up dumping me hahaha1 person likes this
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Sep 08
Most of my ex's were great about it! Trouble is my last ex treated me like a child because of the bears and I hated that which kind of put me off big time but I still can't part with them. I don't mind being teased about them it's when someone using them to manipulate you with then that is a problem!
@msmell (1378)
• Australia
29 Sep 08
Oh sorry can't tell you what you would have to do to get poor teddy back as this is a G-Rated program ..... 
And i guess i could handle a few more as i already have a few that sit on my bed myself 
which the bloody dog is obsessed with and tries to kidnap them all the time and then I have to kick his a8s.....
And i guess i could handle a few more as i already have a few that sit on my bed myself which the bloody dog is obsessed with and tries to kidnap them all the time and then I have to kick his a8s.....
@ellie333 (21016)
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29 Sep 08
Hi Wolfie, I would think he had a soft sensitive side but too many and I would think it a little strange. Don't think I would be too happy to share the bed with a bear as well as the guy but each to their own. My friends teenage son still has a bear he takes to bed with him and he is upfront and open about it to his mates, he has had it from a baby but I don't think he takes it to his girlfriends house when he sleeps there. Ellie :D
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 Oct 08
Hi Wolife, Yes he is nearly 17 now and still has his bear, I suppose because he is so comforable about it his mates don't tease and they have always known him with his bear, its a sort of tiger all battered but well loved. Whenever he comes to stay at mine he brings his own pillow and his teddy bless. I am glad you liked the poem, I must starting writing again. This was a very old one but I haven't done anything now for eight years, thanks for the BR, appreciated. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21016)
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29 Sep 08
Meant to add this poem I wrote called Teddy Bear when I was eight years old, about needing a special person in your life I guess. I hope you enjoy.
Teddy Bear
Soft and cuddly, comforting,
someone to turn to when the weather is rain,
a shoulder to cry on, to shout at, to love,
seeming sometimes greater than people you love.
Always there, never strays, you go way but he stays,
you love him so deeply, hate him at times,
but that poor little teddy bear he never minds
Ellie :D
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@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
whoa,hahahah!!!the minute i read this post/discussion i was speechless, i really dont know how to react, i dont think ive meet someone who has teddy bear with him on his room, maybe i would freak out when i saw a lot of it, but if its just one two three, i think it would be just fine, maybe that was his teddy bear when he was young or maybe a gift from someone, but really if someone a guy collects teddy bear i would really think he is gay, but maybe it makes him very happy, then ok and would be fine with me,,,
@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
that was cool, yeah we really want to have a guy who have some gentleness on him, thats also what i wanted to.
happy posting
@blackcatbetty (555)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I think I would fall in love , yep I said it . hahha . I adore teddy bears and I have started a nice collection myself. I have devil bears and angel bears. I have them made out of all different kinds of fabric and materials . Ones that are from different parts of the world . I do not display all of them only a select few here and there that match parts of my house . I keep it subtle . My oldest cat is my teddy bear though , she sleeps right beside my pillow every night ..
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Sep 08
Aaaah that is soooo sweet my friend! My bears are well loved as are animals! I often think about my beloved cat Zeus, he belonged to my ex, treated him like a King, spoilt him rotten, I don't normally like animals on my bed, well apart from the stuffed ones, but for him I made the exception, I have a framed photo of him but I can't display it because it still hurts, cuckoo ain't I!
@blackcatbetty (555)
• United States
29 Sep 08
oh btw , you are not crazy because you have a heart dear my friend!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
28 Sep 08
I think it is wonderful specially because I love Teddy's lol I have a few but of course they are not allowed on the bed a certain little Dog throws them of
It would never put me of as it does show a very sensitive Side of the Person
Just because he/she is an Adult does not mean the Teddy's have to go
Hugs xxxx
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
28 Sep 08
I'd just think he was eccentric. If it was someone I really cared about, these little differences wouldn't matter. If it was someone I didn't really care about, I woudln't be in his bedroom, nor would I have him in mine, in the first place, so it really doesn't matter.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 08
I think that he would be a charming and sensitive guy, with his love for teddy bears he would probably like a lots of hugs. I would talk with him in an understanding way about his collection. We all have different interests and I would think his hobby was unusual but sweet. I could tell him about my collection of costume dolls from around the world. I wouldn't laugh but tell him my favorite bear. I think he might get me into collecting teddy bears but I wouldn't have a teddy bear in my bed. It might make me sneeze. Perhaps teddy bear collections should stay on the shelf. At least the man whose best friend is a teddy bear will be soft and friendly not at all war like.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 08
How very true, I always feel most men won't reveal their gentle sides for fear of showing their vulnerability, men feel they have to be macho, the alpha male and to show any sign of vulnerability is to show weakness. For a guy to let his partner to see his 'softer' side I think is a great honour and should be encouraged rather than laughed at and mocked, but a compromise is always needed and your response echoes this and I can just imagine the warmth and kindness you'd exude when tackling the issue with him!
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Honest first reaction would be to laugh and then blurt out somehting like these better be for me or do you have kids I don't know about?
I still have my Teddy from the day I was born, but he is put away. One is not so bad, but a roomful just might concern me a bit. I knew a guy once whose stuffed dog was so frazzled and worn he was just a peice of cloth sewn together and he still called it puppy....now honestly he was a sweet guy, but he did have some insecurity issues.
But C'est la vie.
I love bears though.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Sep 08
Maybe he had a bad childhood/upbringing? Some people cling to bears for security because of things that have happened in the past. That's a good point about the kids, I never thought of that, thanks! Yes indeed that could throw a big spanner into the works couldn't it! Unless he's divorced of course!
@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
I don't know what my reaction would be. If we are talking of only 1 teddy bear then it is still fine with me, i won't mind at all though he sleeps with it. But a collection of teddy bears, i don't know it just might freak me out. Maybe i would be thinking if everything about him is normal. I can handle sleeping with him and his
favorite, one and only teddy bear beside him. That i can tolerate but if there were more than one, there might be something terribly wrong with him, or maybe he didn't have a normal childhood. Have a nice day my friend!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 08
No I don't see you as being judgmental I see you speaking your mind and being honest and I appreciate that! Yes a bad childhood can be a cause of men being close to their bears and even calling them names and sleeping with them, especially if they have had no siblings or one or two parents were not around for him or certainly her!
@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
But don't get me wrong with that last statement, maybe he had to act as an adult in hi early years. Or maybe he has had a trauma during childhood that a teddy bear served as his only faithful and true friend. I am not being judgmental but that is just what came to my mind first.
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@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Thank you and i appreciate your understanding too. I haven't mentioned that i will not break up with him, no matter how freaked out i will be. I will just try to find the reason behind why he is into teddy bears so much. If he needs help then i will be by his side, if not and he just loves to collect them, then i will be glad to join him in his collection.
@Ritz100 (1169)
• Yecla, Spain
29 Sep 08
Nothing wrong with that, anything a person has a serious interest in is just part of them. If (as a previous responder said) I was already in his bedroom, then I would have built up some sort of affection for him in the first place. Teddy Bear collection or anything else would just go to reinforce that affection. Anyway, I love teddy bears, Ive got two that grace my computer desk and I am looking at them right now.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Hey wolfie! Teddy bears huh? A room full? Sleep with them and
do it with them on the bed? Huh? Maybe a bit much! I don't
think I would like that. My bf has one teddy bear and it's
the one I bought him and that better be the only one cause
if he had any others I'd make him get rid of them! I wouldn't
like that at all. I even through out this hugh bear that my
X-bf bought me for Valentines Day a few years ago! I didn't
even want that anymore! So the answer is a definite no to
a bf with teddy bears!
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@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
29 Sep 08
... hihi.. I will love him even more. Especially, my boyfriend is my Papa Bear. Do you know what, I just gave him two dolls for his birthday, the one looks like me with long legs and the the other one looks like him. He has a little bear on top of his TV, and the last time we were together, he wants to buy one bear too much, but it was too expensive. I don't think this will matter. also, when we get married, he can keep the bear's there. I want the bears all over the place also... hihi. This does not make him less manly. This is just his childish part. And I like it.
@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I bought my hubby a teddy bear to replace one his dad got rid of when he was a teen. It is soft and blue. I tend to not like excesses of anything, although we do have about a million coffee mugs. (Even one from Ireland, but not any from Scotland.)
@TakeThisName (769)
• Canada
29 Sep 08
Aww I would think it was kind of cute that he still had teddy bears. I might pick on him about it but it would not bother me cause I would think the idea that he still had teddy bears was kind of cute and he was a nice guy. I would see him as a soft gently person.
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
29 Sep 08
I guess it's all right wolfie if he's into collecting bears but when he has company in his bed the cubs go!
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
29 Sep 08
I like teddy bear too. If I were the girl, I may laugh first since I kind of thing loving teddy bear is girls' business. By the way, there are something more beautiful than teddy bear.
@wampirencja (164)
• Poland
28 Sep 08
Haha I would laugh at the beginning, but I think that's fine :) It won't affect anything as long as he won't giggle and wear a skirt. I'm a boy-type yet still I collect dolls. Sometimes it just work that way, out of nothing you found a hobby with doesn't suits you at all, but you like it :]
But of course it would be...ackward to.. well.. "hug" in this room ^^" But If I love someone, I think I could handle it :) My boyfriend accept I have a books under my pillow and my rabbit is between us when we sleep together (my rabbit always is sleeping with me and won't give his place to anyone :])
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Sep 08
Well I hate wearing pink! And I actually think men wearing pink is a bit weird to be honest! Yet they are in touch with their feminine side and they are comfortable in pink it's just not something I am comfortable with but I am comfortable about bears and everyone collects something, whether it's stamps, cars, money or bears!
@wampirencja (164)
• Poland
28 Sep 08
I hate pink too, belive me :] But if m boyfriend decide to wear... Well, it still not enought to change my feeling, but for sure I would be trying to give him the idea, that pink doesn't suits him etc. Still, I'm OK with bears
