What do you do when you hate your partner?

oh I can't see where you are coming from? is arguments and petty quarrels not normal in every relationship? I don't think so, how can you say it is abusive? please explain more

In my opinion a relationship that involves yelling, cursing and physical hurt is abusive. A relationship where one person MAKES the other person do something that they don't want to do, or a relationship where I felt like I could not say no, its not what I would consider a healthy relationship. For me to think that I would need to "sabotage" my husband is unheard if. And your question was how do you relieve yourself, my answer was leave. This was simply my opinion.

oh i see, as for me those were all normal to relationship and the can't say no part, it is one of the reasons why I love him more.

We had too during our first few years but I really do learn how to control myself and when times that I can't I just prepare a bitter cup of coffee .. and then he says he really don't mind, in fact he likes his coffee better when I am mad.

Haha, that's really funny pehpot. I am not really more of the "get-even" type so I haven't tried thinking of ways to punish my husband when there are times when I really like to. Now that I am thinking it, I really can't even think of a single idea, so pathetic don't you think? I have thoughts of leaving him, I mean going back home to my parents, but it did not really materialized. It's either he'll talk me to go back or I just go back because I miss him.

me and hubby just have petty quarrels and the get even thing were part of the fun most of the times, we never came to a point where I would leave him but sometimes I tease him on that.

hmm.. I don't think it is..

Well, I believe your relationship is not abnormal, I understand the things you do when you have petty quarels that is tolerable as those could even trigger laughter to both of you but what is not tolerable is the story about the wife using the hubby'stoothbrush to clean the toilet seat. As I said that is too cruel! so don't worry, I do understand your point. Relax and keep on having fun here!

ngek, the toothbrush thing was a joke, it has circulated on the text for sometime and it made me laugh out loud and I send it the text to my hubby (in which he replied, he will not use his tooth brush when I am mad at him) I think everyone here misunderstood my post, I meant to be a funny discussion not a horrible one, but it seems this get out of hand, what I was just really trying to start is a discussion that one would share the things he or she do when you get petty quarrels with the partner, for some it is shopping, as in my case , Ok when he ask me to massage his foot and I am not in the mood for it, I still do it but made it a little harder (which I think he liked better) I really don't mean the kind of quarrels that we usually saw on the TV (and why is it that almost everyone thought it was what I am talking about?) or maybe I used the wrong word.. sorry mom to use this space, I just think I need a place to explain. or just maybe our relationship is not normal for some..

It was not us, when I say physical hurting I mean it in some relationship or I just generalize relationships, not ours, my hubby never even once lift a finger to me.

I do that sometimes and then he would use a louder voice and then I will give in.. he he

My hubby and I do love each other too, but I tend to get mad easily at him. I am happy that you and your partner is doing great!

why is it serve does not sound good to you? I actually do his toenails, I clean his ears, and those were the thing that we do ordinarily. It's OK, maybe we both have different outlook on being a wife. he he you can say I am a mix of housewife from the 50's and wife from today

Oh no, my hubby is very kind and I am actually the stubborn one and I feel guilty when I can't give out on his whims, he has been doing a lot for me and our kids and I really want to serve him.