To All SAHM: Do You Still Have Time For Yourself?

If, I do have time, it is when the kids are off to bed for the night.. I try to fix myself up, sometimes, when he is not home.. If, I look fine when he left, I will look the same when he comes back. But, I do try to at least take a shower and freshen up or so. I do want to look presentable when he comes home..

[i]Hi eihdra, I have no kids so I have plenty of time for this this time that I am still looking for a job, but there are days also that I will be running out of time to fix myself because of the online stuffs I am doing![/i]

I'm a SAHM but I certainly don't look like the mom in the Dove commercial (either before or after, lol). I get up early so I can take a shower, do my hair and makeup, before waking the kids up for school. So while I look presentable, I wouldn't say I look fabulous. One of these days I'm going to go to Sephora and get a makeover in the hopes that they'll teach me how to look better with makeup on.

No, I never have and probably never will fix myself up before the hubby comes home because he wouldn't do the same for me!..LOL.. But I do take a little bit of time out daily to try and make myself look pretty or presentable. Sometimes it's hard though especially when I'm running around doing some quick cleaning around the house before company walks threw the door or when I'm tending to my son's needs all the time. I do make somewhat of a beauty night for me once a week where I groom my eyebrows,give myself a facial etc.. But sometimes it's hard to even do that because I'm too tired to mess with it or I'm really busy doing other things.

Hi eihdra I am a full time stay at home mom and I rarely get time for myself my husdband works all the time and when he cames home hes ready for be(3rd shift) so the times I wish I had my alone time would be while shopping or a dr's appt. ect but I rarely get that My alone time seems to be at night when theyve gone to bed thats when I take my bath catch up my soaps and other shows and last but not least ebjoy mylot.

I have been a sahm for 5 years. It was fine when it was just my oldest, 8 yrs old, but now I have a 3 & 2 yr old as well....now nothing is mine! Those two are at my feet from 7a until bedtime - which is too late for my tastes! By the time they do go to bed I'm just too tired to care about anything so I don't consider this "me time." I'm not even entirely sure I know just who I am anymore..me..not mommy or wifey, but ME. This may be wrong, or bad; but I really could care less what I look like when my husband gets home. He should just be happy that I have taken care of his kids all day long, cleaned his house and made his dinner!

I have tried and tried to take more time for me. Now I get up when my hubby leaves for worka and I take time for me then. It is only 40 minutes until I have to get the kids up and going for school and the day but it helps. I make it an issue to get up and dressed first thing. Atleast I have done that for the day. In two years my youngest will go off to school and I will have a half day for me, who knows what I can do then.

[i]Hi eihdra, I don't have kids yet but honestly, working online will really consume my time..LOL! and I have no reasons not to look good and smell good before hubby arrives..lOL! SO, I always find time to do it 30 minutes before he will be home..LOL! I have all my time in the house for the chores and my online stuff! I remember my Mom before, she always make herself neat and clean even having 2 kids and with all the household chores! She inspires me a lot! LOL! and it's nice to talk to her about this topic every now and then! LOL![/i]

I do not have time to fix myself before my husband comes home. I am too busy with house work and tending my two little boys to pamper myself. I have actually forgotten myself, who i am and who i used to be. Self-pampering used to be a normal part of my life before we moved to his country, but now it sounds as foreign as the place i am living. It would be bliss if i could have even only two hours a day of peace and quiet (and everything already clean and organized)- for luxurious bath, mirror time, then a good read and a good drink on a comfy couch (and with some assurance that my kids are close by, happy and safe.) I wish...

I do not have too much time for myself. I sneak a few minutes here ans ther but that is about it. I sont care if my husband sees me in the same clothes or not. He knows that I am busy with the kids. I do try to look nice when we go out but if i am just sitting at home the last thing i am worried about is how i look. I am too worried about taking care of the kids and the house.

tough as it is to be a SAHM, i try to give myself that time to be alone with my thoughts before i go to bed everyday. even just an hour to do whatever it is that i want to do like read a book or surf the net or just plain think. as for the pampering part... oh well with the crisis and all it's getting tougher and tougher to scrimp up extra cash for a quick trip to the spa or the salon or even to have a massage at home so that is one thing that would have to take a backseat for a while for me.

I'm not married and I dont have a child but having to work 8 hours a day in different working schedule, sometimes I dont have time to fix myself. Before going to work, sure I can fix a bit but during my work, I can't retouch myself even go to the ladies room because of toxic work at the hospital and sometimes there are lots of scheduled surgery and non stop delivering of babies. LOL... but its ok... when I went home I pamper myself by showering and just combing my hair before going to sleep.

I am a SAHM & I have time to myself (for now). My twins are only 7 months. Sometimes I just feel like not doing anything though, so I don't get dressed or anything. My mom's been great & she watches the kids for me pretty much whenever I want to go do something without bringing them (so time consuming), or if my hubby & I just want to go out.

the only time i get to have for myself is if when my partner goes to work or when he is asleep. i wish i could have much time i had when i was still single. i miss going to the spa and getting my nails done..

On the average day Im up at 6 getting kids off to school and then the babies wake up and it is full tilt til night time! Night time is normally around 8:30 - 9:00 PM and like I read here Im too tired to even want to do anything, thou I still do. At this time there is dishes to be done, clothes to fold still and floors to sweep. So normally I would say no there is no time for anything other then taking care of the house and such. Thank goodness I have a hubby that knows what I do to make it possible for him to come home to a clean house with happy kids (for the most part.. lol) and supper being made! Now thou come to October and I do get about 3 hours on Saturdays without kids, well for the most part. I play on a pool league and my daughter plays on my team too. She is an adult on her own thou so it isnt like having a kid, Hmmmm thou I still hear the word mom .. lol Funny thing is Id rather have those hours while I was at home most of the time. I love pool and getting out but there is always so much to do with a large family. I do believe that the stay at home parent needs to find something that is theirs. You can get lost and not know who you are and it is hard to find yourself again. Im still working on that.

I am a working mother... so i need to take time to fix myself for work... and my husband is working abroad... so i don't really need to look that presentable at home... since there is only me and my daughter... and i feel that my 2 year old wouldn't mind if my hair is all messy...

That would be divine! I used to have hours of free time before my little girl was born. And, yes, I did have beauty and pampering days, then. I spent so much money on personal care and face products and enjoyed my prebaby days, completely! Looking back on it now, I wish that I'd saved more of that money. I could have bought a new crib every month with the amount of money I was spending on myself. Right now, I'm not so focused on self pampering. And, the money goes into caring for my child. But, I do love taking hot tub baths. They're so decadent and make me feel pampered. Sometimes, I go all out and give myself a nice foot rub. On most days, a hot shower is about as much self pampering as I get! So, much for beauty days.

I usually find some time for my self. My husband is working outside the country right now so whenever it's time for us to talk on the net, I make sure that I look good infront of the cam. Whenever my kids are at school I take a little rest after I'm done with my chores here. My rest usually is doing my internet stuffs and sometimes I take a nap. I believe that even you are a stay at home mom, you should find time to relax and to take care of yourself. HUGZ!

i am not a full-fledged sahm, although for the most part i feel as though i am. i only work part-time, and that is only 4 nights out of the week. so i am home every single day with my boys. and yes, it is hard to find time for myself. lately it seems as though the only time i do have for myself is when i go to work. my husband does try to give me a break, especially if he can tell that i need it. he will come home from work and take the boys out for a while, which is nice. on the days that i don't have to work at night, i do at least shower and fix myself up. there are a couple times when i don't- i am just too busy with the housework and kids. but for the most part i want to look nice for myself, and for my hubby.

I do what I can. I usually at least try to get into different clothes, not always the nicest, but something different then what I had on when he left. I rarely fix my hair anymore, it's always pulled back and very rarely wear make-up. I would love to be able to take that time to fix myself up like I used to...and not worry about someone touching the hot flat iron, or getting into my lipstick or eyeshadow.