Asking For Help
By glords
@glords (2614)
United States
September 30, 2008 8:51pm CST
I hate asking anyone for help. The other day I was ill, but I didn't pick up the phone to call a friend for help. I feel like everyone is busy with their own life, and children. Do you feel comfortable asking people for favors or do you avoid it like the plague?
4 responses
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Hello,
Like u I hesitate to call someone for help. Most of the time, when they find out, I get chewed out.
Here is a new thought: When we don't call someone for help, we are depriving them of the gift of giving.
Second thought: If we don't ask someone for help, they don't know we need help, they can't read our minds or see ur needs unless we speak up.
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Ah and u are assuming that helping you will put them out without asking. My, mindreading is a wonderful skill. I haven't managed to master it yet, no matter how much effort I put into the process.
@glords (2614)
• United States
1 Oct 08
That is a really good point. It's a wonderful opportunity to give service, and not asking for help robs them of an opportunity to grow closer to Christ. i guess in some way I feel like my not asking for help is a service to my friends and family. a service of not putting them out.
@acampbell79 (18)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I am the same way. I try to avoid it as much as possible. I don't even like to ask my own parents to babysit for me. I would prefer to take my children with me, even when I have to go work. I don't like feeling like I'm putting someone out.
@glords (2614)
• United States
1 Oct 08
yes, I feel the exact same way. I hate, hate, hate putting people out. I never want to ask my parents or my inlaws to watch my son. Its too bad because I know they really enjoy spending time with him, but I always feel like it will get in the way of their busy life.
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Hi there
Think about something here. If you ask your parents to watch their grandson and they say "Yes" then they have worked this into their schedule. Can u really deprive them of the opportunity to spend time with their Grandson.
@PrincessoFJoy (61)
• Singapore
1 Oct 08
i would try my best not to get sick and if i am sick i would only call my friend for help only when theirs no other ways
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 08
I also don;t like asking for help, but as normal human, we cannot run away from asking people for help and moreover some people especially those who are closer to us will feel hurt if we do not ell them our problem, because at the end of the day, these people will have pain because of our problem.
