What's that on your tongue?

First of all, I didn't see anything wrong with the piercing in the tongue or belly, even I don't have one, but I think it is some kind of fashion. Young people use this t show their rebellious personality not because they are become rebellious to their parents but they are against the mainstream. Piercings and tattoos, for me, is something in someone's idealism. Young people has their idealism, because they want to live in their ideal life. Parents gave them knowledge about the reality. Personally, I would say, let the teenagers be teenagers but give them enough knowledge about the real world. Let them pierce the tongue but tell them that they should use the clean and new needle. They are still young, let them act as a young people. When they're old they're gonna lose this kind of attitude of themselves, they're going to be boring, conservative, but they was once young :) I haven't got a child yet, but this was how my parents taught me. They let me do something and they let me failed and learn. They let me fall and get up again. That's how young people get experience from life so they would know how the reality is.

Wow, I would never allow my daughter to have a pierced tongue or belly button while she is still in school like highschool or middle school. The only way that she would be able to get one is when she turns 18 and if she is living on her own. I think the reason for the wanting of this is because of peer pressure and they see their peers with piercings. They want to do it just to fit in and as well as in the girls case, have friends.

I did not see anywhere what the girls age is. My girls started getting some piercings about age 16 and up. That was eyebrow and ears. They also wanted tattoos and other piercings which I told them they had to wait until they were age 18 to make the decision. Of course I did not want them to do these things to mark up their bodies at such a young age in case it was just a phase and that is why I made them wait. So as adults, one has a tongue piercing and both have small discreet tattoos. I accept what they have done because it is their body. Times are different now and it is not an uncommon thing for the piercings and tattoos. The mother you write about should not feel guilt. One thing I learned for sure with teenagers is that if they really insist on doing something, they will find a way to do it. Unless that mom could watch her 24/7 which is impossible..does not mean she was slacking as a parent. Lets not forget how sneaky teens can get. It does bother me when they do it to fit in or peer pressure. To me the peer pressure today is much worse. My 11 year old niece was made fun of by not wearing certain brand name shirts. It is sad that kids do things they normally would not just to fit in.

I really dont' think its that bad. As long as its not messing with their school work then I wouldn't mind. Its better then a tattoo b/c if they wanted to remove a piercing they could easily do it. I would be more worried about the group of girls that she has joined. If they could talk her into getting piercings what else could they or have they already talked her into doing?

I will never allow my daughter to have piercing anywhere in her body except her ears.I don't want to control her but if she still respect me she would not do it for me.So far, i never seen her get interested to it and i am glad about that.I know lots of young ones have done that and even the old ones but i just never like it.I have nothing against it.We have freedom to do whatever we want but i don't want my daughter to have it.

I would never allow any one of my daughters to have a piercing in other part of her body than her ears. I don't think it's hygenically and it doesn't make her smarter for sure. I fshe would do it just to feel that she belongs to a group, I would explain to her that that group will break down once and she won't want to be part of it any more. You just have to be yurself.

I really can't say. There is difference in opinion. For me though, I definitely find it yuckeeeeee.

No, I wouldn't allow it. If they would want to do that, they'd have to wait til they are on their own. It seems popular today to allow children to do whatever they want, and whatever the other kids do, but I am from a generation where parents put limits on what their children were allowed to do, and I believe it is much better that way, and also the children feel more secure knowing their parents are strong and in charge.

I myself have both piercings. I personally would allow my daughter to get them if she understood the responsibility and that if she wasn't doing it to just fit in.

The rule in our house is no piercings (other than ears) or tattoo until you are out working on your own and supporting yourself. I don't like them! But that is just me. So I don't want them around my house while kids are young. Yeah, ya gotta watch em every minute, I tell ya! My sister had the same rule and her eldest son has pierced ear, nose and tongue plus 3 tattoos!!! To each his or her own I say!

I will not allow my kids to that,I should remind them that is is not good to look at and remind them that they should act as a descent looking person.I know that it is an ART for others but i don't see it good.

No, that is too terrible , I can't imagine how painful when a silver pierces on the tongue or belly.At present, many kids think it is cool to do some strange things to attract others' attention ,they are too young and even don't know how to protect himself/herself.

When i was in college i had my ears pierced a couple of times, so i had 2 holes each ear...well my mom wasnt pleased with it nor my dad and i was also wanting to have my tongue pierced as well just that i didnt have the courage since it looks so painful. But the reason behind was just for fun, it was the "in" thing, the mainstream ..and i don't see anything wrong with it, so if ever my kid want to have her tongue/belly pierced, well it would be ok i guess...its a phase... i'll give her the choice/freedom to do so as long as there wont be regrets in the end..or if ever she will regret i would still be at her side

no, i would never like my kids to pierce tongue... the kids try to socialize theirselves with their schoolmates and they find this kind of group thingie interesting and making gangs etc is quite Hollywood or Bollywood style.. so they try to act smart and the results are in front of us!!

I have my nose pierced, I had my belly pierced once upon a time and I also wanted to have my tongue done, but chickened out at the last minute when a work colleague had an infection after having hers done! I wanted mine done because they looked nice, they were fashionable and I wanted it done. Not because of anyone else or because I was in a girl group. I cannot turn around to my children and tell them they are not having these things done, not when I have considered or done them myself, what I would do is try and reach a compromise of some sort.

hi djoyce71 No I would never allow my kids when they were young to have any body piercings. I think thats just way too gross and whymutilate your body that way.I think kids do this to stay in the up to the minute group, monkey see, monkey do. Supposedly this is their way of making a fashion statement. I think personally this thinking stinks.

If I was the mother, I think my reaction would be the same. How could I be so busy and not notice whats happening. But once pierced I won’t ask her to remove it. What I am worried about at this time, is the girl group she joined. It is the peer pressure that concerns me. If the type of friends only accepts you if you do what they required, then these girls are not real friends to her daughter. I fear that next time they will expect everyone in the group to try something else that may put them in danger or bigger trouble. If you know what I mean, it is scary to have teenage daughters. I was a teenager once and I know what goes on in school. Good luck and I hope the mother finds time soon with the daughter.

I am not yet a mother but I know many people who has pierced tongue or belly. I talked to them once and ask them what they will get from it, they simply said that it is for fashion and nothing else. I really don't understand them and I hate those personalities in TV doing them because youngsters imitates them. In the end, I will simply tell them that whatever they are doing are not good to their bodies because they are inviting diseases like tetanus You'll never know how many bacterias there are on their silver earrings and they are placing them inside their mouth.

I actually have a belly ring but I keep it hidden. When I go swimming with friends and they see it, they're always surprise that I have one because they say that I'm not the type. I don't see anything wrong with having one and my husband who is very conservative argues that there isn't a point in getting one or keeping one for that matter. But let me ask all of you who are against piercings, I told my husband this and this shut him up in the end, what is wrong with it? Isn't piercing the same if it's done in your ears, nose, tongue or belly? In some cultures, it's normal for women to pierce their navel as well as their noses and ears. I'm sure if you keep it clean, you're not going to risk any infection at all. I had my belly pierce for a very personal reason, it was a sort of rite for me and I keep it because it empowers me to think of the pain I was able to endure when I had it. So for those who did not experience it, please keep an open mind, because, simply, you do not know. Going back to the story, the important point in the story is not about the tongue piercing at all. It's about mother-daughter relationship. Why did the daughter chose to follow her peers and had her tongue and belly pierce? Why didn't she tell her mom and why did she kept it hidden afterwards? Doesn't she have the right amount of belief in herself to lead instead of following? Doesn't she and her mom communicate? Why would she feel that it's something that she should hide?