Would you approve of your husband being a Stay-At-Home dad?
By monika71801
@monika71801 (240)
United States
November 6, 2006 1:13pm CST
I'm in the military & because I primarily provide the income & we move around so much, my husband has now resulted in being a stay-at-home dad! He keeps a part-time job wherever we are stationed, however, he is not able to work full-time. Would you allow your husband to be a stay-at-home dad?
9 responses
@ice_princess (17)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Absolutely. In fact, that is the general plan right now. I made it crystal clear to the man that I have no intention of being a stay-at-home mom, and I have no problem utilizing daycare, but he is more than happy to stay-at-home, so why not?
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@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Interesting......what if he decided that he didn't want to do all of the normal responsibilities that come with the title (i.e. cleaning, cooking, tending to the children, etc.)?
@ice_princess (17)
• United States
6 Nov 06
ah, then he would not be a stay-at-home dad. He would be unemployed and single. We have a very equal relationship, and are both expected to pull our own weight. That includes housework, cooking, etc.
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@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I second that motion! I've always thought that a man can do what a woman does on any given day....it just take a little effort & a lot of organization. Kudos for dad!
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as he actually took care of the kids, meals, cleaning and stuff that needs to be done. Not sitting around drinking and ignoring the kids and responsibilities. It basically comes down to whatever works for you and your family to be happy.
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@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Exactly! There has to be balance in the home when either of the parents are stay-at-home. It's all really a partnership!
@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
My husband was hesitant at first but has really embraced the whole concept now! Thanks!
@forfein (2507)
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6 Nov 06
I think you are talking "Role-Reversal" here??
Sometimes it happens by necessity, as in your case.
In these cases then sure why not.
We will soon be in a similar situation, because in a few years time I will HAVE to retire. Maybe take a part time job or something. But I also work for the Military, but as a civilian now, and we have to retire at 65.
My wife has started an e-Bay store and we are hoping that this will give her a good income as well!!!
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@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
You are definitely correct...however, as stated earlier I don't think that I could play the whole stay-at-home mom thing because I feel like I have the need to keep busy outside of the home. Thanks for your post though!
@dixie1 (1330)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Hi,
Yes, I think that is wonderful that your husband can do that for you!
My husband is home now with me all the time as we are retired.
@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I think once my husband & I get to a point where I can retire we'll actually be able to do a lot more things together.
@happygal68 (3275)
• United States
6 Nov 06
If I had a job that could support the entire family, the heck ya I would let him stay home with the kiddies. I think he would go crazy though, he likes to work and be around his buddies there.
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@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
That was my only concern. Because if he is a sociable guy as with most men, the guys tend to linger around the house while I'm away & when he probably could utilize that time to catch up on some task!
@jray721 (1969)
• United States
6 Nov 06
i would absolutely let my hubby be a stay at home dad, but he would never want to do that because he feels he has to be the main providor of income, and he always has to be working, can never relax. he would also never do it because hes in the marine corps and plans on doing it as his career
@monika71801 (240)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I can definitely understand...if the shoe were on the other foot I don't think that I could handle being at home majority of the day. I believe that it too is a full-time job!
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
6 Nov 06
If he was going to take on the responsibilities of being a stay at home parent the same way a woman would, I wouldn't have a problem with it.
