Is it always "family first" for you?
By mycharm88
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
October 4, 2008 10:33pm CST
Or yourself first? I admire a few who are like this... "Family first" as what they always say. Family is also my first priority in life, nothing more important than the people we love. But of course i also value myself and give time for my own happiness. When i have a family of my own, i would also be giving all my love to my husband and kids. Thanks to my parents...
How about you guys? Do share your thoughts on this c",)
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
5 Oct 08
I personally think it should always be family first in everything that happens and that is what I feel is right,and I always try to put my fiance first because I love her and she is the most important thing to me,just like one day when we start our own family,and have our kids,I will always put my fiance and them ahead of myself and worry about them and what they need,before I worry about my own needs since to me they are more important than myself.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
Yes, you're right my friend and glad we're on the same boat here c",) thanks and tc always
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
When a situation comes wherein I am to decide to choose between my family's welfare or my own, I would often lean on my family's happiness.. I mean, mine can wait and I could always get the things I want later on if possible while decisions to choose aren't as serious..(^_^ )
@mrcupid21 (200)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
basically, family is very important cause they are the one who gave you life and living. but sometimes family can be irritating sometimes because they judge no directly without even making any reason at all. love yourself as well and its good that there is balance.loving your family, yourself and God which is the main priority..
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Hello dear c",) welcome to mylot!
Thanks for responding here, i do agree on that, God and family should be prioritized c",) ...
welcome, i hope all you will find mylot a happy place to stay, like a family, some people here are warm and caring. Meet new friends and enjoy posting!!tc always
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@sweetstuff82 (99)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I agree that family comes first. When things get bad, you can always rely on those people around you for support, mostly your family. I also wish people will understand that family is more important that money. Money can be replaced, your family can't.
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
I really admire people who give priority to their own families over their own personal comforts. Yes, I am one of those who really give priority to my family. For me, family comes first! Everything and anything that we do is for, by and of the family. Come to think of it, my family is my reason for my existence, for what I am. They are my past, my present, and my future.
@jb_vete (323)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Family first for me too. But i believe it's not applicable all the time too. There are also situations wherein it needs to be "myself first". You just need to do make a right judgement. Because when situations do come like that, I think your family will be happy for you too, because they as you are, want everyones welfare.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
5 Oct 08
If i'm married, it will be family 1st, for me ^_^ The reason why ple get married is because our partner is the most important person to us.. ANd most of the time, without them, without their support, we won't be able to be standing here today.. ANd family love is different from love.. The kind of support and care can only be shown and appreciated thru actions, and not words ^_^
SO being with a family, it means that there's no more, U, instead, it has become, US.. Thus, whatever we do, other than affecting ourselves, it will indirectly affect our family too.. SO it's always family 1st ^_^
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
yeah i do believe in family comes first. but i am guilty though that my lovelife my self interests gets priority though if that priority will get in the way permanently to my relationship with my family then i will going to give that thiing that gets first place in my life than my family.
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@darlenelove (80)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
yes, im one of that. but there are times that you cannot met the schedule of family outing. you have a job and you dont have enough time to travel back home. i think our family should understand our situation that we cannot easily live work just to be there in a family acitivity.
@cossacks10 (502)
• Morocco
5 Oct 08
There is some times I hate being a member of my family ,specially when they miss understand me ,but , in general the family is something so important in life of each of us,without it who knows what the life would look like , so I really do respect people who put their families in first places and let their needs the lastest.
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@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
If the time comes when I really have to settle down and with a family of my own, I will make sure that I will always have them first, but, right now, since I am the only one left without a family of my own, I still can say that I am a "family first" being. I feel more secure when I am with my parents rather than ahmmmm "mingling" around.
@creative_genius (992)
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6 Oct 08
Yes family always come first, I have grown up watching my Mum prioritise our needs and I guess I am pretty similar. When I have a family I will probably be the same!
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@jimssaftytips (507)
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6 Oct 08
My problem my whole life was about family and nothing for me. My immediate family was always sick and i didnt get to have aany girlfriends when i was growing up. Thats y its so hard now to find out alot of things about myself if i could handle. I never had my first true g/f til i was 24 and it didnt work out to well. My other g/fs didnt work out to well either. Cuz i suppose i couldnt handle the emotional attachment that goes with it cuz i was always afraid they would leave me if i wasnt there and i was having a hard time holding on to them cuz of insecurities of my past and it has really hurt me in so many ways
@sweetbabyjane (1929)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Yes, It is family first here at my house. I have had a problem with a man that has wanted to be my boyfriend because of my family. That is why I do not have a good relationship. Family comes first.
@glords (2614)
• United States
6 Oct 08
Family First is a good way to live, however you cannot let yourself be walked on. Its not healthy for your family to use you as a doorstop. If you have a child who is constantly borrowing money, or asking to be bailed out of jail, I think the best advice is tough love. Value yourself, and teach your children to value you as well. I also feel this is the same if the parents are using the child as a doorstop.
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