what is the best way to deal with a bully at work?
By clarkmy
@clarkmy (428)
China
October 5, 2008 5:49am CST
2month ago,i had a job at kfc,i worked with a fellow fancies himself as being 'open-minded'and 'tolerant.'but the reality is that he is smarta'know -it-all who gets a great deal of delight out of being abrasive verbally abusive.
his idea of a'conversion'is to lecture at people,and when they disagree with him,or simply get tired and get up and walk out,he dismissed them as stupid and unenlightened,his patronizing attitude is really grating.
when you point this out of to him,he becomes hyterical and defensive,and says that we'need to lighten up',and that he is the only'only kiding'
my guess is that he is bery insecure,and knows deep inside that his behaviour is wrong and that nobody likes him,so he keeps lashing out because he can't deal with his own faults,still,i am not sure that is license to be forgiving and;take the high road'.facts,he is a twerp who needs to have his clock cleaned,,,,obviously not physically,because it is not worth losing our jobs for,,,but once-and for-all in a verbal rebuke that lets him know we are fed up and we are not kiding
what are you thought?
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9 responses
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
You are quite right that he is very insecure and his being aggressive and know it all attitude is just a cover up because deep inside he feels so inadequate that he thinks he has to try to intimidate everyone so his insecurity will not be discovered. He is actually a coward and the best thing to do is to stand up to him be firm and show that you are not at all intimidated. if he is wrong tell him so and you don't have to agree with him if he is wrong even if he insists on doing so. Call his bluff and you will see that he will be the one to step back. Good Luck.
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
5 Oct 08
Well that depends if you really need that job or love that job yea . why not try telling your boss of his poor attitude , if he dosen't care about it . Then prehaps leave the company yea no point staying in such organization when it has attitude problem.
@wanderer086 (759)
•
5 Oct 08
If everyone are getting up and walking out on him you need to get together and speak to his boss about his attitude as he obviously has not listened to what you have been saying. You do not have to put up with this abuse. There are laws against it. If you do not get any luck from his boss you need to tell him that you will speak to someone who knows about employment laws. I hope you everything works out for you.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
I dont tolerate bullies so as much as i wanted to control my temper i cant also just let someone pissed me off everytime i am at work. And yes for sure i will say something very insulting to him if that happens to me. A person can be smart without rubbing it to the face of other people, he is just arrogant and full of himself. He thinks is better than everyone. But the truth is everyone is disgusted at him and thinks lowly of him. So the best way to deal with them is let them know that you are not intimidated by them.
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
6 Oct 08
There are a lot of good suggestions above, but one thing that has not been suggested is: besides talking to the supervisor, ask him/her if they could please not scheduel you and mr. bully to work the same shift any more. Tell the supervisor that if he/she can't or doesn't want to do that, you will leave.
Maybe you can get 2-3 others to do the same, and if they think that they're going to lose several workers because of one trouble maker, they may either change your shifts, or let the trouble maker go.
There are plenty of jobs out there in the fast food market, and you are entitled to be shown respect from your co-workers.
@glords (2614)
• United States
5 Oct 08
That sounds really irritating. I think you did the right thing by confronting him. If continues to bully you, I would report it to your supervisor. Tell them that he is verbally abusive, I am willing to bet that the supervisor will give him a good warning, if he continues to bully you he probably will loose his job. If he isn't bullying you anymore, I'd let your co-workers deal with their own problems. I hope that things get worked out for you. Good luck and happy mylotting.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
5 Oct 08
The next time he feels the need to be abusive tell him if he continues to do so you will file harrasment charges on him. There are many laws that protect people in the workplace and we don't have to put up with such abuse. Tell the boss if this behavior doesn't cease you will be forced to file a lwasuit. If the boss doesn't correct his behavior, move on with the lawsuit.
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
6 Oct 08
I'd say go straight to management and tell them the situation. Not the shift managers i'm talking the guys that own the dang KFC. Usually if you start talking equal opportunity rights you can usually get them to have a sit down with the guy causing the issue. I mean it's KFC if all else fails just go get a job somewhere else like Burger King, or Taco Bell.
