Fight, Fight, Fight

As far as I know I don't know anyone who is bi-polar but the way your brother's girlfriend act I do agree it seems like he is making matter worse. She acts out and gets rewarded??? You reward for good things not bad things. Heck, she will keep doing those things just to get what she wants. If anyone ever talked to may mother or about my mother like that I would have really been hurt and upset and I don't see how your brother can allow her to do this.

Anyone calling my mom names would probably have to fight not only me, but a whole lot of other people - every body I know that knows my mom likes her. However, if I had been in your shoes I'd've gone after her to. I'd've also told your brother to let her go off down the street - that he is encouraging her behavoirs. She needs help - and some good meds.

My boyfriend throws the same fits. But you know what I don't encouge it, by giving him anything. I fight back with him and give him a good a*s kicking then he clams down and says he is sorry then he knows I'm not putting up with it. And then he starts showing me a little respect.

Don't worry about her! She's just a nut job like you said. It's all hormones and bad upbringing. Her mama didn't teach her no manners. She'll calm her a*s down when she has her first baby. Hopefully she'll have the baby with another guy (not your brother) and you won't have to deal with her anymore.

I hate when someone hurt or humiliated my mom.I would do the same as you did.I may say your brother is not helping her but instead he is tolerating her.I can understand he don't want to hurt her also.But disrespecting your mother is not a good attitude.Later on she will become your sister in law and if no one will make her realized her mistakes then she will continue to be like that.

I had a daughter in law just like her. She didn't sware thought which really surprised me. I'm tired of people who are spoiled and selfish, claiming they have the mental illness, bipolar. That's just an excuse to be rude if you ask me. She mananged to ruin every holiday and every birthday party by making everything about her until one birthday party for my grandson I told her "You know what, it's not about you today, it's ______s birthday and you are not going to ruin it, if you don't like it you can go home." Shortly after that they broke up. I also had a problem with my son in law. They were staying with me and he was turning my yard into a junk yard. He brought an old junk car without even asking and I lost it and told him to get rid of it NOW. He stood in my house, got im ny face and said "Shut the f___ up before I punch you in the face!". Wow, I about lost it and we got physical. Me in my 40s, he 20. I don't know why I didn't call the police, but they ended up moving out on the spot. Your brother should stop rewarding her for disrespecting his family and your mother should stop spoiling him and tell him she has to respect her in her home or get out.

Your brother is just continueing the spoiling started by her parents. If someone doesn't let her know she is not the centre of the universe she will carry on behaving like a two year old. That won't be good for her or the people around her. I think this is a 'cruel to be kind' situation. Let her run off and leave her. There is never any need for bad language and this girl needs to be taught how to respect others.

People will a mental illness such as bi-polar are hard to live with. Let alone deal with. Everyone has feelings of happiness and sadness once in a while. Feeling high and feeling low are part of life. But for someone with bipolar disorder (sometimes called manic depression), these feelings can be extreme: These ups and downs can be too much for a person to cope with. They can interfere with daily life. Sometimes they can even be dangerous. Bipolar disorder is a lifelong condition. It doesn't go away. but there are ways to help control it. These include medicine, talk therapy (psychotherapy), and learning more about the condition so you can take care of yourself. Is your brothers girlfrind getting any of these types of help? If not maybe you should talk to your brother about it in order to get her the help she needs.

Well when it comes to pp who are bi-polar, they are hard to deal with when off their meds and it does not sound like she is taking them at all. If she is she should be given a stronger dose. I know ppl who are bi-polar and do not act like this unless they are off their meds. Most bi-polar ppl don't remember what happened during on of these so called fits so it's hard to say he is giving into her and that is probably why she acts as though nothing has happened. When you said she took off running one day and the next she was calling you up I am betting that is why. She does not remember what she is saying or doing. I would first talk to your brother and ask him if he actually sees her take her meds and if he doesn't someone should be watching her when she takes them to be sure. alot of bi-polar ppl won't admit to having a problem or they admit it to your face but don't believe it so they decide not to take their meds.

That girl would have been eating pavement the very first time she called mom a b*tch if I had been in your shoes! OMG! How disrespectful! Heck, my sister in law called HER mom a stupid f'ing b*tch in front of me, and I went off on her big time (and mom in law just sat there with a great big grin on her face). I agree with you that your brother is encouraging her more than discouraging her for her behavior. He needs a good bust in the chops right along with the g/f.

Your brother "rewarding" her for her bad behavior will only make her do it more. I had this problem with my youngest brothers wife. She was a sl*t and was using him for his money. He worked 7 day/12 hors a days. She would keep him up all night and she would sleep all day. She wouldn't cook for him or clean house. Never made him a lunch or anything. She got his check and would go to bars and blow his check on other people. I got this info, from her own mouth. I was mad as a wet hen. I told her she was a wh**e and not good to my brother, they were staying in my home. I knocked the sh*t out of her...knocking her off of the porch. I told her and my brother she was not welcome in my home any longer. That he could stay there but not her. I hated what she was doing to him and I hated putting him in that position, but if he was going to stay with her after learning what he did about her then that was his choice. And he was going to live with it. But not in my home. That I guess is what your family needs to do. You can't and don't have to put up with the things your broters girlfriend is dishing out to the family because he chooses to be with her. That is his choice not you alls. If he wants her then so be it. let them go some place and live together, but not causing havoc in the homes of the rest of the family. It is not fair to your mother, father, and grandmother for them to have to deal with this women and her mouth and her attitudes. She is playing on you alls love for your brother to get her way. And she's getting it to you alls expense and that is not fair to you all. You all as a family need to sit down with your brother and if your parents won't do it, then you need to and let him know that what he is subjecting your parents and granmother to is not right. He knows his girlfriend haas problems. Having her going off on everyone is not fair to them. He needs to move her to a place of their own. Therfore, stopping some if not most of the bickering and problems from them constantly being around each other. And couple or any grown person has to have a place of their own. This is just self preservation. They will continue to have problems and they will exculate until the couple moves out. Yes, your brother is encouraging her bad behavior by taking her out. She knows she will be rewarded by bad behavior so she will do it more. You need to bring this up to him, or maybe someone else does. Since you have an adverse reaction to her and he knows this. So what you say in anyway negative about her he may not listen to or take as you being against her. But you need to talk to your parents and tell them your concerns. And she will only get worse to get more from him. Good luck to you and your family. She also needs to see a doctor and get on meds if she is bi-polar.

[i]Hi twoey, ohhh....your bother is just tolerating her attitude and it's not helping at all for her to overcome such behavior! Anyway, If someone will call my Mom like that, she will not regret and will get all the slap and kick from me! LOL! I hate to be around with people like that! SO far, in the family, we don't have the same problem...I have only one sister and married now...we are actually small family, only 6 this time and hopefully, have kids soon to add more members![/i]

if her moods flip flop that radically,it sounds like she's not on meds. a lot of it is her sickness-i had 6 relatives with manic depressive (i prefer the old term as more accurate)and they were very very hard to be around when they weren't under treatment.they could be happy one moment,then threatening to kill you the next. there was a major difference when they were on lithium tho,the moods were stabile.

It's too bad you can't put people like that in institutions and force them to get help. She needs it badly. I hope your brother is able to either get out of that relationship or get her some help. Your mom shouldn't put up with that. Maybe if she kicked them out your brother would be forced to do something for his girlfriend.

I think your brother is spoiling her rotten. The girl needs a bite of a reality sandwich, and maybe your foot up her @$$ might not be a bad idea, if that's what it takes. I have a bi-polar step-daughter, and she used to have some major swings. Unfortunately it took a near-fatal car accident to straighten her out, but now she is doing fine, because her survival skills have kicked in, and she knows what she needs to do to keep her grip on life, because she does not have the abilities and privilages (independence) she did before. She is still very independent, but she needs help now with things that were perfect only three years ago. She's now paralyzed from the waist down, but does great, and has a wonderful outlook on life. As much as her father and I hate that she had the accident, we both realized that the way her life was going, that was probably the only thing that could happen, to get her to stop and think. Sad but true. We're still NOT glad it had to happen that way, though.

I have a hair trigger temper myself ,so the First time she called my mom a b*tch in my presence, she would have woke up in the hospital. Or I wouldn't acknowledge her existence ever again. If she were bleeding in the street, I would walk by. I would tell my brother he can hang out with me Or his girlfriend but Never us two together, ever.Knowing my mom, she would have kicked her out the house and my brother would have a huge choice to make.

Yes. I separate myself from alot of people. They like to get on my last nerve and push all of my wrong buttons. I stay away from them to keep from hurting them or their feelings. I also stay away to get peace of mind also.

She sounds like a two-year-old that needs a good spanking... Why isn't she on medication?

Hey Twoey68: It's been a long time since I've logged onto MyLot but your post forced me to respond. First, I can't believe that your mom allows your brother and his girlfriend to live in their home. This is especially true considering the girls outburst. Unless your brother is paying your mom rent ect. and your mom needs this financial assistance, he needs to grow up, act like a man and get his own place. Further, I can't believe that your brother allows his girlfriend to speak to your mom and you like that and by him not taking the appropiate action against her, he is only encouraging her actions. HE IS AS GUILTY AS SHE IS !!!!!!!!!!!!!. As for the girlfriend, if several of you would hold her down and wash her mouth out with soap every time she cursed y'all, I'll guarantee she'd soon stop. If she is using bi-polar as a excuse for her actions, she's lying. I know too many other people with bi-polar and they don't act like that. Let me clarify that, if she is being treated for bi-polar and taking meds, she wouldn't be actting out like that as a result of her bi-polar. Instead, I would bet she came from a family that's somewhat dysfunctional, where cursing and outburst were common place. It sounds to me that both your brother and his girlfriend has a lot of growing up to do.

Just reading this I am with you all the way, I wish I could help you beat the snot out of her, I think she is using her condition to get away with these things she knows that your brother is going to take her side. It sounds like she doesn't have any home training to me. If she needs to be on medication she should see a doctor. I would not be another b____h, and she would have to put up or shut up. Enough is Enough