Welcome to myLot! Oh, You've been here longer than me, never mind...

Guess he doesn't have the time or possibly the desire as some of us do. My guess is he has a wife & several children with very little time to get on here. I was not judging him. Once I realized the situation, I just backed out & went on to another discussion. I just learned it is NO wiser to assume in myLot than it is in real life!!!

I think you already know what they say when people assume, LadyM. I've never had anyone correct me if they've been here longer than I assumed. But one time I decided to check someone's profile and voila! She has been here for months and I was embarrassed. So I try to remember to check a person's profile page first before doing so again but my hands (and mind) are quick to type the welcoming words. At least you were being helpful. And that he was polite when he said no. I hope he was polite. Thanks for sharing, LadyM.

Yes he was polite but I got the message!!! I ALWAYS do my best to NOT a$$-u-me.

Yes, I will remember these two things when I find myself wanting to welcome someone here on myLot: A) Only welcome them when they state that they're new to this site. B) Only welcome them after checking their profiles and making sure that they've only been myLot members for a week. With the other responders, I now know I'm not the only one, Checapricorn. Thanks!

We have similar experiences then, myliezl. Now I'm going to be more conservative with the welcomes... I will only whip those out for those who are really newbies...

Not now thank you... I just finished off a dozen homemade applesauce/carrot cupcakes with cream cheese frosting, yum! I will not be ready for anymore for at least a month. You make a very pleasant and hospitable welcomer though Ms. Saintly!

Nooooo!!!!! Why do you have to do that? Why do you have to mention that you just had cupcakes! And CREAM CHEESE FROSTING!!!!!!! Why? Why? Why? I want me some cupcakes. Sob!

Do you want cupcakes or not?

Excellent! I am glad for you. I am not sure what I need to do in order to get better pay but I am on my way in doing this better

I just post my discussions and respond to others'. I just had a lot more time last month! Take care, ShellyB.

Heheh, I'm getting paid this month too and I've been here for a little more than a month. Thanks ShellyB.

Yes, I do believe that people are out there living their busy lives thus keeping them from posting away here on myLot. I hope you're happy, hongqistreet, when I welcome you to myLot right now!

Thank you KrauseHome for making me feel a little better about myself regarding this issue. I'm still going to welcome the new users!

Ahaha, I probably would be one of those who would say that to your friend, maximax8. And last month, I was one of the crazy myLotters who made a lot of responses in one day and reached 100 posts in no time. I had a lot of time! Thanks!

Ahaha, I would have welcomed you right away if I came upon you somewhere else in myLot instead of this discussion. I guess you should be welcoming me. Take care yellowpaisley!

Sometimes they slip up and "sign" the post with the old name, oops. Sometimes it is easy to tell because they have a certain circle of friends who follow them around. Sometimes they do it within the rules, as in the case of women who have abusive acquaintances and have foolishly revealed too much personal information online so that they have to ask staff to allow them to start over with a new identity, and let's face it, some people cheat. But everyone has a unique vocabulary and syntax, which over time become in my view a bit like a fingerprint and can be matched up. Some people also make very peculiar spelling mistakes which in combination give them away. That is how teachers often know when a student forgets to put a name on a paper whose paper that was just from reading it.

How can you tell if someone changed their identities here on myLot? You come across them in several discussions and figure it out? Or their profiles pages are the same? Hmmm. And how can one change identity here?

You have very good observational skills, drannhh. I'm still honing mine. I once had a classmate who copied everything from another classmate's homework including her name. lol.

Hello there jerzgirl who still feels like a myLot newbie once in a while... I've just gotten to checking profiles after I had that realization that not all of them may have joined myLot recently. But you do have a good point there. I guess if you don't check in on myLot regularly then you could get a little rusty with the rules and other policies and even be unaware of them. I'm sure there are many more realizations coming my way here on myLot. Thanks for sharing!

Hello capirani, Thank you for sharing your thoughts. For a while there, I didn't have anything else going on in my life so I myLotted away! Like I said in post#12 in this discussion, I will definitely welcome people when they state they're new. If not, I will check if they are really new (a week new or so).

Hello Cowboy... like what some of the earlier posters here said, these people have other things to do than just myLot. Some of them may only have access to the internet every now and then and for a limited time too so they can't myLot a lot like we do. Thanks for your time!

Well, then, lavendar, come be my friend. And welcome to myLot!

I was conservative with the number of posts I gave there. I do it sometimes when I see someone with less than a hundred posts but I told myself 50 would be more acceptable. Long-term or new, I hope they feel good when they are being welcomed! It's better than nothing. What's that, Irishfrndly? I didn't quite get it.

Yes, I will remember this, Hatley! I know I can just imagine people coming home tired from work staring at the computer and the last thing they would want to do is stare into their own computers at home. And thank you for welcoming me to your club!

Yes, SomeCowgirl. You are right to say that very few tend to have these lower number of posts in a given time but they're still out there! If you're not sure if you've done it or almost have done it, then maybe you have done it! You and your fiance take care!

I'm glad I made you realize this, kylie. But who are we to say that the person with fewer posts don't like when we welcome them regardless of how long they've been here on myLot. I hope they just find it amusing and "welcoming". Keep on welcoming, kylie and thanks!

Hello Opal. See, if you didn't tell me you've only been here for a few months, I would have assumed (again) that you've been here longer than that. But the longer we are in myLot, the more we notice this nuances or facts that some people get to post so much more and in a faster time than others. I've only been here for a month and half (I think) and for others, that could still be considered a newbie technically but like you, I've been typing my little fingers off that whole time. Get some sleep, Opal. myLot will be here tomorrow (it's already a new day in NY). Hello morninglory! Have your boyfriend ever woken up to you still typing away in the computer? And you're right, welcoming someone is not such a bad thing to do!

Hello bsa... if you didn't say you were new, I wouldn't have checked your profile and wouldn't find out that you just joined a week ago. From your 153 posts, I would have easily assumed that you've been here longer than that. So Welcome to myLot!!!!! I think some users get distracted with their busy lives, work and other stuff to actually spend a lot of time here like we do.