I Dont like You, Okay You Are An old busyBody

hey Hatley, although i didn't view that particular discussion coz i just logged in an hour ago after been almost a week out of reach... but, why they have to quarrel? we are here to have self-respect over what we are doing...we should consider each other as a family not as an enemy...it is so hateful and stressful to have such a thing every where we happened to be Smiley,

Hi Hatley, Maybe stress, the fact that they think they are right no matter what, no respect for one another, no respect for each others views ... who knows. It's hard to understand the context of the reply because it's typed, and it may mean something totally different to one person but upsetting for another. Sometimes people need to just agree to disagree and move on. It's hard to do that if one keeps going on and on and on and then name calling comes in and sometimes they end up saying things they regret and then their friendship is scarred.

Most people here are very nice. Its bound to happen that once in awhile someone will get an attitude. Its just cool off before you type,, think before they type instead of afterwards.I wouldnt let it effect me negatively, just keep on posting! The best way to handle it is to be a good example to others. Dont you think?

I honestly have no idea. I guess it happens to the best of us at times. People tend to push the wrong buttons with us and it sets us off for a bit, I think. Wrong time, wrong place, wrong wording.

Oh my! That's a shame. I have not seen the discussion in question, but I'm sure that I will. Please tell me it wasn't my discussion it happened at. I haven't been back to my discussions today, cause I'm catching up on my friend discussions. I'll have to go check.

I believe that it is harder to gauge responses on the internet than with a face to face conversation with people. Sometimes we inadvertently make a comment just out of frustration, not really aimed at anyone, and it is taken the wrong way. I think the best thing we can do as "friends" is admit that we were mistaken, take what ever blame and go on. Sometimes it takes the bigger person to just admit it shouldn't have happened in the first place. Too bad we just could see each other sometimes. Then the tone and feel of the conversation is more apparent. Too bad that these two people got into an arguement on the site. They could have taken to private IM for the sake of everyone else.

The Site is falling apart Hatley it is not being monitored properly that is the biggest Problem, they are going after the wrong People as they do not check things when a report comes in they just delete and it is now causing Ill feelings, I am not here much any more and will not be till things are under control here, I have 4 other Sites which I enjoy and where I spend most of time now Hugs

[i]Hi Hatley, with 140,000 plus members all over the world, I guess that is very common, very true in our real life! I haven't seen this post I guess, but, anyway, in my case, I am here to earn, learn and enjoy and I don't like to ruin my day arguing with anyone as long as I am not being verbally harass or attack! [/i]

I have been a lurker here for so long and I have seen so many funny posts. What prevented me from responding or starting posts that are controversial is that there are many narrow minded people here. They thought they are smart but is not. Just reading their posts makes my day whenever I have time to lurk. Maybe, just maybe, this site is a magnet for losers like them. I can not see any reason why there is a need to say bad words here when there are a lot of advantages when you are kind to each other.

I try and do my best to avoid such discussions. I saw the one you are referring to, was tempted to post but decided to keep my nose out of it. A few years back I belonged to an online support group for one of my illnesses. One day a poster made some stupid comment, and it offended several people. Before you knew it a huge fight had started with all of the members. Insults were flying left and right. Finally after about a month of this everyone, including myself, left the group. Over time I've gone back to search for that group and have found it was entirely deactivated because of that. A shame really. But sometimes people just don't know how to read discussions without reading more into it between the lines. Its not like we can SEE the people so we don't know what they intend in their comments. I must admit that some of these discussions (but not the one mentioned) I have reported before. Simply because I get tired of seeing back stabbing and nastyness all over the place. People need to keep things in perspective, grow up a bit, and show more maturity than they often do on here.

i have no idea. i hope the problem makers here will soon just quit. i loved this when i first started thinking its the best place ever, now im hearing its changing and going down the tubes. which makes me wonder sometimes if my luck just rubs off on anyone i deal with even online

I have also believed that the myLot members have been pretty nice so far. I have been back here for about four months now and never really had a serious run in with another person. I have seen some discussions get a little heated but I am not sure of which one you are speaking of. We are here to express opinions and views because as people it is just our natural way. You say it was a benign discussion but apparently these two took it too far. I guess there are some subjects that might ignite some personal issues for someone and they can get offended pretty easily. I myself try to be as courteous in my responses as possible and try to help with my opinions if I can. I do have my own feeling toward things but I am not going to start any war of words. I come here for fun and correspondence and of course to make a little extra money. Take care.

I don not konw much about it, but i think it is good.

Anger is a normal reaction. Everybody feels it specially when sensitive buttons are pressed. Mylot is not the right venue for anger release. You're right, we are usually wonderful interesting people, let's not disrespect each other by making harsh derogatory remarks, it spoils everything. Everyday I look forward to this visit in mylot, but to tell you honestly every time I come across an unfriendly exchange of harsh words I get disappointed. The world is noisy nowadays because evrybody wants to talk, nobody wants to listen, a simple talk turns into an argument and eventually ends up into a fight . C'mon, we're all tired from a days work...kind friendly words will really make our day. What do you say.....?

I have not seen one of those discussions yet and hopefully I won't find one which will inflame me. I know that to my best judgment it's best to keep it neutral since we're in a professional as well as social atmosphere. Sometimes that could be a way to get attention and cause problems but it's unplanned for I hope. I have be blessed to find nice people around adding them to my friend's list and so far love MyLot's idea of a letting loose and earning money. The money part could also be a driving factor to post passionately but it's all for fun. Even if I'm not getting paid, at least I've build some credential. That's important isn't it? Other than that, it's like walking down the street and see a fist fight to only see the smoke die down later. You need a little of that now and then to remind yourself why you're here and your purpose if any. A justification perhaps? Have a good day!

Hi Hatley, Like in life you get it in myLot life too, it is very sad and annoying that these two should be arguing within someone elses discussion. My suggestion to them is that if they want to do it do it elsewhere, by PM or within their own discussion between the two of them as it not worth others participating if it will be delted anyway eh! The majority of us here are peace loving and I tend to stick with that type of discussion myself. Huggles. Ellie :D

I'm sorry that I was not able to spot that flaming war around here so I can't really give my opinion on what could have triggered the word war between the two. However, in my observation, I've noticed that misunderstanding occurs when someone just butts in rudely and contradicts the respondent even though he/she is not the one who started the post. I encountered one person like that. She just butted in rudely to contradict the opinions I shared. Of course I could have tolerated her if she came in with politeness. I'm open to opinions different than mine and would gladly entertain people butting in to contest my opinion for as long as she remains polite and the discussions remains a healthy one. I however did not lose my poise... I gave that woman some sharp reminders but I did not allow myself to go down to her level. Well Madam... I believe the cyber world is a good testing ground of our patience. People here do not share the same opinions all the time and respecting the opinion of other people is the key to keeping the friendly atmosphere of myLot. In whatever circumstances, it's nice to remain calm. Remember we should be counting friends not enemies whether in the cyberworld or real world! Have a nice day!

Sounds pretty imature to me. Like little kids is right! There are so many on here now and populating fast. When I started on here the population was about one fifth of what it is now. I am glad the discussion was deleted. Too bad, but I hope soething was learned from the occurance.

Hi Hatley, I will have to look for that discussion now I'm curious. I myself have never come across that sort of discussion on here before like yourself I normally find folk to be very nice but have witnessed it on another site I used so I stopped using it because it never looks good on the net, there is no tone so when we are reading it we could be making it out worse than what it is if we put our own tone in it. People aren't always nice none of us are we all have differing moods on us, we are a mixture but I have noticed this does not come across well on the net, it is very one dimensional.

We are entitled to our own opinions! We have the freedom to say all we want. It's just that we should be very cautious in giving our personal views because sometimes what we want to impart may not appear as acceptable as the other. We can be too much frank at times but we can say it a manner that is highly understood and appreciated in the end. Fellow mylotters, stay cool! Happy mylotting!