stop complaining

my boys are little, but my husband and i instill morals and values in them- we have from a very early age. my 1-year old already helps pick up his toys, and i constantly get comments on how polite and well-behaved my 3-year old is. i don't say this to toot my own horn or anything. i have made mistakes as a parent, and my boys are far from perfect. but they get disciplined when needed, which is the problem with alot of kids nowadays- you are right about that. but that does not mean i never complain about them. as i said, they are not perfect. as much as i love my children, they do get on my nerves at times, and i do get stressed out. name one mother that doesn't and i will tell you that she is not human. and i am curious as to how many children you have also...

I couldn't agree with you more except...sometimes nomatter how well you instill those values, sometimes your children are alittle more impressionable to peer pressures and don't hold to those values as much as they could. But I agree. My children are very sweet, loving children and my older one minds me better than anyother child I've came in contact with. It blows my mind that these kids will yell at their parents and tell them no and throw tantrums. All I have to do with my daughter is remind her of the consequences and how inappropriate her behavior is and she will fix it immediately. My little sister on the other hand will stand there and argue, throw her hand up in your face and act like a horrible brat. I don't tolerate her behavior so I don't see her much but I would absolutely be very hostile if my daughter acted like that. She would find herself getting very aquainted with the corner of the room. My husband is a stickler for respect as well. We put alot into our childrens education and values in hopes that when the time comes for her to make her own decisions, she will be smart enough to choose wisely.

i think the reason why is that they are secretly proud of their kids and want them to improve.

FIrst of all I think all people complain about things in their lives and seeing that children are on the top of the list normally in the mothers life, to me it is natural. Another thing is that kids arent perfect and neither are mothers or fathers. Yet again, children do have their own minds and dont always listen no matter what you do sometimes. We have 7 kids and are raising our granddaughter, we have had her since birth. I can tell you that their is trials along with laughter. Again very natural. Little ones arent the problem really, yes they try to see how far the can push at some points. Preteens and teens however can be a handful. Some do good and others not so good. I also dont believe that it is totally the parents. I have said before, if that was the case we wouldnt have 5 that are great, 1 that is so-so and yet another that we dont even want to go there! So far our granddaughter is awesome and at 21 months old helps clean up her own toys and listens for the most part. Does that mean we will never have problems with her? Of course not which will bring a mom to complain some. As I said people complain, it is human nature.

I agree, but there are other factors like peer pressure that make the child change their ways , it's normal for a parent to complain because like most parents it is difficult if you don't know what you're doing.

mothers are but human. we get tired, moody, etc like any other person and same with our kids. if they're not in the mood whatever good manners/proper values you instilled in them it all goes down the drain.

true, i didn't think mothers would complain that much. my kids are handfuls sometimes, but i do accept that fact. their boys and you can't do much about it. for the most part, they're good compared to others. they have their moments like most kids do, but their kids, what do you expect.

My situation is so unique - I just adopted a 15 year old girl from the foster care system. I've known her her whole life, but when she was taken away from her mother and plunged into the system, she became a different kid. She was 10 when they took her and I don't know exactly what they did to her, but she is NOT the same kid I knew before. I am having lots of troubles with her, but I love her dearly and am trying to be patient yet I insist on being firm and influential. Yes, she had a terrible life but she doesn't any more, so I won't keep accepting excuses. So I "complain" in order to get feedback and help with raising her the rest of the way. Trying to un-do the wrongs done!

There is a difference between complaining and venting. Sometimes mothers get overwhelmed by the huge responsibility of motherhood and just need to vent. Venting is healthy. You can instill proper values all of thier lives but the bottom line is when they become thier own person they will make their own decisions...some good some bad..just as we did during adolescence. Instilling proper values, unfortunately, doesn't always warrant good decisions. HAve a good day!

yeah but sometimes it's the pressure that mothers feel that's why they complain. it's not easy being a housewife and a mother as well

Hi there, Indira. I believe there is always something to complain about because it's a normal thing. But I basically, it is learning how to respond to these complains that really matters. As parents, we try as much as possible to communicate with our kids and listen to their complains (and also the other way around) and come up with the solution that we have all agreed upon. We don't always get the best result but we learn from it. Since our children are all teenagers we exercise our parental authority in them and set up boundaries. But we make sure that we are raising up mature individuals for sooner or later they will live a life of their own. We are not perfect parents we just ask God to teach us how to parent our kids.

Kids get attitudes and learn from everything they see and hear, unfortunately it's not just the parents that have the influence. I think moms need to "complain" or vent. That's how we share ideas, get advice, and frankly get rid of some of the built up stress.

i do agree .. i have 2 kids a boy and a girl nad i spend all the day and almost the night with them ... i do not sleep very well so i spend the next day complaining because i get tired ... but still they are the best of my life ..and this the life ,,,we were kids and now we are raising our kids and they will do the same