Frankly My Dears I Don't Give A Damn
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
October 11, 2008 4:11pm CST
How many of us have a 'don't care less attitude' or 'couldn't give a damn' or are able to shrug things off and think hey life is too short why worry?
Is it wrong to have a 'couldn't give a damn attitude' in life?
Do you realize that if you do have this attitude life becomes easier? Less stressful?
I did an experiment the other night, just a little one
I decided to adopt this attitude, with losing money on scam PTC sites, with the neighbours having a party and keeping me awake and with other things I have been worried about I thought, what's the point, why should I care?
Life is too short, so I laid there instead of tossing and turning (no pun intended, serious discussion here) and thought sod it, I couldn't give a damn about it, I don't care less
I slept soundly and straight away
So do you think it's positive having a don't give a damn attitude or do you think it's wrong?
If you have this kind of attitude does it work for you or do you know others, your family, loved ones for example, do they have this couldn't give a damn, it's only life attitude
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 Oct 08
Hi Wolfie as I was reading this a book by Richard Carlson came into my mind entitled 'Don't Sweat the small stuff' so I don't think it is about a couldn't careless attitude but more about care about the things that really matter and let the rest go that keeps us on a even keel and stress free. It can be a positive for the situation you describe in getting to sleep I agree. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 Oct 08
Hi Wolfie, I think I have read that one, The Power of Positive Thinking, Think and Grow Rich and many others and they are all extremely good and still hold many on my book shelf. I think my intuition on life stucks works the best of all though when I bother listen to that gut feeling on any situation that arises.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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12 Oct 08
Hi ya wolfie34
I think it is good to have a nonchalant attitude about most things as, like you say, life is too short to worry about stuff you can do very little about anyway. There are certain things I don't take a 'couldn't care less' attitude about but I think certain issues are serious, like my kids schooling etc. Generally though I am too laid back to care too much about stupid stuff!!
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@nannacroc (4049)
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12 Oct 08
It does help to have that attitude. My eldest daughter appears to have it but she cares deeply about family and friends, her philosophy is not to worry about things you can't change and to change the things you can. The problem with the real 'couldn't care less' attitude is that it is what has made our country full of selfish thoughtless people who truly don't care about anyone but themselves. Many people who meet me think I have that attitude but it's more that I find dealing with emotions is too much effort so I just pretend they aren't there.
@livewyre (2450)
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12 Oct 08
I often wish that I could be like that, but you have to ask where does that attitude stop? It's great to have a not caring attitude about the neighbours making a noise, but what if you started to feel that way about work?? and other stuff that matters. Do you think it's possible to choose which things you care about and which stuff you couldn't care less about, or does it have to be across the board...
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
12 Oct 08
Exactly, then it becomes selective doesn't it! It's one thing not caring about your job and another thing not caring about where the money is coming from now that you have lost your job through your uncaring attitude. So a line must be drawn. Good point, thank you!
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
12 Oct 08
People have ulcers, high blood pressure and all sorts of medical problems. I have even known people to have nervous breakdowns from worrying too much. Its just not healthy for anyone.Sometimes you just have to say ka sara sara whatever will be will be the futures not ours to see....lol
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
12 Oct 08
I am chuffed, you were singing that last bit to me weren't you, go on admit it! Do it again, I had my headphones on last time, I'll take them off so you can sing it, ka sara sara..... Worrying leads to stress leads to high blood pressure, strokes, coronary problems, the list goes on! You're right as always my friend!
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I'm glad you finally got some good sleep, wolfie34.
I have to have a 'don't care less attitude' about somethings in my life. It is simply the only way for me to survive. But I can't seem to have that attitude about life across the board.
I do have the attitude that we all should Live, Laugh and Love more and life would be much more tollerable. When I stay focused on that I tend to only worry about the things deserving of my concern.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
11 Oct 08
What's the saying, laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, that is so true, if you laugh at life and all the shite it throws at you, it makes a difference but you are right, it's difficult to have that attitude across the board, some things need to be taken more seriously.
@GardenGerty (161274)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I think there are times when that kind of an attitude adjustment is necessary. It does free you up to go about your day or night with much less anxiety. I save my caring for things that do matter, but those kinds of things you listed mean very little in the course of eternity. Right? Hundred years from now, what will it matter?
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
13 Oct 08
I wish I had more of a I don't give a damn attitude. Then I think life would be much easier for me. I have some stress in my life I could do without. My personal life is down the tubes and I am afraid to change things. I know I can do it, I just have to find the courage to do it. I have to break the heart of a man I loved dearly for the last 11 years and I don't know how to do that. I still love him, I am just not in love with him.
I used to have money worries that kept me awake but small miracles can happen. My mother decided to sell her house and give us kids each some money. So now I was able to pay off all of my bills and don't have that stress anymore. Mind you, I am now broke but at least my bills are all paid and I can start saving money.
I have no friends as I moved here only 6 months ago and haven't met anyone yet. Don't know where to go to meet people my age. I have a lonely life and wish I didn't give a damn, so it wouldn;t hurt soo much at times.
The problem is I do give a damn.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
it depends on the situation. there are hings that we can't just ignore and put off until some other time case it will actually make the situation worse. there are things or situations and problems in my life that would be better if i just forget about it and just let it be. so there are things that i have just cared less and there are things that i have given much attention to solve the poroblem and dealth with so that was why i was able to solve the problem like with some annoying people i agree that we should not care for them at all and not put any attention to them or else they will going to destroy our mood and our day. and so we will better off not minding them.
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@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I see what you're saying and I do agree that life would be so much easier if we adopted a worry free attitude about things, but, to me, the phrase, "I don't give a damn", sounds like I have a very negative attitude about life in the first place and everything and everybody can go to hell anyway.
Well, the bottom line for me is that I do care, as I'm sure you do, wolfe. I wouldn't say that, "I don't give a damn". Instead I would simply say that I don't worry about things so much. To me those are two different ideas.
Purrs,
Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@mands61123 (2098)
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12 Oct 08
i didn't used to but my boyf has this attitude very laid back so much so he's almost horizontal lol i have addopted quite a few of his tactics and must say i am alot happier not at his stage though i'd have to be in la la land to get to that. he truely is in his own world regardless does what he wants when he wants and it seems to work for him he wakes up happy everyday can't be a bad thing now can it!
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
11 Oct 08
It's a good attitude to have, because a lot of ignorant people are spurred on by other people getting bothered by it. Why, just yesterday, at school, we were sitting in the gym, on the stands, and my dear little "friends" were throwing pretzels at me and yelling my name. I didn't even look, because my Dr Phil book was really really more interesting than that. One came to sit next to me, because the failed plan to annoy me had to be continued of course. I told her I was glad she was cutting back on the pretzels and kept reading.
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@Lee_Rites (845)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I was just thinking that! People take things way too seriously. At some point you really have to prioritize the issues and only bother with the really important stuff.
BTW, mylot is not one of the really important things.
@hotshoes5000 (153)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
although a carefree attitude is good sometimes, i just can't do it all the time. IMO it is better to worry for things than not caring at all, i just don't let somethings drag me down except for a few hardcore problems
@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I have that attitude about many things. For instants, I don't take crape off anyone. I don't give a damn who it is, my husband, my boss, or any one. I'll tell them to kiss my @ss.
There are some things you have to take serious in life. I try to be as laid back as I can. I hate confrontation, and arguing. So, I really have a don't give a damn attitude about that. My husband can't stand it, he thinks I don't care. I really just don't don't give a damn.
@Metalchick (1391)
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12 Oct 08
I must admit I am a bit of a worrier and do strongly believe that if I didn't worry about things i'd cut my stress levels right down. It's just there's so many things in life that cause us all to worry nowadays...even the little things. The stupid thing is they never seem to turn out as bad as you imagine most of it's in the mind. I only wish I had a "couldn't give a dam" attitude as this would really make my life easier.
On the other hand I know many will have views a "don't give a toss" attitude is bad as it could lead to sloppy work or a very lax way to live their lives. However I really do think that adopting a little bit of this attitude might actually do many of us some good.
