Do you choose a side?

It's probably not a good idea to get involved in any arguement in which you weren't there. They have to work it out themselves, but if they want your support or a shoulder to cry on, by all means be there. I haven't bee in this situation, but it does sound kind of stressful. They probably put pressure on others around them to take sides, which is irresponsible.

when a couple breaks up it is like ending up some vows that they have taken when they married. well there are certain times when the differences arise in the relationship especially when they lack the ability to listen. and things do get hell if both of them cannot "listen" . so the best thing at that moment would be to listen to both of them and give them advices and also at the same time teach them to listen to each other. there is always a chance even if it seems that there is no chance ... so i should try to make them listen to each other and make them remember all the beautiful things that they have shared with each other so after that hope that they come closer to each other. you know miracles happen if you try .

If both of them are my friends I rather keep my mouth shut, I can listen and that is all. But I rather let them work it out on their own. It's their life to make things better and not for things to make it complicated. If they love each other, they should fix the issue,and problems cause all problems are temporary. I think relationship should be private not public. I'll just tell them to talk and seat down when they mellow down.I rather see them again together that will make me happy for them especially when I see they both love each other and desrves each other. What about you? Have a nice day!

No. I wouldn't choose a side. I will listen to both of them and try my best to stop breaking up if they are having kids. If I can't help them, I would take them for councelling. But if I feel that there is a valid reason for breaking up, I wouldn't give my opinion. I will just keep quiet.