Do you tell people you are 'okay' when you really aren't?

I do this, too. When someone upsets me or hurts my feelings, and then asks if i'm 'okay,' I say "Yes." I've always been one to hide my feelings. I guess since my father is like that, I got it from him. After my daughter goes to bed, and i'm depressed or upset, I write down my feelings in a journal. It allows me to get upset at the person who upset me without actually talking to them. It's a great stress reliever and I don't go to bed angry... at least not as much as I used to.

I do this more often than not. I have a lot of different conditions and I figure nobody but family really wants to hear of them, so when somebody asks I usually just say: 'doin' OK.' This is actually counterproductive sometimes because people I've known for a long time think I can still do things I physically can't anymore...so I try anyways. Some disabilities are not visible on the outside, so people think if you look 'good' that you are...even when that's not the case lol. I often think about people who ask 'how are you?' You know they don't really want to know, it's just been down-graded to a familiar greeting. That's why I just say: doin' ok...

I dont want to talk about -all my problems- so I think depending upon who we are talking to, we just make a long sory short and say, yea, im ok.I know thats most of the time, but there are a few people who I will just say you know its really not great because...we are just different with different people.

I've done this a lot even today I did. I'm trying to make the most of this weekend because it's our Thanksgiving weekend and I know I need to see the Dr. wednesday.

I will say I'm OK even when I'm not for 3 reasons. The first is sometimes, it's when people say "How are you?" but they don't really mean it as anything more than a friendly greeting. It kind of feels like I'm expected to just say nothing other than fine. The 2nd time is when I don't want to talk about what it is that is bothering me, even if it's really obvious that something is. Sometimes if the person pushes, I'll say I don't want to talk about it. And the last reason is if I don't know myself what is wrong. Sometimes I'll feel down but I don't really know why I feel that way. It's easier to say I'm fine rather than admit I don't know what it is that is making me feel that way.

I want to share if I feel so bad. But I am so selective in sharing. I think most people do that. Sharing is a good way to get our depression and sorrow to get rid of us.

I do this all the time. With really good friends who also tell me how they really are doing I do exchange my not so 'fine' problems.

Hi crazynurse... Yes. I Say this often. Most times I don't want to burden people with my problems. I prefer keeping them to myself. Or if I can't, I would find other ways to release whatever it is I'm feeling. Unfortunately, I have really insistent friends and loved ones. Lol. They know when something is wrong and they would not stop until they find out what's wrong.

I am not really the brave person to blunlty say or honestly say that im not feeling ok when im not, sometimes its ok to keep the pain or the hurt for myself of course i would want them to worry for me.

Hi Crazynurse, Yes, I always do that. Anyone with a heart enough to care will know I am okay. But if it is not someone close enough to me or someone I want to confide it, I will usually say I am okay. Even if they are the above, I usually say I am okay anyway. Unless I feel like talking, what's the point of saying I am not okay if no one bothers with me in the first place? Cheers!

There was a time when I tend to be like that, but now I have learned to be honest with myself like I tend to just keep quiet or just tell my friends to just let me be alone.

yup,i do this too.i think this is my way of avoiding conflicts with other people.but there are also times when i say no upfront.i just don't want to be caught in the middle if something bad happens.i try to be as helpful as possible but i also don't want to compromise what i believe and think is right.happy mylotting!

Oh I am a very straight forward person. I really say what I feel. If I don't feel okay and somebody would ask, I would really tell that person that I am not feeling good. I guess this is very important so that I will not be misunderstood. Now its already up to the person whatever he will react about what I said. At least I have express my self.

Yes,i do the same thing sometimes.When i was away from home,my parents called ank ake me about my situation,i always said 'Don't worry about me,everything is fine'.I don't want my parents to worry about my study,job or health.But to my closed friends,i will be honest and share my problems with them.

I just do it so that I don't have to talk to people LOL I get so tired of hearing everyone complain....

Don't we all do this? I feel that very few people really answer truthfully when asked how they are. I have a few friends that I would answer honestly, but to most people, I am okay, my life is okay, everything is okay. To tell the truth, compared to what a lot of my friends and acquaintances are going through, I am okay.