How long have you waited for someone?
By daydreamer20
@daydreamer20 (1688)
Malaysia
October 13, 2008 9:32pm CST
My first love - I waited for this girl for 2 years. She found herself a nice boyfriend in the 2nd year and she ended up as my good friend. I still loved her at that time, but I chose not to tell her. No point making her feel terrible.
And just recently, I just gave up after going after this girl for 3 years. She told me to give her some time. I gave up in April, and just last month, she told me she's getting married to another guy in November.
I know my case has been a little bit...extreme, especially when I'm a guy.
What about you? How long have you waited for someone?
8 responses
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I waited for 15 years. Yes, 15 years. Rather sweet story. When I was 14, my dad sent me to my mom's in Arizona. I met a boy there about 1 1/2 years younger. Bless his little heart for being such a sweetheart. Well, Daddy said that it was time to come home as school was about to start. I left for Ohio after 3 months of time with my beloved "john-john", before I could say goodbye. We never spoke after that until I got nostalgic last year and looked him up on myspace. I found him, he replied and we almost got married. We still love each other dearly like we did when we were little. The neat thing about not seeing each other was that we both look so much better than we did when we were little. It made for great conversation to catch up and learn about each other all over again. He just called and though we are still friends, there will always be a "YES" between us. I am looking for homes near him in Illinois right now. I would give anything to be his wife. I can't wait to tell my grandchildren about this sweet story. I only read about things like this in books and heard stories from my grandpa and now I have one of my own. Have a good night!
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Thank you for your blessings! I can only pray that people get the same thing out of life!!
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
Some people need to work for their happiness while some people don't. Pros n cons for each type. :) For you, the hard work would be to make sure that your relationship will remain this good for the rest of your life.
And I'm pretty sure you can do it ;)
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 08
O_O I thought those stories only appear in fiction or movies! Whoa. I'm so happy for you. Maybe this is what people say "if it's yours, it will always be yours no matter where you go and what you do" and in this case, I think you 2 belong to each other, no matter where you 2 are located.
Congrats! :)
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
well unlike you guys i only waited for him like 7 months. he is the perfect guy that i have always dreamed but i guess i am not the girl for him. i don't want to change every thing for him so that he can see me. he knows that i love him but he can't love me back. the guys is still living in the past, well i feel sorry for him for he is trap in the past. his story was kind da sad. his girlfriend married another guy. he was even invited to come. may be that is why he can't move on, still living in the shadow of the past. but then again i have to embrace reality that we will never be together for i can't wait for him forever. it just hurt too much. now i have to let go. now i am starting to embrace a life again with out him for he was never mine in the first place.
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
well i feel sad for you too... it took you 3 years to wait for someone who blind enough to see how great you are. well at least now your back on your feet to take the world.
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
I agree with you. There are people who live in the past. But we shouldn't be like them. We control our life and we have a long journey to travel. Most of us are still young. Every setback brings a lesson, the problem is whether we can realize the lesson and learn from it. As for your friend, nobody can change him except for himself. If he continues to be like this, i think he'll drain his life energy away.
And it's good for you to know that you should give up even after 7 months, as compared to my case...3 years. :)
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
Yeah, I am and I'm glad for myself as well. Life is happier this way. I still have my family, friends and colleagues. ;)
@ozkid92 (549)
• United States
15 Oct 08
yah i know what you mean. theres this girl i've been thinking about since i met her a couple years ago in our first year of highschool. but she was never really the "dating" type. she never talked about guys she liked like the other girls did, and she never had a boyfriend.
at least not untill i was thinking about asking her out. we have a class together this year so we started getting closer as friends, then just when i wanted to ask her out i find out from a friend that she has a boyfriend.
stupid thing about it is, she barely knew the guy when he asked her out, and they see eachother maybe once every other day.
i guess we'll all just have to wait our turns, right?
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 08
Yeah, our turn will come when the time is right, i guess...or that's what I wanted to believe anyway. Hahaha. Time to move on. There are still plenty of fishes in the sea.
And look at it from a different perspective, at least you tried to ask her out and luckily your friend informed you that she has a boyfriend. :) You didn't spend more time waiting.
@chiaeugene (2225)
• China
14 Oct 08
for a moment i thought u mean waiting time for someone and i was about to reply 3 hours for one of my date. haha. but i am like you. i like a girl from my class for about 3 years in college but do not have the courage to tell her and i guess she felt it too and may be waiting for me to make a move which i choose not to. the reason was we became very close friend and i was afraid if i confess to her, i muight lose a friend so i kept it inside my heart. the feeling was horrible.
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
I did confess. I was willing to take the chance because I know that if I don't, I might regret for the rest of my life. That's why you should confess because if you don't, you will just be playing the guessing game - with yourself. That's what I found out.
If you want to say, say it. If you want to do, do it. Life is short. It's not that long for you to spend time guessing with yourself.
@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
14 Oct 08
I'm waiting for my friend to get back. He was very close to my heart,very special to me. We had few misunderstandings and we stopped speaking. I tried to patch up but in vain. He's not even in this country now. Just waiting for him to get back to me. Every day I keep checking my mail inbox to see if he has mailed me. My waiting continues. It's been more than a year. A miss him terribly,he doesn't seem to understand
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
I've once read this book about being brave to quit. That's how I made my decision to quit in April. If you really want something, try using method A to get it. If you cannot, try method B. But do give yourself a limit and if things don't improve after breaking that limit, then it's time for you to be brave and quit. Don't waste your life away for someone who doesn't appreciate you.
@indigolove (1)
• United States
17 Nov 08
More than 4 years. He was in the US army, I was in X country where he was stationed. We talked to each other & had a romance for 2 years. By the end of the 2nd year I got a scholarship to come to the US. We kept in touch for another year but he became distant emotionally & of course physically. He decided to end it by the end of the 3rd year. Now it's been almost 5 years & I still can't get over him or stop loving him! I guess there's something wrong with me but I still hold him in the highest regard. I wish he would realize that...
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
It's time to move on with your life. I know it's hard but draining your life away like this is just like wasting your precious life span away. Try to get involved in more activities and meet more friends. Surely there is one Mr Right out there waiting for you.
Cheer up :)
@DLi16Blue (38)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I've waited for someone for about 3 years. I always had a crush on her and she knew it. She was nice since I got the message that she wanted friendship from me. Eventually though she did get in a relationship with someone who didn't love her back. I felt so bad for her.
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
That's sad to hear. But it's her decision to go down that path. And now, as a friend of hers, you can only help her and be her listener. What might happen in the future, we'll never know. At least, now that you cannot be with her, you can still be her best friend.
@YONGNIAN1987 (157)
• China
14 Oct 08
in my eyes ,girls are so changeable,we can not know what she is really thinging now and later!so it is lucky to find a girl who love you so much ,but it is not always so bad when break up ,let's bygones be bygones ,get full prepear for your next girl,to make the best of you ,girls love heros who can make them feel safty,hehe !
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 08
Girls are very hard to understand at times. But some girls are just greedy. They want this, and they also want a backup plan. This also applies to guys. And maybe it's just plain bad luck to get involved in such incident. So as you said, let bygones be bygones. Life goes on :D