He's too cute to be my son. Excuse me?
By lilybug
@lilybug (21107)
United States
October 15, 2008 12:06pm CST
My son's father goes through phases where he says my son is not his. I have told him if he wants a DNA test then schedule it, pay for it, and Jeremy(my son) will be there with bells on. I have no doubt he is my sons father. NONE! Trust me if he could possibly belong to someone else I would have been blaming them YEARS ago. His most recent? He tells my sister that Jeremy could not be his kid because he it too good looking! What would your response to that be? Have you ever heard someone say that a kid is too good looking to be theirs? Anybody have a kid that the father denies is his?
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
15 Oct 08
My ex husband, whom I call "nuckfuts", has claimed in the past that he doubts he's the father of some of our sons. We have had 4 sons together. Like you, I know darn well that they're all his (short of immaculate conception of course ).
But now and then he would bring it up in discussions, and it would drive me bonkers. It's true, what can you say to that, other than, "Go get the tests done and see for yourself"? Of course, he never bothered. Gawd forbid he be proven wrong! LOL!
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@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
15 Oct 08
Well as a father, I can honestly say I've thought my daughter was too intelligent to my my ex wife's offspring, but being as I was there at the birth I don't think I can reasonably deny the maternity. I wonder if there is such a thing as a maternity test ;).
As for your son's father, sounds like he's got some serious issues.
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@austere (2812)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
maybe he is just joking..hahaha well, i know somebody who has been through that stage too.. my mom!hahaha our youngest sister is really cute.. cubby, fair with big black eyes thata are really expressive.. so there was one time when she was bringing my sister to the mall with her and she was just dress ordinary.. and there was somebody who ask her if she was nannying my sister!hahahaha she was not offended, but instead flattered..
@kimirio66 (94)
• New Zealand
16 Oct 08
How old is your son?...Gosh I hope he is unaware of his Dad's stupidity?...If my partner dared share a thought, of doubt where our son was concerned,to my sister...I would probably have to get him off the floor, where he lay, after she knocked him out!...What an insult that is to you!...Get the test done!...Prove your him wrong...Then kick him to the kerb!...State of him!
@kimirio66 (94)
• New Zealand
17 Oct 08
True?...At least he knows whose who,aye?...All the best with this topic...I hope he doesnt hurt you too much with his harsh way of thinking.
@jordan04n (463)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Sounds like your husband is fishing for complements on his looks. If he is serious then he has serious problems. He is calling you a ho every time he makes one of those remarks. Does he not realize this? He needs to shut it up before the boy grows up and hears his dad be ugly to you.
@jordan04n (463)
• United States
16 Oct 08
You are so right...he needs to show the mother of his child respect. Sorry I misunderstood the question....you are blessed to have a sweet son.
@Millie872 (42)
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16 Oct 08
Because our daughter looks very much like me and has the same personality and temperament, my husband sometimes makes stupid comments about her paternity. I tell him that he should be grateful she's not as horrible as he is.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I think he is just saying that because he doesn't want to face the responsibilities of being a father... if that happens to me... then good riddance to him... if he doesn't want to accept his child... then i don't think i want him to be recognized by my child as the father...
Having him around might do more bad than good to my child...
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Hmmm.. so confidence is not his strong suit, I'm guessing. Haha.
My husband couldn't for one second have a doubt. My son looks exactly like him and has since day one. Every day I look for something about me that might be starting to show up.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
16 Oct 08
Nope. He is just trying to wiggle out of the responsibility. It does not really matter what he thinks though. We went to court for child support years ago and he told the judge he did not want a DNA test. The judge told him that even if he finds out later that he is not his son he has to keep paying the child support anyway.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
16 Oct 08
Hello, Lilybug!
Wow, that sounds pretty strange. I'd take it as a joke, because when he says that it really seems like he is making a joke. I don't think he is talking serious when he says that. Did you hear him saying that? Because he might have told this to your sister as a joke, but when it got to your ears it had a different entonation.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
@marina321 (4556)
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16 Oct 08
Haha Never heard anyone use that as a reason for a DNA test.
So if your son is too cute, then it's because you're cuteif he doesn't think he is himself, eh?!
Boys sometimes look like their mums too especially in younger childhood otherwise everyone would be having DNA tests
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
For me I don't think he should be doubting that that kid is his son. If my kid would be cute then I would really be very proud to be his father Then if I hear people saying how cute he is, I'll just tell them Oh well look it's in the genes (then pointing to my own handsome self)Honestly I don't look anything like my parents but they never denied me that I am their son.
@bessiexxl (77)
• China
16 Oct 08
I think your son's father is riduculous. Around me, I know many situations that parents'looking is just so so, but their kids are very beautiful.This is very normal. When babies are forming, they received different gene from their parents.Some are lucky to get more well, but others are unlucky. More, even if the same parents, their kids' looking sometimes are rather various.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
15 Oct 08
He must be a real jerk. Sound like it. Just say the good looks come from my side of the family. Thank goodness I don't know anybody else like that.
@marlena18042 (636)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Hello lilybug. This subject really gets under my skin! My two daughters father and I are no longer together. We haven't been since two months after the birth of his second daughter.
He tried this himself. Denying her when she looks just like him, but I will say..much prettier! I think he said it because it delayed his child support and he was such an *sshole and didn't want to pay!
A few reasons why men deny their daughter/son is: 1.Like my bum ex, they dont want to take financial responsibility. 2.They are scared and dont want to believe it 3. They maybe really truely believe the girl may have been unfaithful. These are reasons that I know of.
Saying that your child isnt yours because the childis "too cute" to be his, is ridiculous. Do you think he really believes this? If so, he probebly also suffers from a very low self-esteem!
Having a baby should be the best thing in the world.It should be a glorious moment,something exciting and wonderful.Achild is something to be proud of, not deny.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I don't think he really thinks it. I think it is more his new wife than anything else. We went to court for child support 6 years ago and he told the judge he did not want a DNA test to determine paternity before Child Support was ordered. Even if he was not his son, which he is, he would still have to pay till he is 18.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
16 Oct 08
Suspicious man can do such behave. This is one kind of mental disease.If you are sure that Jeremy is your husband's son then why you bother? You yourself arrange DNA test and prove that you both are Jeremy's father and mother. Then you file a case against your son's father for mental tourcher upon you.Ugly parents can have good looking child and good looking parents can have ugly child. I'm not saying you or your son's father are ugly. I'm saying about possibility.
@thanujad (405)
• Sri Lanka
15 Oct 08
I'm sorry to hear your story. If your son is good looking he should be proud of him to have a such a good looking kid. He must be having a mental problem if not he wouldn't say such things. I feel sorry for your son too. Does he know that the father is saying such stupid things? I hope not. If he knows there'll be a big problem. More than the DNA test, I don't understand why he cannot trust his wife? What kind of a man he is?
This perticular person (He is a friend of my husband) had two daughters and his wife got involved with another guy and had another daughter from that other man and now she lives with the other. But my husband's friend does not want to devorce her thinking that it will be bad for his daughters future (Our culture is like that) and treats the 3rd child also as his own even though he knows that she is not his child.
So there are people like that too.
@jackiew (915)
• Canada
17 Oct 08
well he sounds like a man i wouldn't want around helping me raise my son-I would sooner do it on my own.If the father is constantly having the doubt,how can he give 100 percent to the boy.If he doubted 100 percent that the boy was not his, he would of had a DNA done long ago so he wouldn't have to support a child that wasn't his. He must believe in some percentage that the child is his. happy mylotting