Are you being surrounded by negative-thinking people?
By daydreamer20
@daydreamer20 (1688)
Malaysia
October 16, 2008 1:19am CST
I've read many motivational books and all of them are telling people to be positive minded, to be happy and cheerful....and everything will be fine. Because at the end of the day, we control our own life, our own emotions and to decide whether to live happy or sad.
That's why we should be positive, irregardless of how desperate things might become.
But the problem occurs when you try to be positive, but the people around you are negative. If there's only one negative thinker, you can at least try to influence him to think more positively. But most of the time, there's more negative thinkers than positive ones.
Just imagine entering your office place and everyone is saying "i'm going to die today" or "Such a boring life...." or "I'm underpaid and have no mood for work..."
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5 responses
@echosoundz (856)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
It's really irritated to hear what negative thought that everybody surrounding you said. I got many friends that are absolutely in that manner. Just because we'd done something have an effect toward us financially or mentally, all the had just tosay is "I'd told you so", " Why you didn't listen" and "I knew its coming" and such negative word that utters from their mouth. Only a few would say " It's okay, try again" or " You can do it again ,you're a winner" and such. Most of them look the disappointment on themselves and having others in the same situation makes them look likes a winner where else they too makes the same mistakes.
I think people like that are afraid to admit their mistakes or failure and blaming it to others while not doing anything to overcome it. That why all the negative thought remains inside their head. this is mindset of a failure to admit mistakes that had been done. For me you are what you think you are. If they not satisfied on anything that because they think it that way that makes it appeal unsatisfied to them.LOL and have anice day.
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
Exactly. I also know a lot of people who will blame you for making mistakes, even some of my close relatives and friends love to do that.
I will only smile and be quiet. If they continue, I will reply "Yes, I know i've made a mistake, does that concern you?" Because at the end of the day, I'm not blaming anyone for the mistakes. I didn't even blame myself 100%. Everything happens for a reason and I'm sure I'm able to learn from the mistakes.
If my friends or relatives failed in something, I always tell them to try again next time and believe in themselves. Never ever try to demotivate people. Because you're not helping anything by doing so.
Ah well, we have all kinds of people in this world. That's why the world is such an interesting place. Have a nice day too!
@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
16 Oct 08
Hi daydreamer! I understand what you meant here. It is hard to stay positive if you are surrounded with negative-thinking people! But I think this the right time to bring the positivity with others! I'm sure it wouldn't be easy, but you can also take the situation as challenge to yourself. Thankfully I'm not surrounded with negative-thinker and every morning I do my best to feel happy and positive and thats help me a lot with my daily lives! If I'm talking with person with full of negativity I try to encourage them to be positive in life and I also try not to be affected of their negativity. Thanks!
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@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
That's a good thing to do - to bring the positivity out of people. But it's not easy. There are a lot of people who think and act like a solid wall. You will not be able to move or change their direction unless you take a sledgehammer :)
To be honest, we can always find happiness from little things. It doesn't have to be big like a ferrari or 1 million dollars. I can smile when the morning sun shines down on me, or when I woke up and look at the blue blue sky outside my window. Those are very simple yet they can make our mood better. :) At the end, when people start to appreciate the little things in life, they will start to be more positive and say "Life is not that bad after all"
@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
16 Oct 08
it is our own choice and i don't think that if you once decide than you shouldn't care for the others and be positive and just don't pay attention to what they say and i am living in a mix society and i can tell you that there are many negative-thinking people around but when i don't believe them they can't effect my decisions and what is the need of listening to them and be gloomy, be happy and life is not easy and you need to be alert all the time and those that say that life is boring, well it is up to us to make it fun for our own and no one else is going to come to make you happy.
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@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
It's easier said than done. If those people are not so close to me, I wouldn't even spend my time lifting an eyebrow for them. But sometimes, those who are negative thinking are those people who are very close to us - our best buddies, our family members, our partners, etc. That is when you cannot just ignore them or don't pay attention to them.
For the rest of the people, ignore them or at most, wish them good luck.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
So tiring to hear from them. Try to be positive always even thought there are lots of negative thinker people around you. We will lose if we mind them our focus might be out of our control and that affect us more. Hard to get in and uplift ourself once we"re deppressed. Don"t mind tose negatives. Let us be positive.
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
It's not difficult to lift ourselves up once we're depressed. The problem is, when we TRY to do that (yet to succeed), somebody negative will come and knock us down. That's tough.
@ryan11n26 (3)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
yeah... and every negative person seems to bring me down. i cant seem to move on with my life.. argghh
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@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
They do demotivate me from time to time, but I'm not going to let them bring me down :) Rather, I do hope i can bring them UP. :D Maybe you can try as well. Nobody can change us permanently except for ourselves.
