Stupid Family drama blamed on me.
By alnoodle
@alnoodle (48)
United States
October 16, 2008 6:29pm CST
So my best friend is also my cousin. The whole family situation is stupid. Although at one time our family was close as a family... over the years things have changed. However... we've beenr eally close since we were little. It has always been that people assumed that if something applied to me... it did her too. So... my daughter is 14 months... so is her son. I got pregnant with my daughter and then she her son. My husband and I got married January of 2007 and her April of 2007. So my family sees it as I announce good news... and she has the same news. Well... I'm pregnant again... and when I told a few people (friends included who don't know her) EVERYONE responded by saying she is more than likely pregnant too. Well... it turns out that she is. Now she's mad at me because even though I TOLD HER that people would figure it out on their own and that she should probably tell her parents before everyone figured it out... and I even told her that there were suspicions... she thinks I told everyone... but I didn't. But since I was the only one in the family that knew for sure... she thinks it was me. But everyone told me that they thought she was before I EVEN KNEW! So I hate to be slightly unsympathetic toward her situation... but she's not talking to me for something that isn't even my fault. And, she won't listen. So I guess I wait it out until she decides to let it go... since she'll never believe me? Her stupid Grandma... who it is debateable if she is senile is the one who pulled all this out her butt... as she does everything else. I disowned the lady because she stirred up so much stuff that wasn't true about me.... UGH! It's so frustrating!
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@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Sounds like drama. It doesn't help that you are dealing with new rushes of pregnancy hormones. Just give it a little time and explain (maybe in a letter or email) that the family just assumed that since you guys have everything else the same that she would be expecting at the same time as you. That you didn't tell them anything, but what could you say to them when they were assuming she was preggers. Well, if that doesn't work, i'm sure her hormones will calm down soon when she wants her bff back to be with her during her pregnancy. You shouldn't worry about this though, as you know the stress is definitly not good for the baby.
@alnoodle (48)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Everything with my great grandma...which is her grandma is drama. She is always sticking her nose where it doesn't belong and making stuff up. As much as she'd like to blame me... it didn't come from me. I did write her an email trying to explain... but like i said... the whole thing is dumb. And the fact she didn't just call me right away and tell me what her deal was makes me mad. Especially because it isn't my fault!!!!!! GRRRRR! And I totally called it... which is frustrating.. I knew that this would happen! I knew it. Because since the last two events were the same... and people started assuming she'd get married after I announced I was... I figured that they'd be quick to assume she was preggo this time since I am. UGH!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Oct 08
Maybe everybody can tell her that you didn't blab? Sorry that the grandma is making the situation worse. She'll probably come around eventually. Hope she does. Situations where you are treated unjustly like that and can't even have a say to try and set it straight are really, really frustrating. But try and realize that it's all on her now, and all you can do for the moment is wait.
@alnoodle (48)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Ugh. She won't believe anyone because she thinks her grandma wouldn't come up with it on her own. But since everyone assumed she'd be pregnant too... I'm sure the theory got around... or maybe she just picked up on it on her own. I'm sure she's not as dumb as we all think.
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@echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
15 Jan 09
Well, obviously none of it is your fault. Eventually your cousin will see the truth if you keep explaining what really happened, and anyway if you had told it's not like that's the most horrible thing ever...how long did she really think she could keep her pregnancy secret? I think everyone has someone who likes to stir things up in the family -- I haven't quite disowned the troublemaker in my family, but I try to avoid talking and seeing her as much as possible. I have to admit though that it's kind of funny that you and your cousin have had such parallel lives. If you decide to have another child, maybe you should make sure your cousin isn't trying to pregnant too just to avoid something like this happening again!
