Do you prefer to chat on-line with strangers?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58678)
Delhi, India
October 17, 2008 1:03am CST
Dear friends, Many of you enjoy chatting with fellow friends and sometimes strangers. I have read few discussions here which say that sometimes some of the members had a very nasty and unpleasant experiences during chatting, while some had a pleasant experiences. I would like to have the benefit of experiences of those members here who prefer to chat on-line with friends and strangers. Do you really enjoy, while chatting through chatting window and do you feel that it is an effective mode of communication with others? Did you have any unpleasant or memorable experience(s) while chatting with others? I do not for chatting with strangers at all, so I do not have much experience in this field, but would like to hear from you on this account. Many thanks in advance.
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66 responses
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
17 Oct 08
Hello Dpk..I am afraid I cannot furnish you with any information on this topic because I have never chatted online wiih strangers nor visited any chat rooms so far..Some how I have never been interested in this sort of things.
Its best to be careful while interacting with strangers.And chatting has been a bane and a boon to many people. I have had occasions to attend weddings where the couple have come together in chat rooms and had become partners for life.I have also heard of cases where people fall into bad company and even get cheated through such ventures.I have always tried to discourage chlidren also from engaging in such chats because it is seen that teenagers are the most vulnerable to chatting with strangers.
Infact even my experience with social net working is limited to mylotting alone....
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
No problem Rose, if you cannot furnish any inforamtion on the issue, sometimes not furnishing information becomes more important, because it shows that everyone cannot have the experience on the issue being discussed. So you in fact some persons in weddings, who succeeded in searching a soul mate through chatting. I've also heard cases of cheating through chatting. I have never attempted it and I do not prefer it also and like you I also tell children that it is of no use, interacting with a complete unknown stranger.
I may add here that my experiences with social net working is only limited to Mylot ONLY, like you. I do not go any other site, even if some one close recommends it.
Many thanks for joining and sharing your thoughts with us.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
25 May 09
I DISLIKE CHATTING...period!
For one, I find that window very very distracting and secondly, I had joined a chat site for the heck of it and the language..OMG they could have opened a school in slangs and abuses. I tried a few others after that (chatting was so much the 'in' thing then) but they were all more or less the same...inane topics, mindless mudslinging, personal attacks...I just stopped.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
27 May 09
Mylot dug it up for me….I was just browsing thru when up can this discussion, it was only after responding that I saw how old it was!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
27 May 09
Thanks for digging out with the help of mylot and responding and enriching the post.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
26 May 09
How come Sudipta, you dug out my very old discussion. Many thanks for sharing your experiences and whatever you have stated is absolutely right, I've not done much chatting, but I also feel, chatting without a purpose with unknown persons (strangers) does not serve any purpose and the langauge is really pathetic and uncomprehensible.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
17 Oct 08
Dpk,
I am hardly into chatting and do it only with very friends. So chatting with strangers is certainly not easy and I don't do it at all.
Having said this, although as strange as it may sound, people share so many things here so easily. You are typing text after all. Chatting in ways is similar only its more real time and the reactions are more spontaneous. To start with, all the friends here are strangers too,but we get to be friends after some time, but yet we are hesitant about chatting. Strange indeed and it is something to ponder about.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
17 Oct 08
You are right Dpk and i only brought it about to clarify and understand the way we comprehend the two. When we start mylotting here we have the profile, the discussions, the interests... to look at and understand and know the person in some ways. We really do not know too much about a person we chat to the first time.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
It is good to know that you do not attempt chatting with altogether strangers. Alok, I would like to say that chatting on a site (or a say site as yahoo messanger) or exchanging our thoughts with members of mylot cannot be compared. I agree, when we start afresh here, everyone is stranger to us but as the time passes, we feel connected to each other and our discussions, responses and posts reveal lot about us, therefore, the tag of a stranger vanishes. Here, gradually you come to know about a member (friend) and you can very well firm a opinion about her/him, which more or less comes out accurate.
Many thanks for joining and sharing your views.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
So your unpleasant experience during chatting sessions has now discouraged you.....for it. Many thanks for joining us.
How are you?
Woh! Great! Congratulations! You have touched 12000 mark.
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@patms1 (521)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I love chatting on line. I get to know many folks I would not otherwise meet. I stay at home most of the time and this way its likes visiting friends at there home. What's also great is I do not like to gossip so I can have conversations about every thing with out getting involved with the sorry side of peoples life. I can get or give information and don't have to be embarrassed by people I meet in person and its nice to not have to hear dirty words. I am not a prude but in today's world it seems that most conversations are riddled with filth. On TV or in the movies. When chatting on line unless you go to a site that has no rules you don't have to worry about this. Yes! I love chatting on line.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
31 Oct 08
In nutshell, your experience appear good during chatting with strangers. Thanks for sharing your experiences and knowledge with us.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
31 Oct 08
In nutshell, your experience appear good during chatting with strangers. Thanks for sharing your experiences and knowledge with us.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Mar 09
HI! Dear!
It depends upon your outlook and to whom you are chatting. Do you chat with strangers, irrespective of their genders or you prefer same gender person. Yes, you are right, if chatting is turning out bizzare, then you can always stop it.
Many thanks for responding to such an old discussion of mine.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
9 Mar 09
I can understand your point of view. Chatting with strangers on bizzare topics does not help much and mylot is a better option in comparison to chatting,I feel.
Thanks for sharing.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
17 Oct 08
Deepak
I was into chatting previously, when younger, I guess. I used to chat with family and sometimes it used to be an open one. It was fun then but today it doesn't amuse me anymore. I would rather mylot or read something. When I used to chat, I would never become very close to that person. Like I would not disclose my email address, phone number or other personal details. Sometimes not ever ASL! It was complete anonmiety. It was fun and sweet. But I do not see myself there any more. I have gorwn with time and now, open chat is but waste of time.
I only chat with my friends here and family. I am comfoertabke that way.
Have a great day.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
17 Jan 11
Sorry for the long delay but thanks nonetheless. Thanks for the BR deepak. BTW, I still do not chat with strangers. I already have enough reasons in life to have fun.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
In nutshell, chatting with strangers is not recommended (by you) and it does not lead us anywhere. It should only be temporary and be for fun only, if at all someone wants to try it. I also does not find it useful (in fact never attempted it seriously, at any stage) and instead prefer doing other things like mylotting or reading.
Many thanks for joining and sharing your valuable views.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Apr 09
Hi dpk,
When I was single, I love chatting with strangers and I met good friends before, I even met a couple with 2 kids only in chatting before and we enjoy talking a lot...I was sad that our communication was cut off!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
2 Apr 09
Checa!
So all in all you enjoyed chatting and you had some lovely experinces. Thanks for sharing those experiences.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 09
Chatting makes a worthwhile experience. I do chat with strangers and it has given me an added dimension to learn more from others. So far I have not met any awkward experiences while chatting. Chatting is just like talking to our real physical friends except that it is electronically connected.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
2 Apr 09
Hi! Dear!
It is good that you did not have any bad experience, because women often complaint that unknown strangers start talking about uncalled and dirty things on the net and this makes them uncomfortable.
Thanks for joining and sharing your views on a very old discussion of mine.
@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
4 Mar 09
I don't actually prefer online chatting with strangers, but I don't really mind. I happened to make quite a few good friends by talking online. But like you said, some of the experience are quite "bad". I think it really depends on your luck to meet the right people! I am definitely open for the option *smiles*.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Mar 09
Though, you do not prefer strangers, yet you are willing to experiment with the hope that you may find a nice fellow on the other end. This shows your positive thinking. Keep it up!
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
17 Oct 08
Hi Deepak
its long since i chatted with strangers
i think that craze of chatting gone now
but i do have long list of friends on hotmail and gmail and i do chart with them, sure family members are also there
and its nice mode, i like it very much, fortunately i never had any unpleasent experince
Take care and enjoy
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
You are doing the right job, dear, chatting with only known friends or family members. Chatting with strangers is of no use. It is good that you did not have any unpleasant expereince. Thanks for joining us.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
17 Oct 08
My answer is 'no'. I have using the internet for (official purpose) the last ten years but using personal purpose for the last one year only. I signed up with some other social networks (some friends sent the links) but after realising the problems with that sites I left all those and now I am not even visiting the same. I think I am matured enough to understand the disadvantage as well as advantages in net. I think the younger generation should be more careful because mostly they are happened to be the 'preys'. Parents should be vigilant on this matter and take proper initiative to prevent their children from visiting unwanted sites and chatting with strangers.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
HI! Sreekala!
What I gather from your response is - Chatting with strangers should not be ventured as it is of not much use. I agree with you that we should guide our young kids that chatting does not serve any fruitful purpose. I also does not find it useful (in fact never attempted it seriously, at any stage) and instead prefer doing other things like mylotting or reading.
Many thanks for joining and sharing your valuable views.
@kkarki44 (132)
• Nepal
27 May 09
Ya prefer to chat with strangers. I take more enjoy on talking with them. I have a unforgettable memory chatting with stranger. About 2 years ago i make chat with a Philippine lady on the distance she is very very from me. I never have thought that of things became with stranger. On the first she asked whether i liked to chat with her or not. I was positive she was the most friendly and caring which i have never feel. She became one of by closest & best friend. But unfortunately she disappeared. As per her saying her job was not not satisfactory. I some times be on line & i hope if she had came back. I always miss her so much.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
27 May 09
Thanks for sharing your experience and your thoughts about chatting. Nice to know that you had good experience. Hope some day, you will be able to see/meet your friend. All the best.
@pina_land (250)
• Singapore
20 Oct 08
To start with, I don't really like chatting online let alone chatting with a stranger. I prefer to meet face-to-face rather than communicating through online or phone. However, I do think that chatting with strangers has its good and bad. The good is that if you're lucky, you add your list of friends. The bad one, well, if you're really unlucky, you got prank call or some sort of annoying person
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@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I rather talk to most of my friends online. I have this one friend that will talk and talk forever no matter what you say to get off the phone. I had to have my husband call once from his cell phone just to help me get off. She will just keep talking away. So its better if I just email her lol.
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@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 08
I don't like chatting with strangers. Especially I feel a little annoyed when the strangers ask you personal questions but they won't tell theirs at first. This is very bothering to me. So when I experience it, usually I will ask whether they are policemen. Otherwise why they always tend to ask others' personal questions but without introducing themselves at first.
I love China
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
Yes, I agree with you, it is not fair for strangers to ask for your personal details, it becomes irritating. Nice to know that you love China.
Congratuations on crossng 10000 mark.
Many thanks for joining us.
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
17 Oct 08
I do not have any online friends except those I have met on mylot. Have made a few friends here with whom I do communicate through my personal emails. I do not chat on any of the other chatting sites at all. So I do not have any experiences to relate here. But I dont think I would want to log on to any of the chatting sites to chat with strangers.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 08
So no good or bad experiences.........as far as you are concerned, because you did not consider chatting with strangers of any use. Same is the case with me. Many thanks for joining us.
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I have really not gotten into the chatting phase with people I don't know. I have met people I have never physically met online that I have been friends with for years (mostly through IC work online). I have a young son that I do not allow to do the chatting thing online, so I stay away from them too.
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@dazzled (66)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I really enjoy chatting online with folks, I chat online all day. I've found many real life friends that started online and have blossomed into 'real time' relationships with some great people. I am more comfortable typing then talking face to face. I also do a lot of business online so some of my clients I never meet but work well with. I think its an effective skill to have, online communication. The good thing about talking online is if you don't like someone, you can just easily avoid them or put them on ignore. Not so easy to do that with real life people!
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