Do you tell you friend everything?
By deeville
@deeville (3)
Jamaica
October 19, 2008 5:45pm CST
I'm wondering how many persons who have a best friend, tell them everything. Even the deepest, darkest secrets that we may have. Do you confide in him/her? Do you tell them things that not even your boyfriend/girlfriend, or spouse you would tell? I definitely do not tell my best friend everything. Sometimes I do it to protect her but I'm kinda private like that. I don't think she tell me everything either.
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33 responses
@Emotionalfist (85)
• China
20 Oct 08
I have a good friend who own the same personality with me. I often tell my secret to him. So does he. When we are sad in work, we will confide each other. He always care of my life whatever physics or spirit. I nearly tell all the things to him. Even I tell him about my illness in OCD.
OCD is a kind of serious disease in mental. I can not work now.
@sw33t_voic3 (60)
• United States
20 Oct 08
What are you referring to as OCD. I always was told by psychologists that OCD is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I know many people with this disorder that work just fine and actually are the best workers in their fields. So maybe I am just misunderstanding what OCD means when you say it is a serious mental illness that prevents you from working. Could you please elaborate what OCD stands for in your case?
@nini89 (670)
• India
13 Nov 08
Hi deeville! I have a best friend but I too dont tell her the secret things. My husband was my best friend and every thing I used to tell him each and every tiny things happenings. Bad luck that he left for heavenlyabord on May 29th08. Now I dont have any secret things also tell . My days are goiing and I am working for my children. Happy posting and hve a nice day.
@ravitejareddy (101)
• India
21 Oct 08
I like t have secrets But when my ask something about that i cannot control without saying that to my friends.Upto now i think Idon't have any secrets to store.everything is known to my friend.
@agrant10 (1476)
• United States
20 Oct 08
No, I would not tell my close friend everything. I have told her some things in the past and she has told it to other people when I specifically said do not tell anybody. Well, I might as well had said tell anybody you want too. Actually it has happened about 2 times or of course it could be more, so I learned the hard way. I only tell her things that I do not mind getting out. There are some things that I can only discuss with God.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
20 Oct 08
my best friend knows every tiny little minute detail of my existance. but then, so does my husband. those i trust the most get the privelege of knowing the inner workings of my psyche.. every thought, every random everything.. prolly to the point they wish they didnt.. but cest le vie.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
20 Oct 08
None can tell every thing to his or her best friend,spouse or to anybody.There are some secrets in everybody's life that can't be expressed to anybody. I think even to God.That secret may be sweet or may be painful memory.There are smething in everybody's life ,which he or she nourishes in his or her core of heart.
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
20 Oct 08
i was very pity .My best friend betrayed me.I told her everything.At last ,he told everything to somebody else.I was very angry.But that thing gave me a lesson.We couldnot believe in others easily.we had better not tell them everything.One day it would meke yourself embarrassment.Whether you believe it or not,this was my experience.
@runningeyes (185)
• China
20 Oct 08
Hey,deeville,nice to meet you!
Everybody has their secret,I think.It is not about the trust,it just a space issue.Everyone in our world need a space own by themselves.If people walked too close,the collision may happen.Just like the truth isn't always be good.
Happy mylotting!
@magicslate (373)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
No, I don't tell my best friend everything. I like that I have secrets that I only share with myself. Especially since most of the secrets I know are not about me.
@sarah456 (86)
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20 Oct 08
i use to. but she has closed up now. so i dont bother. i feel with friendship you should both contribute as much as i would like to tell her. i just cant. and in a way thats hard for me. because (as a friend once pointed out) i need other people to make me happy and im not independant.so if im not telling a friend they stay with me. which an make me act very different towards others
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
hello deeville,
Definitely not doing that. Telling everything to your bestfriend including your darkest secrets is not a good idea. For you'll never know if she/he will be your bestfriend forever. There is a saying that "Your best friend will be your best enemy", since you told everything about you. If that will happen then you are doom for everybody will know all about you. For sure your best friend do the same too.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
no i don't..because i came to realize that even real friends can't be trusted.. you tell them your secrets but in the end you'll find that one of your not-so-close friends already know about it.. and it irritates me more when they promise not to tell other people..
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 08
I kinda keep some things for myself because I believe that we keep a little bit of ourselves a secret. We cannot tell everything to our best friend because we are not 100 percent sure whether he/she should be trusted. I had some experience with these kind of friend so better be careful with your friends or else you will have the whole word chit chatting about you.
@tazulislam7 (3)
• Bangladesh
20 Oct 08
Yeah,
Every man need a friend. Every people want to live this some good friends. some good friends give you some good advice. Some friend take your responsibilities. So that's why you need a good friend.