Do you believe everything your friends tell you?
By dolce_vita78
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
Philippines
October 20, 2008 9:26am CST
I am aware that one element of friendship is trust. However, there are times when we our friends tell us things that at time, for some reasons, we doubt. Maybe because there were times when we caught our friends making up stories. Or, they simply do not sound true. There are instances that I become so gullible that I tend to believe everything my friends tell me. But there are also times when I doubt what my friends are telling me. Do you think that true friends do not really lie? Or if they do, why should they?
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 Oct 08
I believe what my friends tell me. As far as I am concerned, none of them have given me reason to disbelieve what they tell me. If they have said a little white lie to me, then I'm not aware of it and they haven't shown any signs that they are lying.
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@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Hello Dolce! Yeah, sometimes they might be 'little liars' and this I believe because of their fear of hurting close friends. But it's not fair, right? I'd rather know the truth and be hurt than living in a world of lies and shallow happiness.
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@lchawqword (58)
• China
21 Oct 08
There are some reason that it is not convenient to tell you.Maybe it is their privacy, or it makes you feeling uncomfortable.I believe my friends although they lie me sometimes.
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
21 Oct 08
Depends on the level of trust but definitely not everything. Even if they're my best friends, I will not trust them 100%. Maybe 90%. But I do trust my family members 100%.
@reddbone (48)
• United States
21 Oct 08
No, I don't hink you should believe everything your friends tell you beacause sometimes they may lie. But sometimes if you really trust in this person I think you should believe what they are saying because it maybe true.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I think true friends lie to us sometimes because they do not want to hurt our feelings. I think a person can be a really good friend to someone but there are times when feelings must be put first.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I don't think that they intentionally lie when they tell things that seem to be not right.. I even seem to see hints if they are just making things up or really honest about what they are saying.
I have this friend who was telling something odd but was passionate about it so, I really didn't want to ruin his momentum by telling that whatever he was talking about is not true, I simply mention politely phrased questions to suggest my doubts.
Of course, they don't lie all the time or by intent, well, that's how I see my friends anyway.
If they lie and use that to take advantage of you, now that's certainly something a friend doesn't do at all.
(^_^ )
@polofield32 (346)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
I have encountered friends who would lie for reasons that they only understand. I do not believe everything my friends tell me especially those that have lied to me once. We know our friends well to know whether what they are saying is true or not. Of course there are also people who already have mastered the art of lying so in this case, it would be quite difficult to pinpoint which is true or not.
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
26 Oct 08
i know for a fact that a couple of friends I have had in the past have lied to me. I did have one friend though who never ever told me a lie, she would tell me the truth even though she knew that I would be upset by it, that is a true friend. I no longer see her as she moved from the area but I will never forget her.
@zhaosonghan (1039)
• China
20 Oct 08
I believe everything my friends tell you,maybe some peoples you just know call friend,but for me if i consider he/she is my friends,i must get along with them for a long time,at least i trust them,so i believe them.My rules-believe my friends.
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@msedge (4011)
• United States
2 Feb 09
I used to believe whatever my friends say but since one betrayed me and made up things against me,its hard for me to trust anymore.I also scared to trust new friends again.I might close to some now but those that i have already known for a long time.For what had happened to me, i could say you can never tell if a friend tells a lie or not so its better not to trust so much.
@kenchihi (121)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 08
I do believe in my friends. I tend to have complete trust in my friends. They will always have my benefit of doubt. At least, that is the case if I do not spot any irregularity in their statements. But, most of the time, I realize that they are just telling my nonsense, but since we're friends, I do not really see the point in rebutting them unless there is a big issue. But hey, we're still friends in the end of the day!
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I know I don't lie to my friends, I tell them the truth even if it would mean hurting their feelings, they deserve the truth. True friends value truth and trust in friendship. However, there are just things I admit I cannot tell my friends. These things may destroy their lives or destroy their faith in life or love. One example I can give is the time I found out a friend of mine is adopted. I never told her. I know she deserves the truth but she's living a happy and contented life. Though she may be "living a lie" believing that her adoptive parents are her natural parents, still, I don't have the heart to destroy her good life. Telling her she's adopted will not do any good to her. It will only confuse her, she'll start looking for her true parents and end up hurting herself as well as the adoptive parents who loved her so much and have treated her as their own.
@missbdoll (1165)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
Years ago I used to beleive my freinds 100% but over the last few years I relised a lot of people I know do lie.It can range from just changing the facts a little, for whatever reason.To totaly making things up.
I don'ytreally get it, 'cause I donn't do this, so I donn't really know why anyone bothers.
@mariaglenda (482)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Actually i don't believe that my friend tells me everything about whats going on in their life and i respect also their privacy ... but its up to them if they want to share with and ask for an advice from me because i am welling to give too .... friends are part of our life but not everything we have to know since we live our life separately ... sometimes we need friend to lean on , to cry on, to laugh on, to bond on and everything that can make our life enjoy...... but we dont need to expect from friend that anytime we can lean on us because they are also human who has their on problem to resolve too... sharing of ideas from friends are ways of learning new things from them... happy mylotting
@tangledinbarbwire (76)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Well i agree with you there are times i think my friends lie to me. When they do that i can always tell. So i just start asking questions to see if anything changes and when it does that when i confront them. I us to be gullible but i have put that block up to where i ignore it when someone tells me a lie. I can always tell when someone lies to me. For some reason they like to do this. I dont know what they get out of it or why they think they have too. I think if they are true friends there is no reason for them to lie to you about anything. If they have to lie to you then they think they cant trust you or they just want the attention. I have no idea why a friend would like at all. It makes no sense to me at all. I wish someone could answer that for me ask well. As for I, I have a friend that lies to me all the time i just ignore it and take it with a grain of salt.
@Frosty579 (6)
• Georgia
21 Oct 08
I do believe everything my friends tell me. Sometimes they can joke and lie to me about something but after 1 minute they tell me that it was a lie or just a joke :) .