being dumped

Philippines
October 20, 2008 9:48am CST
What are the signs that your girlfriend/boyfriend is about to dump you? What's the best thing to do? Confront them and ask directly? Or ignore and leave it at that and just move on?
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5 responses
@akinad (446)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
i think that when a relationship changes drastically or when one partner seems to change on how he or she treats the other is one way to look at to know if they're going to dump you..you,yourself should know and feel it or have at least a hint of what your partner is feeling for you right now..so you should know that there is a problem coming to both of you..it's up to you if you would like to stay with him..fight for it if you really love him and if you think that he still loves but just having confusions right now..give him reasons to stay with you..but if it still doesn't work it just means that you must let him go..because you can never change how one should feel for you.it's also their choice..and from then on,you must move on with your life...
@akinad (446)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
ei thanks for the best response mark..i hope this would help your friend and others who having the same problems..have a nice day!!
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Very well said dear. So, before making any major decisions of dumping, you have to rationalize first and give the other person the chance. After then, if nothing change, then have a clean breakup. Thanks. Now i know what to tell my friend.
@avidwhit (1492)
• Mexico
20 Oct 08
Depends on you and what you want. You might just make plans to do the same. There are many people in the world. Maybe a strawberry farmer.hehehe lol :) keeep posting great post!
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Yup you are right. Thanks for the complement and i'll try a strawberry farmer instead. hahaha
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@avidwhit (1492)
• Mexico
20 Oct 08
Might be better to start farming strawberries with someone else who wants to farm strwberries as well. This way its a new sharing growing experience for the bolth.:)
@deadlier (340)
• India
20 Oct 08
u are such an 'emo'tional person! alwys askin things like that..it happend to me many times, wen she was about to dump me she just acted like she doesnt care for me, i knew wat was gonna happen
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Oh yes i'm an emotional person. It is a case of a friend though because i never experienced being dumped. But if i'll do, i'll pray for the first one to at least have the kind heart to say it directly and right away not to prolong such agony. Did you happen to ask her why and talk about it? Or just walked away and let things hanging. If so, i'm so sad it happened to you. But it is her lost not yours. Sorry to remind you of those moments. You must really loved the girl.
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
The signs? Im not familiar with the signs though. I had one boyfriend and I was the one who broke up with him, but he DUMPED me after. I wasnt after him though, he just did dumped me in a way. :D Sorry, I cant help with the signs.. But here's my advice. Ask them directly. If you cant do that, send them an email. If he or she doesnt reply, then you have to confront him or her. I dont think asking for reasons is a good idea. Maybe you can ask why he or she is not telling you. Let the person know that the reason you are confronting him or her is because you want to confirm your feelings about him wanting to dump you soon. Why? It is better that you have a proper closure. And then, no better choice, move on. :) It is going to be so hard and painful, but in time it'll all be better. :)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Having a closure is a nice advice. Thanks.
• India
20 Oct 08
They can dump you only if there is some problem between the two of you or they have fallenin love with someone else. It also depends onteh type of relationship you share. If there is no commitment thenyou really can't keep them from dumping you. if there is a bond, it is better to find out at the earliest rather than let it linger for a linger period of time. if he is planning to dump you, he needs courage to bring it toa flash point. you just need to give the trigger.