Sharing of responsiblities, do you that?

Oh thats too bad for you, try to talk to him heart to heart and hear what his side why he do that to you. Maybe he has a problem that he cannot tell or maybe he need an attention. Try also to impose some of your rules to follow if he cant follow then he will suffer the consequences. thanks for responding.

I down know what is the resaon why you avoid confrontation,but if it is hard for you to do it why not talk to somebody he trust most or somebody he respect more. It is good sometimes to here there side too and make an arragement to both of you work and be happy. I know it is very dificult to tell someone who is close minded for he will never try to understand your situation. But we will never know unless you tried it.

Sounds logical, but when someone is irrational, I try to avoid confrontation, that's just more undo stress I don't need! We've actually got into it numerous times and it's really not worth it. I'd rather salvage our relationship and make it pretty hard where he'll eventually leave on his own! He wants to leave but not really able to! So, it's just whatever for now! I look at it as, even if he wasn't here it still has to be done, just not as much! Taripre$

What ever works for you and your family is great! I'm just saying what we're doing.

I guess we should try to divided everything fairly for no one will complain later, in my situation, sometimes it become burden already if we just continue thing that seems to right at the moment but they are not. Our life is moving forward as well our needs, we have to be more careful and wise in dealing in our daily expenses especially in hard times . Thanks for sharing.

Good job, atleast no one will complain for everybody contributed with the same amount , not one will question about it. As long you agree everything their will be no problem at all. Thanks for sharing.

Hi dncmanning, Well, we stay at home for tradition and at the same time for convinence too because our work place is just five minutes away from home. About paying bills, my parent did not impose us to share but it is our initiative to share with them for we have our own income already, my brother volunteer to pay the electric bill when he got a job and me before i volunteer to pay the telephone bill and the grocery because my sister is just quitting her job for a moment. After a year she got a good paying job and she said that she will pay the water bills. when my younger sister graduated and have a job i give her the responsibility to pay the telephone bills for i cannot do it anymore to do groceries and pay bill at the same time. it is more than 2 years already that we do like this, but since we do it voluntarily, i dont know if it is good to change the way we help each other. For i feel there is something wrong with it.

thank you friend, i guess there in no constant here only change. In time i will try to make some arrangement in dealing will of responsibilities at home.

It sounds to me that you are fairly happy with the arrangement as it is and it that's the case- I agree there is no reason to change but when and if you feel it is time to adjust things, I think you should feel very comfortable with talking with your family about it. I also think its great that you are all working together that makes a family unit, much stronger. Good luck to you and your family.

Same here it works too but since our contribution is the same with each other, sometime i feel that it is unfair for it should be the same or atleast percentage to their income they contributed. thanks for responding.

Yeah.. we should do that, but i have known someone that who dont like to contribute anything to their parents even they are living with them and have already a job. They are not rich but still he dont like to share. I think it is a matter of practice when you are still young. If you do it gradually then it is very easy to share when you become adult.

hi sirrob, In the first place we do it as our initiative since we are all living in the same roof, my parent didnt force us to pay the bills at home but we do it out of love. But since now a days prices is getting higher and higher while our income is increasing very little, one can not continue to pursue what they promise, honestly my brother and i complain for the electricity bills is always going up and the grocery goods is double it prizes. I dont know if it is good to ask them for change the way we help each other and parents too. Can it be possible.

Hi savpat, Well i guess you are right, so that every member in the house have it own fair share for we have almost the same income exept for my younger sister for she is just new to her job.Thanks for responding.

Okay, i think i should suggest to them to have a fair share just like what you said for i feel that it is not good to continue doing it like that, for we have almost the same income in the house. Thanks for responding friend.