responsibility at what age?

Responsibility should be taught as young as possible whenever i can because it will make your life and their life easier. Eg.I try to teach my sons (4 & 2yrs) to pack their toys ...unfortunately, not to successful. I teach them to learn how to take care of themselve on road eg. stop on the pavement b4 rushing onto the road. I also trying to teach them to throw the paper in the bins. Dun worry be strict to your daughter because if your daughter learn to do all these stuff herself, it make your life and her life easier.

since i am student now,i don't have the experience to raise a child.but i remember when my mother tought me to do my own thing.i sleep on my bed about 7 years old.i went to school when i was 5.i can help my mother to cook when i was 6.so it is with my brother!

You are doing the right thing in having your daughter doing some chores. Kids want to help and having chores makes them feel a part of the family. It makes them feel important. beside the younger you start the more responsible they will be as adults.You are having her do age appropriate chores. Beside every kids should clean up after them selves. 10% of her time isn't too much. Even 2 year olds can help pick up their toys.

I don't think so. You're doing great. Many parents start earlier. I involve my son who is almost two, in my cleaning activities and make it fun. He wanted to take the broom from me when I was sweeping so now he has a little one. He "helps" me do the dishes - mostly splashing but using a sponge too. When he spills something he says, "miss miss miss (mess)" and runs about to look for a cloth and wipes it up. When I dust he wants to dust too now. I make it fun to clean up toys as I used to do for my oldest neice when I started babysitting at four - her parents just wanted me to tell her to clean up her mess - but I made it into a game - fun. Most parents start these things very young. Developmentally, kids at age two should be dressing themselves with minimal supervision, with us helping with the buttons. A kid throwing their own candy wrappers away - she should be able to throw away her own trash. Its a great start to teaching her to respect her own environment and her self. I'm going to start cooking - baking more in the oven and maybe baking some natural sweet things for the holidays and this is the perfect age to involve him and make it a fun activity that we do together. My husband contracts to the military (he's no longer enlisted) and we no longer live near family or friends so this a good way to bond with my son and do the things I need to get done during the day without him getting upset. He learns things that are essential to be a full partner with a woman later in life. Responsibility is important to learn in age appropriate ways. Soon he will be in preschool half the day leaving me time for these things. However, he will still want to clean up things he spills and will help put his toys away and get dressed. He usually brushes his teeth on his own but I start him out to make sure its thorough. And we'll still have bonding time, cooking, playing and very soon. taking karate together. He's almost old enough and I want that to be an important part of his life - if he likes it as it teaches balance, confidence and discipline and of course strength. You're not making her scrub the floors and clean out toilets. That's too much. Although I have a new friend here who made cleaning - especially the bathroom - that both of them, now teens, a boy and girl - fight over who gets to clean the bathroom.

I think using your daughter to make the bed is really too early for her. At age five yes she can put away her toys/books but making her bed no no for me. If she has something in her hand and it falls you can allow her to take it up small little things like those. What will you be doing next allowing her to wash her clothes at age 6 and cooking dinner for you at 7.

For me, to be responsibility since baby. because baby is like white plain cloths, so we as parents must educate since baby to be responsible person in future.

I don't think that your being too strict. My son is 2 1/2 and we have been working on to pick up his toys when he's done playing with them, brushing his teeth and of course cooking. He loves to cook with me and gets so mad if i don't let him when i'm frying stuff (i don't want him to get burnt) he understands that the oven is hot and trash goes in the trash can and dishes goes in the sink. It's good that they learn this as long as it's not an all the time thing and they get their play in on days also.

My daughter is also 5. And she does receive an allowance. She picks up her toys, Her bedroom floor is clean before she goes to bed. There are a few other things she does sprinkled throughout her week. She helps when she gets home from school. No I don't think you are strict. I think it helps put them on a good path.

I do not feel you are being strict. You are teaching her how to do things for herslef and what needs to be done on a daily basis. As long as she gets ome playtime, which you give her plenty of time to do, then i see no harm in it. My son is also 5 and i was fortunate, as far back as 3 yrs old he always was interested in doing things for himself or helping me, he loves to help with dishes (i let him do the plastic cups and things and then wash them after he does..lol) he loves to vacuum, make his bed..he isnt so fond of picking up his toys but he does do it, eventually..lol. I think you are doing great..keep up the good work, she will thank you for it later.

No your not. I just attended a christian parenting class last night. They were saying that very young children need chores. Not for cleaning purposes or anything but for the simple reason of learning responsibility. They feel that is the key to future success is the ability to recognise and carry out their responsibilities with no supervision or nagging. That is laying the foundation for success in life if your child takes personal responsibility for their things and their future. Good for you!!! Keep it up. Adjust it with her age, the older she gets the more detailed and complex her responsibilities can be. Just keep in mind it is about them taking personal responsibility, not you making them be responsible.

I was a little strict with my daughters right from start much against my wife's protest.I put then in a separate bed when they were 6 months old and in a different room when they were 4 years old. They had their won rooms and were responsible to keep it clean. They learnt fast and have bene independent all along. Today the elder daughter is married and yonger one is studying to be a lawyer.

I think we need to teach all our children to be responsible. There is a lot of parents out there that do not. If your daughter is happy doing those things that is fine. I always used to make a game out of putting away toys when my daughters where that age. We used to have a competion to see who could put the most away. My youngest daughter was always tidy. She always put her things away and even straightened up her shoes and 'I did not tell her to'. I see no wrong in what you are doing.

when it comes to responsibility one must teach their children at a very young age..starting this at very young age doesn't mean that you are a strict parent..most children thing that their parent are strict.but they will surely realize when they grow up..that they are what because of their parent.also its good that you car for you your children which is hardly seen nowadays..

I think it is too early for.This is the time of playing.Please let her enjoy the childhood.If you trying to give some pressure on her from now, may be it will react badly.So be careful.There are lots of time to teach her...........

You have a very sweet daughter and no, I don’t think you are being unnecessarily harsh on her. I’ve indulged my son quite a lot and can see the damage even now. He’s 9 but I have never expected him to do anything worthwhile. I’ve started though, making the bed, arranging his own books, dressing up and such but he’s quite slow and reluctant. So if your daughter is enjoying herself and not feeling pressurized then why not? After all its better than being hooked onto the TV! Its also a better way to bond with the mother that only studies.

I think that is fabulous! Keep up the good work. I taught my daughter to be responsible at a very early age and she has always been much more responsible than others her age. Even now that she is 17 she is more responsible that a lot of kids that I know. She has bought herself 3 cars and has a mobile home that she is buying now to live in when she turns 18 and can move out. I am very proud of her and I think that your daughter will amaze you at how much she will appreciate what you have done as she gets older.

I guess you are just fine. It's nice to know that at an early age, your daughter knows these stuff and that when she grows old she would have to do things without you bugging her around.

hi aunt,i think you have a little strict to you daughter.i remember when i was seven years old ,i started to do some house work just.may be west culture and east culture are different.but i think child should have more their own spear time.thank you give me the opportunity could practice my english again .i'm english very poor .

I think that if she is willing to do this then let her. My daughter will be 3 in december and she brushes her own teeth makes her bed tries to dress herself, she even helps with dishes though not very well and helps prepair her lunch. I havent forced these things on her she just decided to do this on her own. Sometimes its actually a hinder to me when she wants to wash dishes cause the ones she helps iwth always have to be rewashed by me but she is a great help. I think that letting them do what they want when it comes to house stuff and takin care of themselves is a great thing it teaches them independance!

When my son was five years old, I began to teach him to make bed or clean his bedroom, now he is 13 yeras old, he can help me do more housework than his father. My husband is really lazy, he never help me do the chores, I ever quarreled with him, but i found it's useless, so I turned to train my son, I hope in the future, he will be a considerate and deligent husband.