Love and Disability
By ganda8831
@ganda8831 (816)
Philippines
October 22, 2008 9:29pm CST
I have been differently abled almost all my life but it never was a hindrance to living life. I never really had any problems with meeting and having relationships with men. They say im smart, pretty, and have a great personality so they like me even if im different. My last relationship was two months ago which lasted for three years. Now im over him. My problem is that my friend introduced me to a really great guy via text. We've been texting and chatting everyday for the past month and we're really getting very close. But he doesnt have any idea that im physically challenged. I dont know how to tell him. I feel guilty because it feels as if im deceiving him. He thinks im pretty and hot because he hasnt seen me in person. I've never had this problem before because all my past boyfriends courted me knowing about my being physically challenged. What should i do?
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6 responses
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
Hi Ganda...
I guess the best thing to do is to tell the person straightout that you are physically challenged. If he's really into you, then that should not be a reason for him to stop liking/loving you. I think it's better to tell him early on so that he doesn't feel that you've deceived him in some way.
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@ememCz (139)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
The power of love sometimes is difficult to understand. If the person love you so much there is acceptance. He will love everything about you and be your strength in times when you are having difficulties in life. Just tell the guy of your situation. If he is the one meant for you, then physical condition is not a hindrance. Go girl!
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
23 Oct 08
If you just be yourself and when it comes up and you want to talk to him about it, then do. If hes a really great person and is looking at who you are inside, it will not matter to him. Your heart , is what he should look at! If you want to tell him right away then theres nothing wrong with that either. If it changes anyones mind, then they arent right for you anyway!
@kkanaka (886)
• Singapore
23 Oct 08
just blurt it out when you next text him and say you will understand it very well if he doesnt want to continue and tell him you are sorry you didnt tell him earlier, the earlier you tell him, less the damage, or else later you yourself will not want to let him go and will have difficulty telling the truth, good luck
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
Well my simple advice is "Go tell the truth about your disability." It always pays to be honest in everything. No matter what will be the consequence...it will always be for your own good. If he stopped communicating to you after he learns about your disability...then this means you don't deserve him and time to let go! There is no use hiding the reality because in the end he will still learn so why not tell as early as today so that you will not regret anything.
