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By jenj38
@jenj38 (51)
United States
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@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
24 Oct 08
That would depend on the circumstances. I have a brother who did not see his kids for almost 20 years. It was through no fault of his own. He wanted to be a part of their lives, but due to some threats to him and other legal things, he was not allowed to. He has, in the past few years, since the kids are grown, been back in touch with them.
Unless we know the situation behind it, we really can't judge.
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@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
24 Oct 08
Maybe having other kids has made him realize how much he missed out on with the first one. Has he only contacted the mother? Or has he tried to make contact with the kid as well? At this point, I would think it would just be up to the child to decide whether he wants to have any contact with his biological father or not.
@jenj38 (51)
• United States
24 Oct 08
He tried to contact the mother. And i would say that was true about the part about missing his first child if he was trying to contact the mom after having one child with the other girl but he has like 6 kids with this other girl...We was wondering when he may have started to think about the one he hasn't seen. Why wait so long though. He had all open lines to call the mother ages ago. No phone numbers have been changed. The hardest part of raising a child is done by the mother. Oh..might i add that in the past when the mom was trying to get support from the father...he refused to sign the papers and someone forged his signature for him because he did not want to sign it(this was told to us by the person who did the signing). So to me he truely didn't want nothing to do with the mom or the child. So why should she let him in now?
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@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I can see the mothers side of this, really, I can.
My thought is that it takes some people a very long time to grow up and realize
that they have made a major mistake.
However, as I said before, if the kid is 18 or 19 now, he is going to make his own choice in whether or not to see his biological father.
@freshrainer (284)
• China
24 Oct 08
First i should know the reason for his leaving me. If it is reasonable, that's ok. or shut the door forever to him.
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@jenj38 (51)
• United States
24 Oct 08
No...The father didn't want to work and help the mother out with the child. The father, to me(this is a friend of mine story...We thought we can get some comments or some advice):o), never tried and just went on with his life and got married and had kids with this other girl. So..I would say he sorta left my friend with no choice but to go on with her life as well and then after her husband done took care of the child from birth, the father wants to come in now and wreck a happy family. I hear these stories all the time and i think the laws need to be changed just a little in some cases.
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