How Rude...

Oh yes, I have had this happen so many tims that if had five dollars for every time it happened, I would be a lot better off. I don't think a true would be so callous and unfeeling as to say something like that, but that part is my personal feeling. I cannot imagine being so rude to a friend. I think that I wouldn't have told her how much I weighed. Knowing myself so well I would probably told her, "That really isn't any of your business after you made a remark like you did." But then I can be rude to people when they have been rude to me.

You know the one I hate? "She is bigger than you Amber" Yes I have a few lbs on me but saying something like that doesn't help!!

That was rude of your friend. I hope you stood to correct her . It is hard to lose weight and sometimes it seems no matter how much you lose you always have some people thinking it's not enough or don't believe you lost anything. It's usually people who are super skinny like a size 2-6 who act like this. If your even a size 10 they think your free willy. If your friend doesn't support your weight loss then maybe you need to talk to her and if she still doesn't understand then maybe she isn't such a good friend worth keeping. That is such negative talk on her behalf. Good luck on your weight loss and don't give up, even if you cheat for one day get back on it the next day. 17 lbs weight loss is awesome!

Wow, that really was rude. I would have been upset if someone had said something like that to me. Especially out in public like that right before you were about to order your food. Congratulations on losing 17 pounds so far. Keep up the good work.

Why would you say that to someone? Even if she was joking that was in bad taste and being your friend I would think that she would have some understanding that that would make you feel bad. How would she have felt if someone said that to her? Congratulations on losing the weight. Don't let comments like that keep you down. I don't really know your friend so I can't judge if she said it to be mean or not but sometimes people say things without realizing it and it could be that she didn't really think about what she said. I've never had anything like this happen to me before. But, I used to be really skinny, now I'm more at a healthy weight, and I was watching TV with my cousins. It was one of those endurance shows I guess. The girl took off her shirt (she was wearing a bikini under) before she went into the water to water ski I think and her ribs showed because she was taking off her shirt and my cousin started yelling like she was grossed out by it. It wasn't like the girl was extra skinny or anything but sometimes it shows when you reach or stretch and I kind of felt bad because I was thinking "that could be me." Lol I don't think they noticed though. I was the only skinny one there so I don't think she thought much about what she was doing. Keep it up and try not to let what your friend said bother you. The more you lose, the more it will show. Seventeen pounds might not be so drastically visible and maybe that's why she said that but it'll be more visible once you keep it up. Take care.

Congratulations on losing 17Ibs. That was not very encouraging of your friend and very rude. She really knows how to put you off dieting, and it makes you wonder why you bother. My husband lost two stone last year. He had a really hard time getting it off. We went to visit his old Grandmother, and the first thing she said was, "Every time I see you son you get fatter". We just looked at each other in total shock. He went home and ate and ate. I told him not to worry, she cannot see properly anyway. Just by telling someone that, 'it is good what they are doing', even if it is lying. Is much better than being rude. Keep up the good work, and happy dieting.

Well I'm a lot heavier than you according to your picture and if you posted your true age I am nearly double your age so I do know where you're coming from. At your size 17 pounds is a tremenous weight loss and of course she saw that and for whatever reason she was being very rude. For some reason she was feeling insecure about something. Because you're young and also the fact that you're a nice looking lady Please do yourself a favor and don't look back continue ahead and continue loosing weight because by time you get to be my age you think you lost five pounds till you look behind and find them, the pounds went nowhere. You can do it and you know it, you've lost 17 pounds. It's hard and if you do fall on your face one day don't beat yourself up over it just stick to ypur diet and look ahead. Most times unless you have a medical problem you can eat what you want pretty much it's portion that you need to watch. You can do it!!!Go Girl.

Geesh, are you sure she is a friend? Congrats on your success. That really is great. Keep up the good work, singlemommy.

Ive lost a lot of weight and sometimes wonder where from lol but I would never be rude as to ask somewhere else where they had. Especially if it was a friend.

I am not on or have never been on a diet, but I can imagine how you must have felt. Your friend should have been your biggest supporter, and applaud you on whatever weight you lost. She probably noticed your weight loss and may have been feeling a little jealous. I agree with you that she was really rude, there are somethings you just do not say, even if you are thinking them. Like you said, she should have said something like keep up the good work, and kept her mouth shut. Keep on doing whatever you are doing, because 17 pounds is a great weight reduction.

i would be somewhat upset.. but yeah maybe they were joking around. but wrong time and wrong place.. but congladuation on what you lost. keep up the good job..

Yes, I've had a similar situation in the past. I've learned that some people have such a negative way of presenting questions toward others. I really don't believe they know how they come across to others. (My best friend is like that but after many years I've learned to just ignore her comments. Believe me, it took many, many years for me to learn how to do that trick.) From what I've learned about weight loss, most of the time I would have to lose at least twenty pounds in order for it to be at all noticable. And, personally, I don't think it's anybody's business how much I weighed when I started dieting.

usually, i would just smile then i wont talk to that person, but when im not in the mood, i would tell him/her that he/she is being rude and his/her remark isnt funny.

Wow,it's so unbelievable that you have lost 17 pounds.I have always wanted to lose weight.But I couldn't keep my diet.So,you are excellent.Don't care your friend's words too much.She is not malicious.Please keep on doing what you are doing now.Best wishes!

wow..i would be pissed too. i was always on a diet in high school and my friends never said anything to me, they actually encouraged me to eat more since they never saw me eat too much. i know i need to go on another diet now or mostly start exercising again like you said. you always can't noticeably tell when someone has lost weight. the most you can see is in the face. i think you should just ignore your friend and do what you're doing because it seems to be working.

I think someone is a little jealous don't you think? 17 pounds is a lot of weight loss and I'm sure she noticed it but just said it out of spite. Not nice at all. If my friend lost a few pounds I would keep encouraging her and even join in her weight loss program if I could. Keep it up singlemommy and don't mind anyone. They're just insecure about themselves and their own weight.

Hello! By what you say, she really was rude. Even if she was not serious, it wasn't a good joke at all. Only those who are on a diet and exercising know how much effort you must put into it in order to see the first results. It's not as easy as saying: it requires you a lot. And when you see that it is working, you start being so happy about it... But when somebody says something like that, then it is pretty bad. If you have already lost 17 pounds, then keep up the good work and do not give up yet. You should avoid food from McDonalds, though, but I bet you know what you are doing. :D When you reach your ideal weight, you go to this friend and tell her she is fat. ;) Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Well congrats on losing 17 lbs, this is a huge weighloss and not just in numbers but in your commitment, hardwork and understanding that you still can have what you want and still lose.... But I do know that with friendships, even close friendships, envy can rear it's ugly head as jealousy. And this is what it sounds like. And I bet it hurt you a little right, kinda like the 17 lbs was nothing....well it is something....and it does not matter where it was lost it is the fact that it is GONE....right? In fact if it ever happens again simply point out to her that is is not only rude to say such a thing to you, but as your friend she should be supportive. Maybe she doesn't realize how her words affect people. And do not think it is rude to point out rudeness..if it hurts you talk about it. So keep up the good work.

Well, my situation is reversed, I'm trying to gain weight! So I gained quite a few pounds and people would say I'm little or skinny, I can't stand that! They would ask me where did I gain the weight and stupid stuff like that! I'm pretty slim, kinda cocky, but small framed. I'm actually 6 pounds over the average for my height, according to health standards, so I'm not sure what people are talking about. Guess they want men to be chunky or something, but I workout and try to eat often, want a few more ponds but, hey it's my make up. I understand, how it can hurt u, but show her what ur about, then she'll be filled with envy:) Taripre$

that is so rude. you should have told her to lose her attitude and go eat a cheeseburger. im commend you for losing that weight and if i had already lost 17 pounds i would want to treat myself to a bunch of mcdonalds. you should just not even take what she says seriously. she was probably jealous or something and wanted to try and make you feel bad. its so rude.