Whats your opinion of an only child?

I have thought about this soooooo much. My son is an only child and I never wanted to raise an only child. I was the only one still living at home from the time I was 12 on and I hated it. I will do everything in my power to keep my son from suffering the usual ill effects of being an only child.

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Hello swarovski. I agree with you that an only child in the family might feel lonesome as he or she has no siblings, but more attention is given to her or him as she or he is the only child. Good education is available as well as some other services. But there are also some disadvantages for a family with an only child. That is, when the child gets married in the adult life, the parents will be lonesome without their kid with them. And it gives more pressure to the only child...

I am an only child, and yes you are right it is a lonely life, harder for me as my parents ran a pub full time so I never saw much of them. As an only child I felt growing up that I was lonely and always wanted to surround myself with people, but what I realise now that I am older is that I am a loner and I do not actually need anybodys company to have a good time! I was over protected, and it did make for a rocky relationship with my parents, but they were only doing what they thought was right for me.

I only have one child but unfortunately we divorced half way through his life. My opinion may not mean much but if you can have two, go for it. It's good for them to learn to share. One is all I could handle and I love him more than anything this life has in it! Thanks and God Bless!

I have 2 brothers. My DH comes from a family with 2 sisters and 2 brothers. Right now, we only have one DD but she's 5 months old. We do plan on having at least one more, if not 2 more. I'm hoping for 3 kids, but we may have to stop at 2. But we'll see. I personally wouldn't want to have only one child. All the children's games say from 2-X amount of players. Even computer games and Nintendo games are all made for more than one player. If you play against the system, you're going to lose. It's no fun being an only child.

I have known several only children and it depends on the parents how well they turn out. Some are very lonely, others responsible and others selfish. My daughter in law is an only child and she was lonely a lot as a child she said and played with her cats. But she is sweet and she is pretty responsible. She and my son have one little girl and hope to have at least one more child as she does not want their daughter to be an only child like she was. I think most are a bit lonely unless they have lots of cousins and or neighbor and friends kids over often.

Hi! I believe it's not about the only child itself, but the way his/her parents have made this only child believe how lucky he/she were to be the only one. There are some parents who do not give much concern and attention, perhaps thinking that it's fine because the child does not have anybody else to depend on. In this way, the child, as he/she grows up, would have the feeling of being alone, and will soon come to the conclusion that it's sad to be an only child. In reality, this should not be the case because the needs would be better taken care of because there's no one else to think about. I have known many of them (people who did not have any siblings) who are actually very happy.

I have an only child. Yes, he can be spoiled and act like it sometimes, but that's why it's really important that only children have discipline. We don't let him get away with murder. It's unfortunate that he has to be an only child, but I can't have more kids and he's all I can handle anyway. A hellion from birth, that one... I've met plenty of "normal" only children, even though I really don't like to use the word normal to describe anyone because the definition is different depending on who you ask. Anyway, not all only children are bad. Some parents didn't have a choice other than to have only one child, so I don't think the parents should be criticized for having only one. My son was sort of a "miracle" baby. We weren't even supposed to be able to have kids, so I would rather have had him and have an only child that not have him.

I was an only child, my ex was an only child and my son is an only child. Out of the three of us only one was extremely spoiled and thinks he is better than the rest of the world - my ex. I didn't want to be an only child, but my mother wasn't able to have more children so thats just the way it was. I also wanted more children, but since my marriage wasn't a good one I didn't think it was good to bring more children into that type of an atmosphere.

I agree with you. Being the only child is very lonely in a family,luckily I am not the only child in my family,lol. My ex-boyfriend is the only child in his family,being the only child,he gets what he wants from his parents. In other words,he is pampered and relies so much on his parents. He cannot really make up his own decisions,everything his parents arrange for him. I think these are all the bad points for being the only child in the family. Parents tend to give all the attention and over care about the only child they are having. They never know that they are actually spoiling their child.

I am an only child. My friends always called me spoiled rotten. Only children do tend to get more than children with siblings. My friend is from 5 children in her family and never got too much. It's harder on groceries and clothing when there are more kids involved. I prayed every night for a brother or sister. I would love to have someone to call brother or sister. I vowed that I would never have an only child. I have 3 daughters. They sometimes hate each other but when they grow older, they will realize the importance of having each other. At least I hope they do since I don't have anyone.

Hello, Swarovski87! For me, being an only child is just equally advantageous and disadvantageous. It is okay because the attention is solely given to that only child. His needs and wants are given easily because the budget must be very easily handled. However, like you said, it is also seen as negative because it is truly very lonely being the only child in the family. You don't even have a brother or sister to play with. The parents even spoiled the child. Nonetheless, children are gift from God. So, whether he is alone or not in the family, I believed so that nothing will hinder the belief that he definitely brings joy to the family! Have a nice day to you and keep posting!

I think an only child only really learns how to compromise later on in life. I think it gets lonely when you want a sibling there to share some of your experiences with and there might be extra pressure from the parents to be a good child and be studious. An only child could get selfish and there're a lot of experiences he'll miss out from having no sibling.

I think only children are very lonely, as they don't have any brothers or sisters to do things with. From my experience they also tend to be very selfish, as they never learned to share around. If you are thinking of having a baby, I think it is a good idea to have at least two!

Hello! An only child tends to be lonely. It is pretty boring if they have to live at home without meeting their friends too often. Also, they will get used to receiving a lot of attention. Therefore, when nobody is paying attention to them, they will do stupid things to attract others. However, having more than one child may make the other jealous. In fact, there are good and bad points in having only one children. But I would recommend having at least two, so they can learn how to share and this kind of things, which will help them on a later part of their lives. Not that they won't learn if they are alone. They may also learn. It all depends on the parents they have. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Yeah,I quite agree with you.In china,we have the one-child policy,it is that we must have only one child in one family,because the large population.The government do this in order to limit the increase of the population. Just as what you said,there are a lot of questions to have only one child,and another question is that when their parents are old,they maybe can not afford to rear them.

i strongly agree with u buddy!! i am the only son and they are over over possessive about me and i always feel lonely when my parents go out and i always want other's company to remove my lonelinss!! They are overcatious about us and they always keep instructing us and they treat us like a small kindergarden kiddo!!! my parents treat me like that and they always be back of me!!

Hello, I guess you are correct .I being the only child have suffered enough loneliness as my dad used to stay away from us and mom was a teacher.At times i would see other friends with their parents and would cry.For only being one my mom is overprotective and possessive also.Though two months back i got married but still she treats me as a kid.And if my hubby scolds or says anything to me in front of her she gets angry on him.Then i have to explain her that now i am a part of his life also. But,being alone has been very terrible for me.I would suggest all the couple to have two children so that they dont feel alone.nd i myself will have two kids. Bye

I love life as an only child. I don't have to share anything with anybody, and in the end i won't have to quarrel with them every day over rations or portions of everything, i think it's amazing to only focus on one child. Personally, I would have two or more, only because I like to have commotion around me, and I hate being quiet. Also, I know it sounds horrible, but if one of your kids is gone, you have the other one to care for and also live for. I am biased, but I definitely know that my life is easier and smoother bc i'm an only child :D