Lack of communication

It seems that you need to be the one to tell him how you feel about it. This will at least start the communication. He may reveal to you that he didn't know how you felt and the importance of communicating with you. It may be your approach. Sometimes we need to be more casual in order that the other person doesn't feel that we are demanding our view to be accepted or so that it doesn't appear to be nagging or b!tching. Women are verbal creatures and sometimes men are more about action. So unless he is actually being rude and doesn't give a flip he probally just doesn't know how to effectively communicate with you. But you have to not give up and try to keep the lines of communication open, even if it takes a little bit more effort on your part.

We used to have a massive lack of communication in our relationship, it causes severe problems! This went on for about eight years and whenever I tried to speak to my partner, she would just bottle everything up. I had issues I was going over and over in my mind and eventually it got to the point where I just couldn't take it any more. I basically lost the plot and got really stressed out and that's when she began communicating with me, we had eight years of mess to sort out and once we'd communicated with each other it was like a huge weight had been lifted off our shoulders.

I have been experiencing the same thing as you are now. But now my husband had understood he is actually doing me harm when he snapped at me whenever I tried to bring up a discussion. Now I think our relationship is much better than before, because now he had realized how much damage he had done in our relationship. But to reach this stage in our life, it has a long journey to look back. There are many instances when I cried deeply because he never understood my intention. Every communication that I started made him turn into an angry beast. I never understood why is he acting like he was. But later I tried to understand what is the real problem. Then I knew he has a different understanding of the words I am using, and that's the only problem in our communication. For example when I said I am bored, he thought I am blaming him and I am saying he is boring. So I tried explaining to him many times and thank god now he is trying to understand me. You have to try very hard to reach a stage where both of you can understand each other. It is difficult but you have to try and help him to understand you. Make sure he knows that he is hurting you to the maximum and that you suffer when he did that to you. But tell him about it when both of you are not in a fighting mood. Do this when both of you are in a relaxing situation. I hope this helps, good luck.

Hello, Shell94! That's kind of sad! I have been experiencing that same problem with my husband sometimes. So during bedtime and he is asleep and the children, too, I try to anylyze what's going on around the house. Maybe, both of us had just been so tired with the day's work and children causing us to freak out very easily with just the simplest issues. I try to be calm, what I do, I just put in my mind that life is just like this. That these are just the spicies of life. For as long as we talk and settle things, we are still together at the end of the day. Regards, and happy posting!

Hi there! Communication is playing a very important role in the relationship. I can understand how you feel about your husband. Sometimes it is really fustrating when he didn't actually get the point of you. Especially in a married life we have to try harder to listen and understand each other more. My advise for you is to talk to him heart to heart in a good time. Sometimes, you can try to listen to him first and understand him more. Maybe he's just having a bad times and needs your support and your understanding. Don't take his words too personally because it will hurt you. Hope it will work. Good LUCK.

We do lack quality time in today's relationships. Both partners work, they are over stressed at work with deadlines, fear of getting fired and then it is very easy to explode your anger on the person you love most. It is not fair and one has to be sure that he does not take his beloved one for granted. I hope that you manage to sort out your problem. © ronaldinu 2008

I have has the same problem that you have justlast week.. I consulted with a psychic and they casted a spell on my partner.. And since that same day, he has been acting very nice to me.. He now talks to me more.. He acts like he loves me..

That's really normal situations in one relationship. I get to used of it, getting upset everytime, but that's still okay. Coz you always love each other, you need to remind him always the important things you have talking about and confront him about your feelings coz that's what i do sometimes. Happy posting.

well, why not try to cooked every special menu for your husband like breakfast in bed..I think this is a good start to bring back good relationship...Relay a story with him..and keep smiling..Tell him that you have love him so much? By the way how may times you greet "I love you" with your husband in a day?

you better tell it to your hubby, say what you feel.

You and youre husband of course can tak about anything. You are supposed to be married to your best friend. But in any relationship, timing really matters. When you bring up important topics, make sure yu are in the right timing.

Calm down,find the problem and gap between you and your husband,we always think that we are totally right and from the view of your,you certainly think that he has destroyed everything,but you should think over if you have also done something incorrent.You can sit down and open your minds to communicate with each other

communication is certainly a must in todays society...and as far as the present scenario is concerned we need to have good knowledge about mostly everything even if we dont have we need to have skills to be hold on properly to yourself...