do you fall in love with your teacher??
By yadav8797
@yadav8797 (1211)
India
October 27, 2008 11:37am CST
friend,this question may feel something unexpected to answer,but this may be possible sometimes my friends. i am in love with my teacher in my institute. i don;t that teacher will love me or not. i am scoring good marks in her subject and become good student for her.friend,tell me can i purpose my teacher or not??the age gap between the teacher and students are around 4 years.tell me what to do.can i purpose confess the teacher??tell me what to do
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36 responses
@Lexus656 (672)
• United States
27 Oct 08
No I have not ever fallen in love with a teacher. Now don't get me wrong I have had some cute teachers but never anything where I wanted more then that. Now I am sure that there were girls in my school that wanted to get with our one hot teacher. To me I have always dated older then my age but there was something just wrong about wanting your teacher that way. I guess if you are in a college setting the it would be okay to liek your teacher but anything younger then that would be wrong. Also I think that you should wait until you move onto another class it might cause peoblems for you and them if you are still in their class.
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@Newbie777 (32)
• India
27 Oct 08
dude,having a crush with your teacher is what every boy experiences in life.but in your case you are young rite??.at our childhood phase having a crush like this is ok because we are seeing only a mature lady in our class,in your case everday you are interacting with her it arouses your thoughts:)but my advise is dont let her know this first case is that she wont allow it and you cant face her anymore
if you still wish to make a move i would say go talk to her about your situation but not in a romantic way,you do it like you are worried and express it
my personal opinion is that dont tell her and try dating a young girl,because its just an infactuation you will forget her once your studies are over:)
best of luck in your studies
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@shortbunny1980 (127)
• United States
28 Oct 08
A lot of times, this is not a good thing for the teacher. It is against their rules. Now if you really want to do this, then you should wait until you are no longer in the class. Then you are no longer her student. Just one question? How do you know you love her? Have you had a social conversation with her? You may have lust for her but if you do not know her private personality then you do not know her. For example, My husband and I worked in the same building but different departments. We did run on the ambulance together and we became friends. When I split up with my boyfriend and needed a friend because of a risk of cancer, we went out to dinner. I never thought that I would date him let alone marry him. We went to dinner and found we have a lot in common because we turn our personalities off at work and we are professional. You really need to get to know her before you decide it is love and not lust.
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@redfujiapple (326)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
i admire one of my subject teacher before but not to the point i fell in love to him. its better to confess to her what you felt but dont expect something from it coz i think student-teacher as lover is not allowed at school. kudos to you my friend..
@chiaeugene (2225)
• China
27 Oct 08
i have a crush with my relief teacher when i am in junior class around the age of 10. i think she is sweet and caring. i always enjoy her lesson and she also brought me to a church camp and also encourage me to attend church. however i knew that that is a crush and it is not possible for me to confess to her as our age gap is about 12 yrs difference. In your case, i would say go for it as the age diff is only 4 years. just do not see it as a teacher/student relationship would be fine. However, i think that your teacher may not be ready as the pressure would be on her and not you cos u are a student. unless she does not mind, i do not see it happening unless she give up teaching in your school. this is only my personal opinion
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@061234217 (133)
• China
28 Oct 08
When I was 14,I carried a torch for my biologic teacher.He is so sweet,cute and facetious.I hated biology. But from that moment,I became a good student and have good marks on biology. He seems like me very much.But I was too young to tell him my feelings about him.Then I graduated,went to senior high school and now I am already a college student.I learnt that that is not love.I can't explain why,but I know it is not.So,are you sure you love her?Or just a feeling that you never have?Make sure what your feeling is...
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
28 Oct 08
That is very common for students to fall in love with teachers. I was madly in love with my sophomore history teacher in high school. Ah, the high school teacher crush!
But, being 14 and he, 22, I knew it would never be! LOL
It all depends on how old you are but I feel that while you are a student it is not a good idea to pursue a teacher, in any case.
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@angeltrhix (279)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
I only have some crush in my teachers but fall in love with them is a no no for me. I never been in the situation that I fell in love with them. Only admiration I can do for them.
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@arcenal (171)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
Maybe it's not love,maybe you're just admiring hr. Try to evaluate your feelings really carefully before you tell her that you love her. If you're sure that you do love her,tell her, there's nothing wrong in expressing how you feel.
@jnk3dfx (721)
• India
28 Oct 08
Yap, I was in eight grade and i newly joined to that school. And there was new teacher that year. She was so prety and i loved her smile. I still remember her face, i used be noughty inside class, but in her class i used sit silently. Never used to make any noice. She used to teach Maths, even i dont like maths, due to this loving teacher i score very good score of 99 out 100 for the first time in that school.
Sadly she left to school very next year joined other school, i was very sad that moment, even i asked my dad to swith the school where this loving teacher went. But my dad refused. Anyways its been long time since then and its been long time since i moved to deferent place. I am staying aways from family, but family is still there. When ever i go to my native i will definately go to that school and i will chrish those childish moment, the beautiful days of life, and the prety smile of my Teacher. I dont know where she is now, but she will be my best teacher for ever.
Regards,
Jnk3dfx.
@mrsgoodygoody00 (895)
• United States
28 Oct 08
When I was back in h.s., I had a cruch on my math teacher. His name was Mr. Kay. I thought that he was so attractive. I was not in love with him though. Looking back on it though, he really wasn't that attractive. I just wanted to do some things with him. There was also a coach that I had a cruch on. I would have done some things with him too if I could've. When I think about it now, I would still think of him as being attractive. I think you need to get a girlfriend. It's not an idea to try to date an instructor. You're going to put her in a bad position, and make things very uncomfortable. Just leave it alone.
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@swarovski87 (328)
• Singapore
28 Oct 08
Hi friend, this is an interesting topic. I personally have fallen in love with my private tution teacher before because we are about the same age, around 1- 2 years age difference. I have told my tution teacher about my feelings during that time and after some time, we got together, i am glad to say that our relationship is still going strong and it had been 4 years now. CHEERS and good luck to you!
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@clover1308 (58)
• Australia
28 Oct 08
Hi friend, when I read your topic of discussion it reminds me of my tuitor in secondary school. I know how you feel because it happened to me. I always felt excited when he's coming and teach me. I just adored him much till I couldn't even concentrate on the lesson which makes me feel really bad. I guess if that motivate you to study and achieve a good result, why not! but don't get too far however he's still your teacher maybe let him be your best friend first at this time..
Wait untill you've graduated lol
@emarie (5442)
• United States
28 Oct 08
it depends on your culture. here, most schools have a policy against teacher/student relationships. i would think most schools nationally would adopt the same policy. it is normal to have a crush on your teacher. i never had a teacher close enough to my age or cute enough to even consider that. i personally would wait until you're at least out of her class to say anything about your feelings for her. That's just really my opinion. but try not to do anything while she is still your teacher since that can have a negative effect.
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@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
27 Oct 08
As what I have known, student is not allowed to have a relationship with their professor/teacher. It may leads to fire the teacher in the school he/she goes to. Maybe it was just an admiration you feel for your teacher. But why not, if you feel something for him/her then say what you feel. Though it will give you both gaps or maybe the rumors will spread out in your school.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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28 Oct 08
Hi yadav8797,
In no circumstamces you should say anything to your teache, it is a normal thing to feel, as we all have for a certain teacher, but this is not love at so please do not say anything as it would be a bad thing for the teacher. She will get into to trouble for encourageing you because that is how the authorithies will see it and she can lose her teaching job, beside she may not feel anything for but just a student, just please forget about it and move one.
Tamara
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@monimo (83)
• Canada
27 Oct 08
oh this has got to be the worst thing I heard all day.
You cannot go out with any teacher or TA or anything else within your university or college or school.
I myself had a crush on my university teacher, but of course, I didn't let it run my life. You need to understand that mild flirtation is ok, but don't think anything else can come of it, unless of course she will tell you she likes you or something similar.
Think about it that she can get fired, or both of you can get in trouble. Just think of it as a phase in your life thatwill go away.
Plus, you can't REALLY fully like someone until you get to know them personally, so just try to enjoy it, but don't get involved in it.
Cheers!
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
28 Oct 08
Oh, i must say i have never encounter such a charming teacher yet,so i have never fallen in love with my teacher.My teacher are always men or women as the same age of my parents,so i have never be attracted by them,not only appearance,but also their character,they are always so strict
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@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I had a big crush on my Theology professor when I was in college. he is now the head of the theo department in that university and I am still wondering how he aged.
I didnt fall in love with any of my teachers, but i got infatuated. you might just want to evaluate yourself first. you may only be infatuated and not really in love with her.
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