Are you loud, timid, shy, introvert, extrovert or a go getter?

That's interesting, I have never heard of the MBTI personality test! I'm not sure I would be that keen on knowing the results though! I guess that it's a good thing to know who you are though, what you are like. I shall keep this test in mind and perhaps challenge myself to try and take it. Thanks for your thoughts and this information. Andrew

It's quite painless, lol. I am an introvert (concerned with the inner world of my thoughts) who collects information and understands things mainly through intuition rather than through facts and figures, and who makes decisions and judgements based on my sense of values rather than on pure logic and rational thought. That doesn't mean I can't mix well (and I spent a lot of my life as a professional performer), nor use facts, nor use logical thinking (I am, after all, a PhD, and you don't get one of those without being able to use logical reasoning, and I have worked as an accountant, so facts and figures are easy too), but the things I listed are what I PREFER to do. That's what the test tells you, what your naturally preferred way of doing things is. Understanding that I make my judgments based on values where someone else makes them based on logic allows me to understand that he is not an idiot lol, just differently oriented to me, and with that knowledge there is room for communication. Lash

I agree. If you know much about your personality, it would be easy to accept yourself and not be bothered anymore. You could also control your actions because you know what you are capable of.

Hey, that sounds like you really understand yourself! It's great when you actually know yourself, know the way you are. I finally found this out about myself recently! I live my life in accordance with the way I have been brought up, quiet evenings, a bit of telly, a good book, some solitary cycling and just maybe, I have a little bit of ego myself! Hey, if you don't think good things about yourself, who else is going to? Thanks. Andrew

i agree with you how others see you all depends on how you act around them but this comes from how you view yourself if you are not happy with who you are bad things will happen you will be withdrawn and shy or worse over aggressive and uncompromising but if you have a good self image it will reflect i your interaction with others i am the oldest of four, top of the food chain you could say but as i grew up i always had my siblings looking up to me, for advice or a good example or whatever this helped me develop a good image as i felt i was respected and my opinions were always valuable today i am the same, i expect the respect of others (which should really be a given) i feel about myself that i am valuable in my group of friends (maybe even the "lead") my family although sometimes territorial at home still view me in the same "food chain" way as when we were kids all of this is only because i act "valuable and in control" even if i am not

You know what, that's amazing! You have described me to a t! I am exactly like that and there's nothing wrong with this. It's nice to communicate with a like minded individual. I have one brother although I lost contact with him many years ago, quite sad but that's the way it is. Like you, when I was a child I never used to mix and I found groups quite uncomfortable. I'm not that sociable either! I don't go out to clubs and pubs and I generally enjoy my own company. I do have several friends that come over to my flat but that's about it. I prefer them coming to my home or me going to theirs. Maybe it's just me, I'm not sure but, I have never liked that pressure that you get from work colleagues! They would always say at the end of the day, on a Friday, "How about coming for a drink?", something along those lines. I always felt uncomfortable with that, I didn't fancy going. Anyway, that's me, I love the way I am. You should live your life in a way that makes you most happy I guess. I'm content now and that's all that matters. Fancy going to the pub?

There's always Saw 5! I am right in remembering that you like horror films too! Sky are showing Saw 4 on Saturday so I'll be glued to that! Oh and being sensitive doesn't help either, that's another weakness, some view it as a strength, it's always been my weakness, I just wish I could adopt the 'devil may care attitude' about people and not be so damn self conscious!

Oh I think introverts tend to know themselves better sometimes. I know I have spent a lot of time thinking about it in my youth. I had to develop the courage to stand up for people as it is hard for introverts to do that. I never stopped getting butterflies when I stood up to others over what was right or when I gave speeches and if I could avoid it I would. I find it much easier to write an email or a letter to someone than to face them and deal with it. Some people had a problem with that and would complain about it, but if I could get away with it I preferred the way which caused me less stress.

That's nice, it sounds like you understand yourself! I had difficulty understanding myself until a few years back. Now, I have finally found acceptance! I accept the way I am now. I don't know why I mentioned the word timid in my discussion but, I'm sure that there are people out there who are like this. I used to be like this! Even though I am an introvert I still have strong will. I do tend to speak up for myself like you. Anyway, I like the saying, "Live and let live!" Andrew

Yeah, i think so. I love the countryside too. I appreciate the serenity and peace in the countryside and the simplicity of life it offers and yes, the quiet evenings, i think by the fireplace would be so lovely during the winter. We don't have winter in here and i do love some quiet time by myself. I also appreciate my friends and i do go to parties, though i am not into socializing with the upper class of society. Simple parties with friends are much preferred by me.

You sound like you have some understanding of yourself, the way you tick! I love the peaceful things in life! I love the quiet of the countryside! I love looking at the wild life and seeing the birds doing their thing! I don't like parties and so, I never go to them. I don't go to pubs or clubs either and so, I guess I'm pretty introverted in this way. I think that the most important thing in all of this is acceptance! Do you accept yourself for the way you are? This is something I struggled to do until recently. I love the way I live my life now. I certainly enjoy quiet evenings to myself. Now that winter has arrived those evenings seem all the more attractive! Andrew

That sounds like you have a plan that really works for you! I have always been uncomfortable in groups for some reason. I just live my life in a way that pleases me now and I'm really content deep inside. I suppose it's nice to be with others though, I'm slowly getting into the habit of doing that and building up slowly. Thanks. Andrew

well, i think my son, too, has a slow process of getting out of his shell, i had him join a lot of contest wherein he sang, he danced, he did ramp modelling, he declaimed in front of many people, but still now, he's a shy boy... maybe in due time... :)

I struggle to make new friends myself and I say, thank heavens for this online community at My Lot! I have always been a quiet person and I never joined in with the crowd! During my school years I always used to sit at the back of the class and I didn't want to be the centre of attention in anything. Well, I'm more comfortable with myself now than I was back then. I think that animals tend to understand me better! Animals have this kind of sixth sense! Andrew

I'm introverted like you and I tend to enjoy the quiet life. I'm not totally isolated though! I have a few good friends who I can really rely on. The thing is, they tend to go out partying but I don't go with them. They understand the way I am. They generally come over to my flat and I normally would go over to theirs. I agree with you that, to be totally alone, this would be quite difficult. I think that everyone needs someone in their life whether it be friends or a serious relationship. I generally experience a lot of quiet time! I love a good book, a nice movie, a hot meal, whatever helps me to relax during the evening hours. Andrew

Hi, it's sure nice to be communicating with a fellow introvert! I'm exactly like that and I enjoy indulging in solitary activities. I love reading, I enjoy the computer and I also love cycling out in the countryside. There's nothing wrong with this way of life, each to their own I guess. Andrew

That's nice! A healthy balance in life is a good thing! It sounds as though you can adapt to all kinds of different situations. I'm generally quiet most of the time and I do like speaking with people but, it takes me a while to get to know them first. Once I'm comfortable being around someone, I then start to slowly lower the barriers! I don't judge people anyhow, I think it's right to give them the benefit of the doubt, at least until they prove otherwise. Thanks. Andrew

It's nice to be shy! It's also nice to be a riot too! I'm quiet although I wouldn't say shy! I love my own company and I love those quiet evenings in, I plonk myself in front of the telly! I like cycling in the countryside though, this gives me so much pleasure, nothing but me and the wildlife! Andrew

That's good that you have found a way that you are comfortable with. I will forever remain the quiet type although I wouldn't say I am necessarily shy anymore! I much prefer the introverted kind of life! Andrew

It's nice to have your own space. I used to live with others in a house share and I found this very uncomfortable! I felt that I didn't have the freedom to do what I wanted! I was glad to get out of that situation and I now live on my own, far better! I need to know that I can recharge my batteries on a regular basis, this at least keeps me sane! Thanks. Andrew

I think that I have always been introverted! I don't remember a time when I was ever loud in any way. I suppose the way you were brought up has something to do with this. I have never been around people that were quite loud in the way that they expressed themselves. So, this is the way that I have turned out, quiet, likes his own company and all the other things that this brings! Have you ever been on the tube and you noticed something totally wacky? Well, there was this one chap and he was at the top end of extrovertism! He was drunk anyhow and he was dancing to some Irish tune in his head, clapping his hands, tapping his feet, definitely funny to watch! It would be nice to be carefree like that from time to time! I guess I'm stuck in my introvertedness though! Andrew

It sounds like you have led quite a busy lifestyle even though you have been introverted! You make a lot of sense to me though. I'm totally introverted! I don't lock myself away from the world or anything, I just don't get involved in parties and I don't go out socialising! I don't have a problem with speaking to others though, I prefer speaking on a one to one basis as opposed to being part of a group! Thanks for your thoughts. Andrew

I definitely don't think you are a crazy and gloomy person! Perhaps you are somewhat introverted but that is ok! I like myself this way! It's good that you have a love of your life though, someone that understands you. I spend quite a lot of time on my computer at home and so I don't get involved with people that much. I suppose that I'm very communicative though when it comes to the online community! Thank heavens for the Internet! Andrew

I've been in that situation in the past! There are just some people that you will never get along with! This could be the result of differing views and opinions, you just somehow don't get along! I do love my own space, I get a chance to really breath and relax. It's nice to have a balance as you seem to have. Keep dancing I guess! Andrew

That certainly makes a lot of sense to me. It sounds like you have achieved a balance which is good. I guess I'm more of a one trick pony! I'm quiet, introverted and proud to be this way I guess. This is just the way I am. I can speak to other people although only on a one to one basis. I'm not too keen on group discussions. I'm sure that there are a lot of people that put on an exterior when they are outside in public view. When I go out, I always put my barriers up, it's a form of self-protection I guess. Andrew

I've been in that situation too! When I have been shy in the past it kind of makes you lose concentration as you feel quite uncomfortable. I can live with the way I am now though, I've found inner acceptance! The thing I don't like is being pressured by others into doing things you don't want to do! Why can't they get the message? No means no! Andrew

It sounds like you have a real balance there! That's nice, if that makes you feel good! I would be too self-concious to play the role of an extrovert! I like that idea about you philosophizing in your room, I guess I do a lot of that regarding my own life. Still, there you have it. Thanks. Andrew