"It Takes A Village"
By someonesmom
@someonesmom (5761)
Canada
October 29, 2008 12:08am CST
Many of us here will be familiar with this saying. I literally grew up in a very small village (in Ontario). We knew most of the families on our street, and people didn't worry like they 'have to' today, about letting their children go out to play. In fact, I was allowed to roam freely along our street, calling on playmates, and whoever I pleased. Neighbourhood kids called on me without an invitation, all of the time.
I often visited the home of a dear senior lady, a couple of doors down from my home. Her name was Mrs. Brown, and she lived alone, her only companion being a beautiful yellow canary. I loved to go there, and she'd invite me in most times, when I'd appear unannounced at her door. She was never too busy to spend time with me, and to offer me milk and cookies.
Since my grandparents were all deceased, she was very important to me. Whenever I'd go over, she'd let her little canary out of his cage, and he'd perform for me. She'd actually taught him to use his beak, to pick up a penny. It was amazing to watch, and I never grew tired of this trick.
This discussion is inspired by one of 'my friends' here, as she has just shared a special childhood memory with me, that I find very touching.
Were you allowed to drop in on friends and neighbours as a child, without being invited?
If so, do you feel that this experience helped to make your childhood meaningful?
Is there one person from your neighbourhood, that holds a special place in your heart, to this day?
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4 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 08
Ok I will try again and it better post this time
Yes I used to be able to go to my Friends without any worries I used to be out and about my favorite Place was the Field across the road from my Granny's House where we lived, All the Neighbors used to look out for me it was like a big Family then at the age of 9 my Mum decided to have me, things changed from there
Hugs to you
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
29 Oct 08
Hi gabs,
I'm sure glad you were able to get your response to post here. I'm not sure what's going on lately (glitch wise), but I know my myLot stuff in general, is taking much longer to load, etc.
Thanks so much for sharing here. It really does mean a lot. As you can see, you're the only one, and I do hate starting topics that nobody responds to. I'll be in touch with you as soon as I can, so we can get caught up.
Childhood memories are special, and things just aren't what they used to be, these days, regarding a sense of community and caring neighbours. I know there are exceptions, but it's just not the same. I do miss it. I'm sorry that you had to leave your Granny's, as it sounds like you were very happy there.
Take care.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
30 Oct 08
One of the ladies from my old neighbourhood made my wedding dress. All us neighbours were like family. We even called our neighbours Aunt and Uncle instead of Mr. and Mrs.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
30 Oct 08
Hi danishcanadian,
Wow. I think this is a very special thing for a former neighbour to do. It's so much more personal, than if you'd just gone out and bought a dress. I love to hear true stories like this. Thanks so much for your response. Take care.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
30 Oct 08
All the parents were like block parents and they all served cookies and koolaide. They all looked after each others kids. They all got along. We would all ride bikes and go visit each others houses. It was great. We never had any problems. We climbed trees and made mud pies. We played with inch works in the mimosa trees. We all got on each others swing sets. It was just awesome. There were no fights, and we had plenty to do. We had pogo sticks and played hop scotch and you were just as safe at one house as you were the other.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
30 Oct 08
Hi eaforeman6,
This is exactly what I mean. My mom used to always have Kool Aid on hand for the neighbourhood kids. Back then, there was a similar drink called 'Freshie,' too. My sister and I often had a friend stay over for dinner as well, and our yard was one of the most popular places to play on the street. Making mud pies, playing on swings, and enjoying hop scotch, are also great memories for me. In the warmer weather, I'd stay out all day, only coming in for meals. It does sadden me that things can't be this way these days, as I do think kids are missing out on a lot. Thanks for sharing here. Take care.
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
30 Oct 08
when i was a young girl.. i didnt live in a village, i lived in a small town..
and in those days..(30 years ago).. the world was just much safer.. i could play by myself outside my home.. or even wander off a bit further - my mom never liked it when i did that, but i wasnt scared.. didnt see any reason to be.
i often go and play at my best friend's house - her mom didnt like her to go out of the house so much... and when my cousins come to visit, we'll walk to the nearby shop to buy sweets and snacks..
nowadays.. i dont even let my children put their heads outside the door.. too many thefts going on.. i just dont trust anyone who comes to our gates..
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
30 Oct 08
Hi 4mymak,
It sure was much safer. The memories I've shared here, took place around 50 years ago. My mom didn't mind me going up and down the street, except for the fact that she didn't want me 'bothering' people. She never even thought of it being unsafe. Amazing! I'm sorry to hear that you're unable to let your own kids outside at all, where you are. 'Our' kids can play outside where I live, but we just have to be a lot more watchful. Thanks for responding here. Take care.