The difference between siblings.

I think we have the same mother!!! My mother did the same thing with my older brother. I just thought it was because we were Italian and he was the first grandchild for my mother's family and MALE. In fact, the whole family treated him as if he were much more special. I see the same things happens in India, as the other responder stated, so maybe tha's not the reason. I really don't know why she does this. This has caused a very big problem in our family now that we are older. My brother just turned 50, but he thinks he is far superior to my younger brother and myself. It has gotten even worse since my dad passed several years ago. He is extremely judgemental, mean, nasty and just an unpleasant person. My younger brother and I no longer speak to him or have anything to do with him. I recently found out, just through the grapevine, that his students HATE him and his coworkers are afraid of him because of his sharp tongue. Our family has become a mess because of this and I am very glad that my daughter is an only child. My younger brother has only one child as well with no plans for more. Now that I think about it, maybe this was done somehow on a subconcious level. You have my sincerest sympathy because I know how hard it is to live with kind of situation. Has it caused any problems between you and your brother?

Sadly many parents do this between their children. I cant say that my mom ever did this, as she was pretty equal with all of us..not in agood way though we have always had a bad relationship with her do to her own personal destructive behavior. Anyway, i am sorry that u feel unfairly treated, it is not cool for parents to do this, evne if one child turns out a way they dont want them to, they are still their children (not taht im saying u turned out diff then they wanted) Look at it this way, you are taking care of yourself and doing things for yourself, you are doing fine without her help, and taht makes you a better and stronger person, so look at the bright side of how she does things between you to...u will be happier about it later in life..trust me.

It was the same way with my brother. My mom will give him anything and do almost anything that he asks,but she lives with my husband and I and won't even do a load of laundry for us. We pay all of the bills and if she didn't live here,she would be on the street. It is not fair and I always thought that it was because he was the youngest. However, he is the one who is sitting in jail right now and I work every day and home school my kids plus provide her a roof over her head.

i think we should not keep any difference between siblings. one should give equal treatment to both. otherwise the otherone can go in wrong direction where he or she should not go.

I feel all parents do something more for one child than the other. It is nothing new. They mostly pamper the younger ones or in a place like India sons are given more preference over the daughter by few. It is basically they feel that maybe they are incapable of taking care of themselves and want to do things for them to feel wanted. It could also be just a co incidence as well. I know it hurts. I dont know if you are a parent. But if you are then you would be able to evaluate the situation on your own to the queries that are in your mind.

My parents always treat me and my sister equally. they have really been bias like that. In your case, i just don't know. Confront you mother about it. Maybe you can find out.

My parents try to treat us equally, and like you said we respond to our parents differently so they'll treat us differently as well. But my sister and I being the oldest(we're twins), they somewhat pamper us more than our brother. Also with the 4yr gap between ourselves and our brother, our parents had spent those first 4 yrs just with the two of us so it must have strengthened the affection somewhat. Although i generally think that mothers take care of their youngest more while fathers favour the older.