Where have I been?
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
October 31, 2008 9:07am CST
This is my very first post for the entire month of October. I checked in a couple times but that's it.
So what have I been up to? Well for starters there were major issues with stepson and his girlfriend. Things were said and I all but quit using the computer because I couldn't trust them. S/o(b) would not/did not stand up for me so we've been in a state of limbo ever since. His parents have decided that they don't particularly want to sell anymore since they signed a gas lease for over $12,000 a year. So they are still here with now intention of leaving despite the original plan of them moving out in October (I had a feeling it wouldn't happen but was trying to be hopeful and positive).
Where does that leave me now? Well it's a lot more simple than I thought it would be. S/o(b) and I aren't speaking, stepson/girlfriend and I aren't speaking, FIL and I have never been on speaking terms, and MIL and I still tolorate each other. So I did what any normal person would do in a volatile situation as this. I packed my bags and am leaving. It could be today it could be 2 weeks from now but I'm ready and able to go. I'll be renting a house with another person, we are just waiting to get our official move in date from the owners.
I was quite clear, and made it well known that I was tired of the bull and was leaving if it didn't stop. My bags have been packed for a week and nothing changed nor did anyone else attempt to try to change anything. S/o(b) will not even discuss it with me.
So, we won't have a computer yet at the new house but hopefully we can manage one sometime over the next few months. I'll pop in when I can while I'm still here and whenever I have access to a computer after I move..
I am extremely happy and if all my wonderful friends here can hang on for a bit longer, I'll be back with all the happiness and cheerful news that I have been deserving of all along!
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I really haven't been too active here myself lately. Just the business of my working and grand baby. I do try to pop in from time to time, just like this morning. Yours was the first message I chose to open in my inbox.
I'm glad to hear that you are taking a stand, and I hope you stand your ground! Best wishes to you as you move forward with your next phase of life.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I was wondering about you terri.
Hope you can start showing up more often as well.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yeah, Grandpa Bob, I will try to be a little bit more active around here. Most nights I don't get home until after 9 and usually to tired to think of responses to discussions. Hope all is well with you and your family. I guess Minnie has been kept pretty busy with the little one, I don't recall seeing many discussions started by her in awhile.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
31 Oct 08
I really hope that you manage to sort out your life and that the move that you will be taking will be for the better. Think wisely and when you decide don't look back. Hopefully you will have a computer sooner or later in your new home so that you can still keep touch with mylot friends. Take care. © ronaldinu 2008
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Hopefully we will dee you back soon. Good luck to you!!
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
1 Nov 08
These sort of changes are more often than not for the best. I went thru this with my daughters dad. It hurt a lot that he did absolutely nothing to stop me. I am pretty easy to work with but things had reached a point where I really was unhappy and needed a bit of compromise from him as well. It took me way longer than I expected to find a place but when I did...i never looked back. I don't regret moving on from that situation at all. It was hurtful but it was so much better than staying and being miserable and trying to be happy in a situation that i simply could not be happy in and one that showed absolutely no signs of getting better. I know things are stressfull right now but you are moving forward and it will only get better. Wishing you the best and hopefully soon you'll be on here more often.
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
I suppose it's good to have you back. Cheers!!
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
1 Nov 08
WELL CONGRATULATIONS FOXYFIRE!!!! THE WORDS THAT I HAVE
BEEN WANTING TO HERE FROM YOU GIRLFRIEND YEA!!!! I am
soooooo happy that you are finally getting the hell out
of that miserable, horrible place and away from that
sicko "family?"! That is the best news that you could
have ever given to us Foxy! Please do not change your mind
under any circumstances! Get the hell out of that place
while you can! You will be so happy! Don't look back!
Get rid of S/O for good! Don't take him back! Be done
with him and that wacko bunch forever! Thank God that
you were never married!!!! Take the kids and run!!!
I really am so happy and proud of you. I have been so
worried about you and not hearing from you after the last
time you were able to get to the computer. Please try
to keep in touch somehow so we know that you are ok!
Please get out asap! Keep in touch and I will be praying
for you! Take good care foxyfire! I know you can do this!
Your friend, Opal
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@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
3 Nov 08
We are going to keep on cheering until we run out of breath. Let us know if there is something else we can do as well.
@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Garden Gerty is doing a happy dance for Foxy. You, and your kids, deserve better than what you have been enduring. Do you have any way of earning anything? How will you pay your bills. I am sure you will feel like you can do anything, once you are free of that dungeon. Get out, enjoy life, have fun, be happy. Glad you can share expenses.
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
31 Oct 08
WOW!! I understand having family issues! I have my own set.
I give you a lot of credit for actually leaving. More power to you!! I wish you all the best I am sorry that you have to go through this mess but it will work out. I just seen a quote a few days ago and its perfect for you ...
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they're right, you beilieve lies so you can eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and some times good things fall apart so better things can fall together"
Good luck!!
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
31 Oct 08
This is the best move on your part.
Good luck and hope to see you here again.
Soon!
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
31 Oct 08
[i]Hi foxy,
I am not very active also and every time I will log in, I am also wondering for some good friends here whom I didn't see for like 3 or 4 weeks already!
ANyway, hope everything will be fine and always remember that that is what we called Life, be positive and I know you are![/i]
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I will be praying for you, sounds very stressful, I hope it works out for you..
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@betsyraeduke (2670)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Hey foxy! It's good to hear from you! I hope everything works out well for you and I will still be here whenever you get things settled and get a computer and all. In the meantime, take care and best wishes!
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@chaska (170)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I am sorry to hear of your current living situation. It does not seem like a happy home at all. It adds a lot of stress to you when you are living in bad conditions or with bad company. I wish much luck to you when you move and hope that you can visit us on mylot as often as possible.
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@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
1 Nov 08
I have noticed that you have not started any new discussions lately. Like MSV said, you're doing great in standing up for yourself.
Uh - one question - if those people actually own the place, did you also take the refrigerator & kitchen sink & put it into the bath tub & take those three items with you also?
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Foxy,
That is wonderful and supremely sad at the same time. Your friends here have been worried about your situation for some time. It didn't seem healthy for you. I was so hopeful that everything was going to work out when the ILs were going to move out and you were going to have some time with s/o to have a chance to see if things would work out without the buttinskis. I am sorry that it has all gone kaput. However, I am overjoyed that you are getting out of that unhealthy place.
You do deserve better than you have gotten from any of them! Go grab it Girlie!
The best of luck to you and I will look forward to updates and news on your new life as a free woman.
Hugs,
Trace
@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Well hun I hope for you that it will be the best for you and everything goes well for you. I have been away myself, and A lot happened with me and I haven't even finished all of the different discussions about it all. Just needed to take a break from them for a few and respond to my friends. I really do hope that this is what is going to be best for you! I wish you all the best hun. You are a good friend and I can't wait for you to come back!!
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Nov 08
well im glad to know that your ok.. well alive lol.. take care of yourself and stay strong.. we will be here when you come back and will be happily waiting on you 
