Is it possible for a married manot have a lover?

Of course it is possible for a married man not to have a lover. And no matter how a person can justify his/her affair, it is never morally right.

If he has a lover on the side and the wife knows nothing about it then the marriage is not a happy one, He is taking away something that belongs to his wife ,she is giving him 100 percent what is he giving.The day she finds out and she will,she will either forgive him or throw him out as their perfect life as she thought they had turns to dust.Men seem to need that excitment instead of working on getting it with the person they wanted to spend their lives with its easy to look for it elsewhere and there is always some-one willing to play with them.

Why is this a moral problem? Ok he has a problem that his wife does not know and if she finds out he is in trouble. I can understand why he has both and I think that part of the problem is the insistence these days that everyone has to be sexually exclusive. It is very hard for most people to be sexually exclusive. They try and they fight their desires and they either end up having a mistress or boyfriend and they risk their marriage. It is not natural to only desire one person in a life time. It would be much better if he was able to confide in his wife and not have to hide but most women are brought up these days to divorce a man if he cannot be faithful. I am different. I recognize this and I do not challenge my partner if he finds someone he fancies. I just say that it must not be a secret and I insist on meeting her. Yes I am unusual but such is life. I think there should be more like me.

I think it is only or most of the times men who need to have a lover outside their marriage. As they want to freshen up themselves with such thing and they justify it with saying that this way they are able to give more love to their wives. Or they may say that when they get more space in relationship (which is given to them by themselves only), They are ready to provide more space to the wife also. I think they live in some other world, when reality strikes everything just crumbles down and then they loose both "the more space" also and "the exixting space" also.

i dont think he could keep the secret all the time, one day his wife will find out. it is not morally right, i couldnt beleive he is able to keep his marriage happy because he is delighted by the other girl.Maybe u should tell your friend the truth. not every married man has a lover, although they may desire. We should believe there are still some good and loyal men on earth.

A married man or woman must stick absolutely to his or her married relationship. A partner who has a lover unknown or known to her or his spouse is manifesting infidelity to his or her partner. In moral point of view it is immoral. It is unacceptable to the civilized society and shameful, sinful against God. Therefore, a married man or womwn must stick to his or her marriage relationship; must do things to make their marriage life stronger and more loving to each other. The sure consequence of infidelity is unhappiness, more headaches, problems and the worst is the breaking of the sacred home and family. So don't ever try to experiment infidelity in your marriage life. Be faithful to your partner and to God!

just because its hidden and his wife doesn't know doesn't mean its justifiable. its still wrong to hide things and lie to your spouse. unless she's very understand, she would mind if her husband was cheating on her. i personally feel if you love the person you wouldn't do something like that. most people who cheat find something lacking from their relationship meaning that its not 'wonderful' or 'perfect' it would be just a facade they place on the outside to the public world. if i knew the wife, i'd want to tell her, but i would want her husband to fess up first because it does take away a little bit of the blow when it comes from the spouse them self.

i feel no need to keep lover after good marriage. but still i found like you some of them have lover after marriage also. i dont know why. male or female both are same even they get married sometime. some tril and many happyness inside the hearth.

Sure it is possible, but it's not a wise idea. Especially if the wife has no idea about it. He should either end the affair now or divorce his wife, but by no means should he continue with it as it is. However if the wife is okay with it then that is different story. Even if it isn't morally right in other peoples eyes, it is no one else's business but their own. I'll tell you one thing though. If my own husband were to have an affair I would absolutely flip out!

hi mercuryman why on earth does he need a lover if he is happy with his wife? answer me that. He is being morally wrongand its reprehensible to me. she will be furious if she finds out and this is so unfair to her. If he wants a harem , let him go find a mormon colony who believe in polgnany. I do not nor do most hones people. How can you be friends with a man who is cheating on his wife, sure he is happy, he has two women at his beck and call, this is downright ugly. tell him to quit cheating, its unfair to his wife. Andlet me tell you a lot of married men are faithful to their wives and do not take lovers. is this a custom where you are from?

i don't think he is doing the right thing. he dont know what he is doing,pls tell him to be honest to hs wife. i suggest you to tell him not to do this if he is not agree with u just go too his wife and tell him every thing.

As much as i am concerned a man does not need a lover if he is married.either he should marry his love or he should love his wife.It is possible for a married man not to have a lover. There are plenty of husbands who love their wife. and don't have another lover...

It is possible. But it is not the right thing to do. To set things straight, your friend must pick just one of the two. Because it is unfair for his wife and his lover. Time will come that it will be revealed. It's almost impossible to hide it forever. My opinion: Let your friend decide as soon as possible. Dont wait for the time that the guy will only decide when things get worse.

Not at all.He is just searching for pleasure and in the wrong place not knowing that he has all that he needs to be happy right in his hands and is failing to grasp it.I firmly believe that he is ruining his life and in the process ruining the life of his wife and children too.Would he like it if his wife had an outside relationship that he did not know about? Men always cricticize women for being too doubtful but at the same time when a woman believes her husband alot,he cheats on her.This is something I dont understand.Now being his close friend I think you should talk to him and make him understand that he is swimming in deep waters and bring him back to where he belongs.

I don't understand why he needs a lover to keep his marriage happy, or to keep him happy. I suspect when the wife finds out she is nor going to be happy and thus,he is not going to be happy. Your question looks like it's asking is it possible for a married man to NOT have a lover. Are you saying that most married men do? I would agree that a lot do, but I never would. Most of my friends don't. So yes, it's very very possible.

It is possible for a married man to not have a lover. I have known plenty of men who never entertained the thought of having an affair while married. Though I do know men who do have affairs. I know that if I got married, my boyfriend wouldn't have another woman on the side because that's not who he is and I'm all he wants and he's told me that. I think it is morally wrong for a guy or a woman to have an affair.