can we trust our friend ,always?
By legend4u
@legend4u (1019)
India
November 2, 2008 5:13pm CST
Friends are forever and they became a part of your life. but how can one br sure that he can trust him or her .i had experiences where my best friend revealing my secret to his another best friend.he told me that he was just trying to behonest among his friend ,that friend enquired about be and he was forced to tell the truth. Let me say he is still my friend,i understood that no one can be your best friend unless you are his only friend, one has to think about many persons and act. This is the places where ego grow ....
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@albern (59)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
yes, friends are forever trust always that you have a problem because of that i have experiences where me best friend have revealing secret to his another best friend that why friends are make me happy and always for trusted that why i have friend hehehe..........
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@lady_cayote (153)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Friends are supposed to be someone you can trust. If they have betrayed your trust for so many times then i don't think they're worth to be called friends.
Although it is unavoidable sometimes that they tell others about your secrets. So if you have secrets don't tell them to your friends. Pray to God instead because he is the only best friend you have who doesn't tell your secrets.
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@ideamanx6 (45)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
You cannot always give your trust to your friend, even your bestfriend. Some secrets are safer if you just keep it in yourself. I had experiences in that where when you tell a secret, there will always a time that they will tell it again to anothee person. Until one day you will just notice that your secret has been passed on person to person. Its good to trust your friend, especially your bestfriend. But sometimes it really depends on the situation your in.
I am not selfish or anything. But sometimes it's best if you rely more on yourself first.
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@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
I confide my secrets to my friends but not all.If my friends and I have arguments,it's only about school so I'm sure that I can trust them.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
We can trust friend. But telling her all our secrets is not ideal. The only best friend we have in our life is JESUS. We can tell to Him all our secrets and problems. He doesn't tell it to anyone. Best friend is nice to have and to be our company when we fell sad, weary or happy. Sometimes they are the shoulders to cry on. We can trust him surely, but reserved at least some percentage to keep with us.
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@EAStanley (2688)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I agree with this completely 100%! Jesus IS our best friend! He knows all, and loves us anyway! Isn't that amazing! We can try to have that with our earthly friends that we have come to know and trust, however, no human is ever perfect, so you do have to be careful. Thank you again for you thoughtful post! :)
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@inder86 (565)
• Gibraltar
3 Nov 08
i always trust my all friends . its the time when i am in problem tells me whom not to trust. until that time i will always trust them and help them. and about secrets i just believe on my brother and no one else.
don't grow ego because sometime even you by mistake might have revealed others secret . try to forgive others first then only others will forgive you.
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@mrniceguysac (26)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I have come to find out that there is never a friend you can trust. I have alot of good friend but when its comes to trust I can't trust anyone. I have alot friends that I thought I could trusty but in the end they end up getting over on me. Don't ever loan a friend anything because friend always think they dont have to repay you or give back what you loaned them.
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@ghazal2k5 (920)
• India
3 Nov 08
Well you cant trust anyone. Friends are needed for a social life but its always about survival and growth. So if/when the time comes, everyone is on his own and even your best friend can betray you. So its good to have friends or best friend but dont trust anyone.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
3 Nov 08
I just believe that just because some is my best friend I may not be their best friend. That person may have another best friend with whom he/she may share all his secrets and in the bargain mine too. So I would find it difficult to share my secrets with anyone.
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
3 Nov 08
i trust certain friends with everything, well others i can;t trust too much with things. i know a few i can tell anything to and it won;t get around to others
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@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
3 Nov 08
Hi. I trust my friend, but only best friend. I have only one best friend that I feel safe and free to tell her everything about myself. Maybe I am the only best friend for her. Sometimes, people just don't realise that we don't want others know the things we tell them.
For those private things that you want to keep it secret, just never tell anybody. It's hard to make friends as we grow older because people have already have their friends circle and you can't get to know them well in a short period. Should be very wary there. I hate feeling betrayed by friends and so I won't tell them too much.
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
3 Nov 08
Hi friend,Whoever it is I trust people only to some extent ,I would never reveal my secrets to anyone however close he or she would be .We can never say about others mentality and they can change anytime according to the circumstances and their benefits so we must be careful even with our best friends about revealing our secrets.But friends are there only to trust,trust is the main important thing in a friendship.But these days its very difficult to find a friend whom we can trust so far.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.
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@green_peace (110)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Before i consider someone a friend, i make it to a point that I am confident that he's/she's a person that I can trust. Truly we can't avoid pitfalls between our relationship with them. But once you give your trust to someone, be sure that that person deserves it. When he breaks it, he breaks everything.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 Nov 08
I have unfortunately found out through my life that you can't really trust anyone 100%, I have been let down by a couple of friends in my time, friends who were more like sisters but people can change amd change is natural to us all...sometimes people can be unthinking and can be selfish and can do things that normally you wouldn't think they would...I think we all have to take human nature failing into account sometimes....
@isasice (2015)
• Iceland
3 Nov 08
Yes you can always trust your friends because if you can't trust someone, they are hardly true friends.
Sadly, some people never know who is truly their friend until something serious has happened to them. True friends stand by you no matter what.
@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Friends are friends. They are the one's that we should turn into when the things are not falling into right place. There are different kinds of friends, some can be true friends while others are opportunity grabber. They are your friends because of the benefits they can get from you. For me I can trust my friends but I have to protect my self also. I don't tell everything to my friends especially the things that is very private. Maybe you could chose the things you tell to your friends especially your best friend.
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@brucekaushik (891)
• India
2 Nov 08
this kind of stuff usually happens between best of friends, people tend to reveal the secrets among their best friends and they also tend to reveal their secrets to their best friends. I take these matters very lightly if they are not serious otherwise I tend to shout at my friends but other than that I can't do anything.
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@mouse7i7 (39)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I think if you have something that you don't want certain people to know then don't tell anyone because some people say something that they don't even know you don't want people to know. It may not be that your friend can not be trusted but that they didn't realize what you told them was a secret. Think about what you are saying before you say it, who do you want to know and who do you not want to know, and then why?
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@icedcoffeemallows (649)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
I guess time only can tell. You will eventually know your friends at times when they will not leave you even though your at the weakest point of your life. They are the persons worth keeping. But I guess the truest friend that I will definitely trust, is my mother. ^__^