If I'm really 13 but I tell you I'm 16...

I think that is the problem with most countries. Teens just don't look like teens anymore because of the way they speak, the way they dress and the way they act. I even have a problem proving my age since people don't accept me for my real age, they say I look much much younger and it's weird. Anyhow, I think these are one of the problems now-a-days with teens. They want to be older (fast) and they don't realize that they're actually wasting their moment of enjoying their age because of the social peer pressure around. I think it's all because of peer pressure. For me? I do pretend I'm older. Why? Well, it's not really for the sake of having to be noticed, it's more of trying to tell them that I'm not available anymore. Look, I'm 28 but they say I'm only 20 or even less. So, I tell them out front I'm 30. Most especially if these guys are like 20-ish. It's just a means for me to tell them to back off. Well, for young adults, lying about age is ok. But I see what you're getting at, it's quite difficult for teens to be lying about their age. You're right when you said that there are a lot of Psycho Adults who are preying on them. But there's nothing we can do about it, I guess. It's the social pressure. Kids just want to get older fast, they want their so-called independence, only to find out when they're older that they've had it good when they were still young and yet they wasted it. Whew! I guess you can start by letting your kids appreciate their age. How? Well, for one thing, don't make them see that being an adult gives you more 'freedom'. I've seen kids now wearing make-up at a very young age. Now, they're more 'conscious' about the way they look?! They're even conscious about their figures! For another, I guess it's good once in a while not to treat them as adults, don't force them to be adults. Independence is good, but it robs kids of their childhood, they're forced to be conscious instead of just having fun. :) Anyhow, I'm no expert about these things, but I know for sure that these could be avoided, it's all about the family I guess. Yes, we can't control our kids and how they act, but maybe if they are given more slack to just behave like kids, then maybe they'd see that who they are are pleasing to our eyes and that no social pressure could ever change them that fast.

really its a very important thing for parents to actually make people realise how young their kids are especially the girls as they may sometimes tell lies about their age so they can be allowd to do some things they are not supposed to do,i dont see a ny reason why i should tell lies about my age but sometimes people feel they will be looked down on if they say they are younger buyt it shouldnt be so

No I haven't lied about my age before. That's what wrong with kids nowadays they want to grow up to fast and if that involves lying then they do it. Which isn't good because it can become second nature to them because of the web of lies they will have to weave to keep from getting caught at lying. I am glad you know the girl lied so you can warn your son about her age. I would be worried about a child lying about their age because I have a niece who is 17 and is ready to have her second child her first child being born a week before her 14th birthday. She didn't lie about her age but she looked older and boys just assumed she was older because of it. Got her into alot of trouble.

I used to do that when I was 12 but nobody wants to believe me as I look younger than my real age.Now I'm 21,nobody wants to believe that I'm that old as I still look like a teenager.

It wouldn't anger me but would make me question why you would have lie about your age in the first place, what else have you lied about and are you really telling me your age now!!?? I think when a girl lies about her age she has to accept some responsibility about wehat may happen with the person she is communicating with. Its hard to guess some people's age by looking at them, some do act older than they are without pretending to be older than their age. They are just mature for their age but yet the ones who want to get noticed are the ones that are lying about their age and its only the blokes that can get blamed for it. No one seems to blame the girls for telling them they are such an age like 16 or 18.

Oh, man! Do I EVER have a story about that!!! My son, who was 20 when this happened, had been corresponding with a girl who claimed to be 18. He had known her for 3 years and she said she was 15 when they met online, but she was really only 13! She lived in Tennessee, my son in Maryland. He went to Tennessee to meet her, honestly believing her to now be 18 years old. She had lied for 3 years about her age! He planned to spend a little time in Tennessee, maybe even moving there because he really cared for this gal (or thought he did). Anyway, I got a phone call in the middle of the night from another girl from Tennessee. Phone calls in the middle of the night are NEVER good! My son had been arrested and was in jail awaiting a preliminary hearing for statutory rape!!! The girl, who claimed to be 18 was only 16 years old! It was a nightmare! I had just been through some major health problems and was not driving. I had very little money, but I sent my son what I could so he could call me whenever he got the chance. I called around and finally got advice from a friend of mine who is an attorney. I simply couldn't see my son living the rest of his life as a convicted child molester when he was only guilty of being gullible and believing this gal's lies. I hired a lawyer for my son, then gathered as much information as I could... printing out emails, calling the gal in question, etc. She admitted to me in an email that she had lied to my son about her age. I mailed a copy of that email to my son's lawyer. I bought a bus ticket to Tennessee. Twenty-three hours on the bus... one way! My other son went with me. We spent the night in a cheap motel because that was all I could afford. Luckily, the lawyer I had hired was a real spitfire and got the charges dropped against my son. Then, the three of us went back to Maryland. All this because a 16-year-old girl had been lying about her age! I actually got her to reveal the truth and help my son however she could by telling her that SHE could go to jail as a minor enticing an adult to meet them across State lines. (That IS a crime!) This was a case of a YOUNGER teen preying on an older person! She wanted my son to come riding in on a white horse and whisk her away to Never-Never land! It's horrible! I hope the day comes when we all have access to lie detectors so we can verify for certain how old a person actually is. I.D. cards can be forged and bought. At least my son learned a HUGE lesson about that! He not only asks gals now to show him their I.D., but talks with people who know these girls to verify their true age before he gets totally involved. The internet is a terrific invention in many ways but it has also caused countless heartaches because of people lying about their age or marital status!

I think all 13 year old girls want to be older. My biggest concern with your situation, I would contact the girls mother to let her know what her daughter is doing. This could put her in a very dangerous situation. I have a 14 year old girl and I would want to know if she was doing this.

I actually have the reverse problem...people think I look younger than what I am. In a month and 20 days I'll be 23, but everyone always looks at me and says I'm 15, I show them my ID they think it's fake...but it sucks because it makes me so furious. Age and looking your age is a hard thing to do, most of my friends that are younger than me look way older, well most of them are guys and they have facial hair but still they never get carded if we go to a bar, but I'm the only one that does, and I'm 2-3 years older than all of them....:( You can't really tell how old someone is by looking at them and it kind of sucks.

Reminds me of one of the Narnia books, forget which one, in which Susan, the older sister, was growing up and didn't believe any more in "childish" things. And Aslan said something about what a pity it was young girls were in such a hurry to get to the silliest age and that women tried so hard to stay there after they had passed it. We over glamorize the late teens and early 20's on tv, in magazines, etc. So no wonder that girls are in such a hurry to grow up too early and be that age. It's natural but at the same time it's scary on so many levels! Too many young people get involved in things that they just aren't equipped to handle. And where are the parents? Sad.

This is a world wide problem these days. Why do they think they have to grow up so fast! I don't think they actually realize how dangerous this is or the actual repercussions this can have. As parents I guess we have to just keep pounding this into their heads. It is scary for me, as a mom, to think about. I have never done this or felt the need, as a young girl or young woman, to do this. Is this a different kind of peer pressure the young girls are feeling these days? I just don't know.

I never lied about my age and am not about to. I do not know if most teens realize that we, as adults, can usually tell. I have been teaching teens for close to 40 years and I can usually get an idea of how old they are by certain things that they say and do. I rarely meet a 13 year old who comes across as age 16, although there are few. Why do they do that? I never understood that.

It may be the girl tried to attract your 17 year boy.So she tried to proof that she is becoming adult. So she can't be neglected. So the girl lied her age.I think you observe the girl's movement.You should also keep your eye on your son. Both the girl and your son are teenagers.Teen agers love is a social problem. Some times teen age love creats unwanted situation.So my advice be alert about your son and observe the girl's movement.You may also notice it to the girl's parents.

This is a major problem... High schools are swamped with concern over this very issue. I think it's peer pressure. Wanting to belong, and craving for attention. I put some of the blame on the parents. C'mon let's face it, if they are claiming the age that they are not then their searching for attention that they cant get else where. In my opinion, keeping a child involved in sports or some sort of activity as long as possible keeps them balanced. My teen daughter has alot of pressure from her peers at school everyday. But she's balanced and it helps.

It's hard when your age does not fit your actual physical appearance. Sometimes people thinks that your immature. Like me, I'm 24 but I still look like I'm 20 or younger. My body is 3 years younger than my age. To forget all the frustrations, I just sometimes flirt with younger girls.

The problem is that we are expecting our children to act older than their age. You can look at their clothes that fashion designers create for them. Some of them are just simply clothes that not even a sl*t will wear. We have robbed them of their innocence. I dont blame them. But I do blame us (society in general) © ronaldinu 2008

I think some people have the habit of telling lies with age. actually in our case people try to hide age and say younger ages actually tahn they are.but we are all true in this case

Do you happen to know this girl's family,or Her Mother? I'd hope Her parents are as concerned about Her! "Wait til you're older" is used to put kids off from getting or doing something by Parents.The Media (mainly TV shows and movies) as part of our consumer culture glamourises adulthood,with partying,shopping,clothes,freedom to do what you want,hang out with who you want,etc,etc,drawing in the young who aspire to that lifestyle.. I remember a line from "True Lies" where Arnie is something like James Bond with a family,they're unaware of what he does at work-his teen Daughter is a wild child,hanging out with a biker boyfriend and stealing money from Arnie's partner's wallet when he calls round-the partner says (paraphrasing!) "The little time you spend with her each day is outgunned by MTV-Madonna and Axl Rose are her parents now!" The control side of adulthood is responsibility-kids used to having their parents taking responsibility for them are getting into the "new car" of being an adult,and only know where the accelerator is-no brakes! Girls discovering themselves just want to become Women..so,adding a few years along with the right clothes and makeup helps..and online,you can be who you want,until a face to face meeting comes about..Unfortunately,ID is not usually the first thing on a Guy's mind when faced with a young,attractive,interested female..My age story-The UK drinking age is 18..I don't drink,but back in the day,went into Bars with Guys from High School on nights out,and being baby faced and a non drinker (I KNOW some of the Drinking Guys I was with were Younger than Me!) I was the one that got put out!

If this kind of lie is used to get noticed or do adult things I think this is a very serious problem and that teenagers dont understand the consequences of these things, and its sure upsetting, older girls are assumed to be cool so the younger ones pretend to be older, its the problem they face and that age and they are using the best way they know to tackle it.. maybe you can tell to the parent of the girl and ask your son to be more careful with little girls.....

I think it was very deceptive for you too lie about your age, but I also think it was brave of you to tell the truth also And your right, perverts on the net want little 13 year olds, so the reason you day thay you. I hope you don,t have any problems. I would say, with confidentd that you won't have any problems here at my lot.

It would upset me to an extent, but in most cases I would be able to pick out their real age withing a half an hour of talking to them. When I was thirteen no one knew I was that young. In person they knew, because I looked my age at the time, but if anyone talked to me over the phone or online they thought I was 5 or more years older than my true age. It made me feel important and responsible, but I also remembered that I was in fact only thirteen. I always corrected people when they mistook me for an older age, and I still do. I'm 18 now, and I get mistaken for being up to fifteen years older than I am. Now, I don't look fifteen years older, mayhap four or five. My point here is that even without a teenaged individual lying about their age to seem older, many of us are, or have been mistaken for being older. Let us not forget that people are inherently stupid. They will believe what they want to be true, or what they fear might be. Too few people take that important step back from emotions to see the truth as it is, and that's truely what is wrong with what you have posted here about, as well as society it's self.