How much do your kids study?

I think it is our parental duty to continue to push and encourage our children to do their very best in every aspect of life, including acedemics. Not being able to do something, and not wanting to are 2 totally different things. The problems you and I are both facing is our children don't want to... but they're perfectly capable of getting far better grades than they do. I don't think a parent is doing their child justice if they allow them to do this without making every effort to get them to do their best. I don't see how any parent can sit back and say "I hope everything turns out allright". We don't have that guarantee in life. If you don't get a good education and go to college, life is hard! How could a parent willingly put that on their child? No one ever said parenting was going to be easy, and dealing with a child who doesn't like school or homework is just one of our challenges that we have to face and conquer! I choose to stand up and continue fighting for my child, his education, and his future. I'm also having a problem with your last statement. "The school will help him if he falls too far behind". The school has hundreds of children, 20 or so per teacher. How do you expect them to have the resources to help each child who falls behind? How well do they know your child and the child's learning abilities and disabilities? Some children learn differently from others. Do the teachers there spend enough one on one time with each child to know exactly the best way for that child to learn and retain information? My child is not the school's responsiblity... he's MY responsiblity. I have to make every effort to help him succeed, and if I don't, nobody else will.

Yes I pushed and encouraged my older daughters and they have done very well. My youngest is impossible to talk too so I have given up with her with the fighting over School work. Yes you are right. The teachers do not have the time for the ones that fall behind in a certain subject, but there is classes for maths and things that my daughter once went to for her to catch up. She is average now. I could not help her with maths as I can just barely do it myself, so this was of great help to me. Certainly MY daughters are MY responsibility, but if there is help in School that I cannot give, I certainly will take it. My youngest daughter as I said will eventually like something regarding School and as I said I keep on at her to try harder. They will all learn what they want when they are ready. All children need Parental guidance and put on the right path in life. Your son will get there with your help.

I personally would not settle for this though, and I would not "give up" because of fighting. I'd go down to the school and talk to the teacher and explain the entire situation and see if there's anything she can suggest to help make it easier on you. In order for me to not struggle so much I signed my son up for extra help after school. He stays late 4 days a week just to do homework and study. usually his homework is already done when he gets home. But since he's still having problems even with the extra help class, I set time for him to study at home as well. His education is my #1 priority.

It's good yours are responsible enough to know when and how to study to keep their grades up. If mine got good grades I would not worry about his study habits at all, but since his grades are bad I have to keep on him about it.

At least here the children get a lot of playtime during school so it's not so bad. But my oldest is getting horrible grades, so I don't feel as if he should be able to play until he has studied and done his best on his homework, which doesn't usually happen.

I would do the same thing, but all my kids love to read for fun, even the oldest who's having issues in school. My issue with him is actually paying attention and taking his time on his work.

Maybe he has a learning disability, just a thought.

That's great that they have turned around so much by just a little extra time studying.

Not understanding and not trying are 2 totally different things. I tell my son all the time that if he tried his best, I wouldn't be harping on him nearly as much as I do. He gets mostly C's, some D's, I push him to bring those grades up. I know he's a lot smarter than he is, he just refuses to apply himself.