Not a Kid Person
By ravenbroom
@ravenbroom (84)
United States
November 8, 2008 11:18am CST
Okay, I got tough skin, so go ahead and hit me.
I am a mother of a young adult (19), and he is my only one by choice. In fact I waited till I was in my late 20's to have a kid, because to be perfectly honest, I can't stand kids.
I did not babysit because kids got on my nerves way to fast, I tolerated my younger brother, but it wasn't till he was an adult that I could actually have a relationship with him. I tend to not make friends with folks who have more than one child or grandchild around them. For some reason, kids, mostly little kids and yes, even babies, make me cringe inside. I hate whining, crying and give me's.
I adore my son, always have. But he was a decision to have with my hubby (who is also not a kid person). I wasn't a strict mother, I always let my son make his own decisions about his life as long as they were moral, if he messed up, he paid with it one way or another. We never spanked, never did time outs or screamed at him, in fact, I think I have only really raised my voice a time or two with him growing up. Now that he is older, we are great friends besides mother/son. Both have a lot of respect for each other, and I hear love you every day from him. (now mind you also, my son is mentally disabled bi-polar with anti-social disorder) and maybe that is why we brought him up the way we did...but who knows since he was born with these problems and we just never were around other "normal" kids much.
Now the funny thing is, I work in a place where there are little kids alot, and yes, they make me cringe at times (mostly when they are whining) but I still smile and laugh with them.
I guess I hide that I am not a kid person quite well, because kids seem to love being around me. (argh, lol)
So, are you really a kid person, do they make you cringe at times? Be honest now...nothing wrong with that I see.
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8 responses
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I am not a kid person myself and I have 3 of my own.
I had kids for the wrong reason. I had them because my soon to be ex husband told me when we were dating that he wanted kids and that if I didn't want to have them that he would have to break up with me.
I didn't want him to leave me so I agreed to have them.
Now we are separated and wishing I never had them. I have no patience.
I do love them, however they get on my nerves, disrespect me and other people and I have received complaints about my 12 year old from my neighbors.
When they do something wrong, the parents pay for it. It's not easy taking care of children.
I hope you all don't hate me or think I am a bad mom.
I do take care of them, feed them, clothe them, discipline them However I am thinking of giving my kids to my soon to be ex because it is hard for me to take care of them by myself and I really can't handle it personally.
He is the one that wanted the kids in the first place.
@ravenbroom (84)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Don't think bad about you, actually I think your doing the smart thing. Why punish yourself and the kids if isn't your "thing"?
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
8 Nov 08
When I was in my teenage years I did like kidsa alot. I even had a job at a daycare. I had my first son at the age of 19. I then met my husband, he had 5 kids at that time. We then had two more kids. As it sits right now I LOVE my kids, all 8 of them. Now as far as other kids, I find that I have no patience for them. I would not go back and work at a daycare now. I will stick to my 8 kids and eventually ( but hopefully not too soon) my grandkids. I do not think that it is wrong to not be a kis person either.
@ravenbroom (84)
• United States
9 Nov 08
My son can't have grandkids, thank goodness for him or me....I would be one of those grandma's who would spoil the kid and send him home just to bug the parents...lol
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I have three kids of my own and have actually ran a home daycare in the past. But often other people's kids do make me cringe. I believe it is because of the lack of respect they show for others. Many parents today have chosen not to discipline their children or even teach them morals and it tends to show. I have no problem with a child that is well behaved and tends to respect others but it is when their total lack of respect begins to surface that I begin to cringe....
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
9 Nov 08
In a way I love kids and can't wait to be a mom, I'm already 26 and married. Sometimes though, I can I understand when you say that it gets on your nerves when there is a kid or a baby crying their eyes out or screaming and whining. Every time I see that or hear a kid screaming and seeing them run around, I turn to my husband and ask him are you sure that you want kids and he laughs about it. We do want kids though, I always tell myself in the back of my mind that my kids will never be like that when we have them, whining and crying and screaming in public places.
I can understand what you mean too when you say that you can't be friends with people who have more than one kid. I have this one friend who has two children and she is a single mother, but man, I can never have one conversation with her because her kids are always in the background screaming and crying and whining. I always hang up the phone with her early, because I can't stand to talk to her when her kids are screaming it does get kind of annoying. Once again, my kids will never be like that.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
9 Nov 08
i have to laugh because even a person that loves children dearley can feel a little streesed around them at times .let me tell you these little stinkers can be some thing else at times.but they are gods greatest gifts on earth and do have a lot to offer.how ever i respect those of you that know that they are hard for you to handle. to many people have children and end up not being able to handle them and some times bad things happen.so there really are children loving people and not so children loving people and they do take a lot af patients and there is no speacial manuel that comes with them to help you out.
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I am a kid person of sorts why do i say of sorts? Because i DO adore kids i plan on having 3 - 4 if God wills... but i really get a headache from screaming spoiled toddlers and just force and i mean force myself to remember they ARE children =P
I love them the most when they are asleep since all they can do while asleep is fill their diaper with a smelly surprise but they wont be shrieking lol
Well at least the kids love you despite your dislike of them hehehe... it is good that even though you are NOT a kid person that you are able to laugh and make them laugh along with you... some who are self proclaimed kid dislikers if that is even a term... are so mean with kids... like the grumpy old man next to Denis the Menace hehe
So an answer to your question despite my adoring children i do cringe at times but that isnt stopping me from wanting my own little herd of terrors lol... because they DO grow up ;)
@goodkat (63)
• Romania
9 Nov 08
Hi,
it seems like none of the people who responded are actually kid persons. Heheh.
Really now, I'm not a kid person myself, not intending to have my own not even in the late twenties. I'm in my early ones now (23, lol). The world is already overly-populated, I don't intend to bring my contribution to that, not by messing with my entire schedule and programming my entire life around a creature that can simply be avoided from existing. I'm also not into entertaining kids that are not my own. I do like two kids, my friends' kids actually. The reason I like them is because they are quiet and well-behaved, but it didn't really come only out of education. It's just their temper, they are and will be quiet people. They are not shy or anti-social, at least I do not think so. One of them, a 4 year-old boy, is my favourite because he comes around, sits and talks normally if asked. If not, he is preoccupied by his colouring book or his trains.
There's nothing wrong with not liking the mess and fuss that the kids do. I'm already living in a stressful environment, I don't want a sharp voice "scratching" the inside of my ears and brain.
@Quincy666 (81)
• Brazil
9 Nov 08
yeah, really dont know what say xD.... im only 20 yers old and no patient with kids too... try talk about you feelings, try look this pots 4 him and ask about what him think... dunno, sorry if dont help enought.
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