Should I be uncomfortable?

I think that is very rude - your not even friends with me on facebook and yet your debating about becoming friends with a 18 year old girl that you dont even know!!! No p1key No!! Dont go there!!! All I can see is BIG TROUBLE!!!

I don't have Facebook, in fact I don't even really know what it is. But I can understand your hesitation. I do belong to some kinky sites, and am constantly amazed at the requests I get to talk to girls as young as she, and I have 15 years on you. I did chat a few times, I figured that if they were on those sites they must have a fair idea of what they were doing, but I doubt that Facebook is anything like these sites. And no, I didn't continue the chats for very long at all, except with one who seemed to seriously just want some advice from a much older Dom, as a mentor more or less. Still, I imagine I would be curious if I were you, and I would probably accept her tentatively. As someone above said, you can always reverse the decision later. But I must admit, the few times I did I found them extremely hard to relate to. So maybe not. Probably depend on my mood at the time. Lash

I would probably ignore her, too. Facebook has the ability to 'suggest' people you might want to add as friends. It has various ways of making suggestions under 'Discover People You May Know': 1) It lists friends of your friends, especially those which occur more than once. 2) It suggests people on the basis of surname. 3) It is also possible to search for people by forename/surname. It can return a whole Many Facebook addicts seem to want to add as many 'friends' as possible. There are a number of reasons for this, some of which are financial/marketing ones. I have had the occasional 'friend' request from personable young women. When I research them, I find that there is no way I could know them or they me - we have no friends in common. I can only assume, then, that they are touting for business (I will leave it to your imagination as to what they might be selling) and sending out 'friend' requests to as many people as possible who just may be interested in their wares. I'm afraid that what I describe is just another kind of spam. We tend to regard it as an invasion of our personal space but really it's very little different to the technique of leaving a card in a phone box (now, I believe, illegal) which, because it occurs in a public place, we tend to ignore. Things like Facebook, MySpace, MyLot and so on should be regarded as 'public' spaces in more or less the same way that a private booth at a restaurant is not really private. Privacy is, and always has been, a very relative thing and what one person may regard as an invasion of it, another may see as 'saying hello'. One should be able to ignore people who step over your personal chalk line without feeling guilty and, conversely, people who tend to push over boundaries (especially when they do it consciously) have no business to be offended if you ignore them!

The same as what you are doing as I do not understand it either and you can never be to careful. My Son and Daughter have an account there as well lol and I know they spend a lot of time on there lol but so do all their Friends xx

[i]Hi p1, When it will happen to me and I do know the person, I will just ignore her or him...I always make my account private and only accept request from people I know![/i]

That is really weird ... I'm guessing you've checked she's not a friend of your daughter? It would actually be a good and sensible idea to send her a message asking her reasons ... if she says she's just one of those people who 'collect' friends like trophies (lots of young people compete to have as many friends as possible), you can then deny her. Also, it might be a case of mistaken identity! BTW, when I tried to find you on Facebook I couldn't ... until I found you accidentally through someone else - so if this girl was looking for you with purposeful intent, she did a damn good job!

You shouldn't feel uncomfortable. If you just don't want to be disturbed by strangers, you can just ignore her request. There are many people out there who want to make new friends with others in the Internet, if you are not one of them, then perhaps you can just ignore it. Another reason some people keep making friends with others is because they want to have more friends for a game.

She's probably the friend of a friend...you know what it's like on facebook....you can keep adding the friends of friends indefinitely.

Hi P1kef1sh, I had a request from a guy last week who I didn't know from any friends etc but the friend I had staying said to accept and delete after checking him out if I felt uncomfotable with it. I don't really use Facebook that much as you know as I feel it is a bit of an invasion of privacy in some cases and I am quite a private person, if I want to mail my friends I will or phone them, I don't feel that going into here is that brill although my daughter loves it. In fact I am just going in now to check this guy out LOL. Do what your gut feeling tells you on this one. Huggles. Ellie :D

I'd ignore her too. I tend to be leery of adding people i dont actually know. I did it once and as soon as i accepted the person as a friend i got extremely offenseive messages over and over again. SO i dont do it anymore.

i realy don't think so but if i didn't feel good about it i wouldn't do it. i have alot of young guys & girls that have sent me a friend request on mylot. i have accepted them all & so far i have had no trouble out of any of them. you'll just have to be the judge of what you want to do. if yu aren't happy w/them there is always that delete button. lol

Hi there p1kef1sh I do think you are doing the right thing but I guess you can't help but think maybe she needs some help, advice or something but I still think she is best left alone. I would do the same if the shoe were on my foot and would wonder what a young lad want with a 37 year old woman apart from the obvious and that is why I would leave it! I can't imagine what this girl wants. I get messages from people all the time when I am on skype with my brother but ignore them no matter how old they are as I use skype to communicate with my brother in Kuwait and that is it! I have all the friends I need in myLot!

IGNORE HER!!! She just might be a cop!!! I have a friend in real who is 63 & weighs 450 pounds. He has a MySpace Account where he lists his correct age & weight. He is constantly being approached by teenage girls wanting to be his friend. He makes it a practice to assume they are cops trying to entrap him. He says what would a 16-18 year old want with a 450 pound grandpa??? He doesn't want to take the chance of saying anything that can be twisted into him being a pedophile!!! BEWARE my friend. Be VERY careful!!!

I think your decision was very wise. I've been using the Internet for about 10 years now and have found your first reaction is often the best one. You should listen to your gut. I would have denied her without a guilty conscience whatsoever - what reason would she have to add you on facebook? It definitely seems suspicious to me and I think your response was just fine.

I would ignore her. It's the only thing you can do. On a different site there was a so-called 18 year old girl who seemed to be asking everyone to be friends. After a while it was suspected that it was a set up by police to try to catch people who weren't nice to say the least. You stick with the women of your own age, they know how to handle you.

I think sometimes when we get these kinds of requests from places like UK, or other foreign countries, that the person sending it just wants to make friends with people in our country. I at one time used to try to add friends based up on where they lived like get a friend in all the countries in the world. Some times they are just interested in how we live or what we do over here. You can deny her or ignore her. Why would it make you uncomfortable to hav a friend 18 years old.

Hey babes i usually email people from my junk account and ask them how they know me you can usually find an email address on their info section. If you're a bit dubious check her ourt see what you think she may be mistaking you for someone else. I thought they could only access you wall for that month not all the rest of it pictures etc. I'll snoop if you want i'm good at that just ask munch gotta go sleep now just got back from jecs do *yawn* wrappers went down a treat kisses mands

I would ignore her. Anytime I have someone I do not know request to be my friend, I do not except it, because with those types of websites, it should be between friends, not random people that you never talk to anyway.

i have a facebook page too. i don't use it much but if i were u i would not except the request from someone i don't know.

I would just accept the invitation. I usually accept all the friend request that I get but I am a little younger than you. I don't know if I would say this if I would be 50.