is hesitation a sign that you shouldn't pursue with the marriage?

Getting married is also a vocation. If you really feel that marrying is good for you then make it your choice. Just bear in mind that if in some situations we need to weigh things well so that we will not have regrets in the end, how much more with marrying. Marriage is not a joke. It is like being a priest, nun, or monk. You will be giving your whole self, your whole life to the Lord. The only difference with marriage is that you will devote your whole life to your better half. I swear it's not going to be a bed of roses. Like any other relationships, trials will come in the way. But if you will have faith, trust, respect and love in yourselves and make God as a center of your relationship then I guess everything will fall into place.I can't say hesitations are normal, but if your hesitations just means you are just afraid if the relationship will not work out because of little things other than love then I guess it will be alright. As love will conquer all things. But if you are hesitant because you are not sure if the guy really loves you and will stand by you for the rest of your life then girl its really alarming to pursue the marriage. If you doubt his love then it's not going anywhere but a broken marriage. But I pray for you that you will be guided because it's going to be for life unless you consider it as trial and error and then you can have divorce after that. Anyhow, your decision is still important. Good luck!

When it comes to marriage, hesitation is absolutely normal, but at the same time marriage isn't for everyone. it's for some and not others. I guess you just have to ask yourself if it's something you want to do. And then also ask yourself if it's something that your partner wants. And then, well, ... just take it from there.

I don't know. Many people experience cold feet. And yet get married and live very happy lives after. Then there are those that don't. Some end in divorce. I guess a person has to really know themselves. And then listen to their gut.

Marriage is a big step and hesitation can happen with such a big commitment, but I also think that perhaps you aren't ready. It may not mean that you're doubtful of your relationship, you are not ready to take it to the next level. A very close friend of mine said you know when you are ready to marry and when you meet someone and they are the right person it will hit you like a bolt of lightening. Now I personally cannot say if that is true as I have not felt that myself but it does make me think. I wouldn't worry about whether you want to marry, or when. However you should start thinking about why you don't think of your partner as your future husband? If you are doubting if you should marry him as opposed to marriage as an institution then you need to work out why and what to do about it. If he is keen and you are not then you should discuss it with him.

There's nothing wrong with not being ready and it's good that you realize it. Too many couples get in a rush to tie the knot and end up regretting it and/or divorcing because they didn't have the same attitude that you do. My fiance and I first started dating in high school. We broke up after we graduated and got back together, broke up again. It wasn't until after we were apart for a few years and both did our own things and had our own lives that we realized we wanted to be together forever. And even after we got back together for the last time it was two more years until we actually got engaged. In total, it has been 10 years since we first started 'going out'. My point is that if we had rushed and got married before we had time to really find out what we wanted then things wouldn't have turned out like they did, we probably wouldn't even be together now. So take it as it comes and just remember that it isn't a race. Don't put any pressure on yourself, or let anyone pressure you. You will both now when and if you're ready.

Hi I've been in a relationship for almost 5 years and not got married. We are now broken up. I'm not sure whether it would have lasted longer had we been married. It might have been possible to offer something to work for (marriage as an "institution") or just be a pain. So it's just your call now, but I think you can also wait and see what happens in the next years. After all, marriage is a ceremony, you don't need the papers to prove you are together with the one you (don't) love.

I think hesitation is normal, but I also think that it shows that you aren't ready. It doesn't always mean that you're doubtful of your relationship with this person. Since it doesn't sound like you're in a hurry to tie the knot, I wouldn't worry about that just yet. However, maybe you should start thinking about WHY you don't think of that person as your future spouse? If you ARE doubting if you should marry him/her, and one of you is really serious about the idea, you should talk about it.

If you have a doubt about it, think again for you will regret later on. Marriage is a life time commitment, if you can spend the person for the rest of your life then go ahead and get married but if not, Dont waste your time, find someone that will complete you and be with you forever.

Hesitation is not being sure of the things you might choose. If you are hesitant and dont see yourself with the man thats now is with you then i might say stop and think. You cannot bring your life back after the vow is already done..