Having Your Ex as a Friend
By rhaylagar
@rhaylagar (13)
Philippines
November 9, 2008 7:11am CST
It's a nice idea to have your ex as a friend but it is not an easy thing to do. It will take a lot of sincerity and genuine forgiveness before it could be a reality. There are lots of reasons why couples separated such as betrayal, anger, conflict of interest, abuse, loss of love and loss of attraction. But for whatever reason, it is still a fact that you will have a negative feelings towards your ex. (Read more at http://www.helium.com/items/1226536)
7 responses
@sebrichards (3)
•
10 Nov 08
I've been in a long term relationship now for five years and to be honest in my own personal opinion I don't think it's a good idea to remain friends with your ex for various reasons.
Firstly, after being in a relationship for so long, there's lots of things that tie two people together i.e living conditions if they share a mortgage and joint bank accounts.
It's hard to remain friends with your ex when sometimes breakups end with bad feeling between two people.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
I personally want to be friends with my formers but only after I've moved on and have already accepted that the other person doesn't love me anymore. I want to keep the relationship even after all the heartaches. I don;t know why but I always try to be friends with them. I want to show them that I'm ok without them in my life. -cherry-
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
i don't think this kind of set-up will work for me.. i don't want to be friends with my ex as i don't want to hurt my feelings of my hubby.. you know, past is past.. forget the past, live the present and face the future..
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
I don't think that it's something that can happen right away, and isn't something that can happen with many people when it's a serious relationship. I think that the only way a friendship between two people who were in a serious relationship can work is if you have a lot of time apart between. If you try to continue being friends right after the break up chances are one or both people are not over the relationship and 'being friends' is just a way to hang on.
But, on the other hand, if a relationship wasn't too serious and it was a mutual decision to stop dating then it's much easier to be friends.
@iamcdy (1119)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
I think it is possible for some and not for others. In my case, it was a disaster. But I took it as a lesson in my life. I have learned that no matter how long it has been over, your ex partner may not be over it yet. I guess it depends to how a person accepts the fact that it's over. If he is mature enough, he will accept it. If not, then the friendship won't work. For me, at least I have tried to be friends with my ex. Although it didn't work because he was full of angst, it serves as a lesson for me.
@cathya (704)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
indeed its not easy to do because of what you've been through but it is possible
like what happened to me and my ex... we ended our relationship for 3 or 4 years now and we haven't see each for almost 2 years now but we do communicate , his present GF now (actually the reason why we broke up) became my friend also. i think it's a matter of moving on and total forgiveness.
@333tangtang (404)
• China
9 Nov 08
Hi
its a little bit difficult.but still happens
like me and my ex boyfriend.we are still friends and we are friendly.
we help each other still care each other,even now he has his girl friend,and i have my boyfriend. we still talk to each other and have dinner sometimes.
pass is pass,let it be.....life just enjoy it
cheers
