What would you do if your adult daughter called you names?

I don't want to sound mean or rude, but I think the younger generation (such as myself) doesn't really find any reason to believe in religion. I think she just might have got fed up with your views. And trust me, you might say that you didn't do anything, and maybe you didn't, but I know a lot of parents who are really religions, and try to pass their views to their children. Now I'm not trying to accuse you of anything, but maybe she just got fed up with how religious you are. Just give her some time and maybe she'll apologize.

HECK NO! Our children have no right in this kind of disrespect or any other. I don't know if you are a Christian or not, but the Christian Bible states in the book of Exodus Chaper 20, verse 12 "Honour they father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD the God giveth thee." There other verses that talk against disrespecting parents. Our children shorten their own lives by doing so. They don't have to obey us after they are grown, but they still must honor their parents. They may say this is old fashion, but God does not change. He is the same yesterday, today and always. They do so at their on risk. If you are under age and disrespectful, I will get the courts on you, and as soon as you are 18, you are out. And if you are grown enough to speak to me like that, don't speak to me at all. I didn't raise you so, I didn't work for you so, I didn't give my all to you so that you can disrespect me. I still love you, but you got to go.

i think it is very disrespectful of your daughter to do that to you... i will never dare to do that to my parents... or else, i will definitely get a slap from them... i think you have to have a chat with your daughter and let her know how you feel about her behaviour... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

It's quite sad to hear that. I know some families call their elder siblings or parents by names, but I guess you family don't. In my family, we are not allowed to call the elders by names, it's kind of respect. Also, the way we speak to the elders should be respectful too. Although the elders are not always right, we need to respect the elders too. This is how I brought up. Perhaps your daughter has mixed with some friends who act similar, and she started to adapt the culture from them. If you are in this situation now, perhaps it's difficult for her to listen to you now. Try to get someone else to talk to her. My mum likes to ask me to talk to my younger sister, as she thinks we are both young people and we can communicate better. Hope she'll change her behavior soon.

ohhh nooo, that's so heartbreaking... if that happens to me, i wouldnt know what to do. this is the one thing, i have told my kids not to do... to call names to people especially me... i just hope my kids would not do it to me...

What is her religion? Do you push yours on her, if it is different than yours? Maybe she is hormonal or pregnant. When my husband acts weird and gets mad about strange things, I usually start asking alot of questions and get to the root of the actual thing bothering him and sort that out, as what I said probably just annoyed him a little and set him off... I don't think I would call her names back, but I would ask her calmly, if she really means what she is saying, without getting upset, and then also ask her if you think religion is a reason to split up a lifetime relationship

[i]Hi get, Wow..this is sad, I hope by this time she realized how bad it is to hurt and call you names! I will never do that to my Mother or Father! ANyway, this post was 3 months ago and wish everything is fine now with your daughter and that she apologize for what she did![/i]

You should find out what you did. People don't just call people names for no reason. Whatever you did, she still should not treat you that way...but you did do something.

Well, obviously your daughter is harboring some ill feelings about your religious beliefs or she wouldn't have gone on her rant. Maybe she feels like she can't talk to you about what's bothering her, thus the sudden explosion of feelings? I would let her stew and try to talk to her about it and ask what's bothering her when she cools off.

It is disrespectful for any child, regardless of age to call their parents names. In your daughter's case, it is strange that a normal conversation would result in name calling. Has she ever acted this way before? I do not think you owe her an apology, she definitely owes you an apology.

Hi Getnbuy, it's sad to hear about this. No matter what, we as children should never call our parents names, nor belittle their beliefs or superstitions. I'm curious, is your daughter of the same faith as you? I wonder why there was a sudden turn-around that she started insulting you and your religion. It really looks like something is bugging her ! Well, take care, and I hope you will find a solution soon!

HI Getnbuy, I am sorry that this has happened to you. If my daughter did this I would be so shocked. Obviously something is going on in her life and when this happens to adult children, they dump it all on the oner person(s) they can trust and that is usually thier mother or father. I would not send her any emails that were argumentative. I would be lovong and say that something may be going on in her life and yo want her to know that you arealways there for her. Assure her of your love. Don't get into the 'you said, I said' discussion. It doesn;t make any sense and will lead to further arguments. You are the adult. Ask her if yoku said anything to offend her in any way/O could gently remind her that Jesus came into the world for ALL people and al He is requiring is that we love one another. These are just a few random thoughts and I do hope that I have not caused any offense. God Bless.

Its not at all Good to call Elder people by names, Specially when they are related to You by blood + if they are Your Parents... Maybe she was just upset about something that happened in past...After all You need 2 hands to make a sound...so its not 100% her mistake...

I think this is awful of her. What is it with adult children today? I have four, two wonderful, loving respectful, one I get into it with every so often but other wise a good son, and my oldest daughter who has written her father off and takes any opprotunity to not speak to me for months and months on end. The more money she and her husband earn the meaner she is. Our children should treat us with the same respect (or more) that they do their friends and co workers. As pastor Rick Warren recently said I don't have to agree with my brother to love him. I wish you well and know how hurt you are. Hurt mom