take your revenge!
By borgborg
@borgborg (821)
Philippines
November 10, 2008 6:32am CST
If somebody close to you did something damaging to your character or did something terribly wrong that can affect your whole life, will you revenge against her/him or will you just let it be? Lets say for instance that "friend" of yours sabotage your chances for a better job or career will you be able to forgive and forget?
Hard isn't it?
7 responses
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hello borgborg, it's really hard to forgive and forget specially if what was done to you is really something that is very important to you.
There are situations when I have to take my revenge and some situations where I would just keep my silence and just wait for the time that person would have his badluck. But even if I have to keep silent and if there's a chance I will take the opportunity to prove them wrong.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Hi again! What I'm doing right now is like what you just said... I am taking my opportunity to prove them wrong. Though what they did left a big scar in my life, I try to still live my life the way i wanted to only now its a different path.
Thank you for responding and giving your advice regarding my concern... =)
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
It depends on the situation really. If the said "friend" is really a "close friend" then he/she wouldn't intentionally do anything to jeopardize your chances for a career. If he/she still went ahead and "sabotage" you then he/she is no friend at all.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Yes that's right! I actually don't consider her as my friend anymore after what happened. I myself couldn't believe myself when I found out that she was the one behind all my troubles. I can't believe an actual friend will actual friend will hurt you just for a job! Oh well... I hope she also learn from this!
Thank you for responding!!!
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
Im having a very childish feud with my brother right now. He's 33. Im 25 now. He ruins my stuff. And i mean ALL MY STUFF, EVEN IF ITS NOT MINE, IF I JUST HAPPEN TO USE IT, just like my mom's book, he ruined it as well. I sought revenge, i ruined his stuff as well. Its pointless really. Its like a cycle. I tried not to retaliate, but he keeps ruining my things. So what am i supposed to do right? Im only human. So i'd retaliate. My motto has always been, 'an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth'. As for the emotional part of getting hurt, it depends really. If i was offended, i'd just ignore the person. If i was betrayed, that would probably motivate me into getting even. Forgiveness may come when the pain has subsided.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
I guess that is really what we initially do when somebody hurts us... by cutting them out of our lives. It will be really hard to still build a relationship with such person when they broke your trust in the first place.
Hey! Thank you so much for responding! =)
@magicslate (373)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
that is hard, but i'm an advocate of restorative justice, so i would try to focus on repairing the damage done without inflicting additional harm on myself and on the offending party, and strive to resolve the issues so that the misdeeds won't be repeated in the future. =)
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Thank you for your response! I'll try to keep that in mind as well though its really hard because what that "friend" did to me was really bad! I hope that in time I will learn to forgive and forget. I am trying but the thought of what happen and the consequences behind it are still hunting me...
@Mikyoo12 (187)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Wow. Yeah this is a tough one. Ok lets see, I have to be honest. I would probably try and think of some ways that I might be able to hurt that person back.I would be so hurt and upset at this person. I wouldn't speak to them or try to show them any attention at all. But then I would calm down and just forget about the whole thing. And if I had see this person on a reguler basis, I would not retaliate. I would simply kill them with kindness. My mom raised up to never have revenge in my heart. Its better to forgive and forget, then to end up doing something totally out of character and spoil your image.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Those are some really powerful words MR. mikyoo! You're right about not doing something out of character because if you did you will be stooping down to their level! Grrr! I wish in time I can learn to forgive her but I assure you I can never forget what she did. Thanks for your advice regarding that matter!!! Have a nice day! =)
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