Have you been in love other than your bf/husband/lover/partner?

@maean_19 (4655)
Philippines
November 10, 2008 8:03am CST
I really do not know or sure if it is called love that I feel towards another guy other than my fiancee. I am sure I love my bf right now and see my future with him, but you cannot take away the possibility that there appears another guy in the picture. Do you believe in loving two persons at the same time yet with different degree? Who would you follow? What your mind says or what your heart says? It is very hard to choose, but you have to.
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@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I have been in love with two people. One was my now ex-husband and the other was my best friend. I know that sounds awful, but my best friend was filling a void that my husband was not (I am not talking physical) he was nice to me and my husband was not. He listened to me when I spoke and my husband did not. He was concerned about my health problems and my husband did not. I think the only time that falling in love with two people becomes a problem is when the one person gives you something that you really need that the other is not giving. If you feel like you are in love with two people, try and figure out what the second guy is giving you that your boyfriend is not and then talk to him about it. If relationships where easy the divorce rate would be down. Any relationship is work and sharing feelings and trying to improve it is important, so you can avoid the I love two people. I did get divorced by the way and no I did not date my friend. He gave me the shove to see that there was something wrong with my marriage, but I never prosued the feelings and honestly, they disappeared once I was out of the marriage. The grass is always greener on the other side, until you cross the street and see it is the same color.
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• India
11 Nov 08
It may sound a little out of context but the answer is que sera sera. What has to be shall be. We are puppets at the hands of destiny and the same divinity shall give you hints whether to listen to the mind or to the heart. When you are meant to be soul mates, the instinct of a woman just tells her whether it is really so. All the best, whatever happens, you have to work mutually on the relationship and if you are not happy with the reciprocal gestures, it is a pointer to make the right decision, May God grant you your fair share of happiness.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
26 Dec 08
No one knows what and whom are we destined to. There may be clues, yet there are times that they are vague orof many choices. My principle when it comes to situations like this is, "Come what may..." We have to take a risk because if you fail to follow the clues that are laid in the present time may lead you to a different direction. Besides, life is too short that if we take for granted those what is happening in the present may lead us to regrets in the end.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 08
Follow your heart. Not your conscience.
• Saudi Arabia
27 Jan 09
I do not remember If I was in a situation where I am in love with two girls. Maybe there was a time that am into it, but I was not in a relationship then. I am a one-woman man and very loyal to my girlfriend. She completes me and never dare finding another love than her. I want her to be my last.
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10 Nov 08
I was once in that situation of yours, its really difficult when you have to decide just to be with one of them. Yes, I think some people can love to persons in one go but with different degree. There a lot of reasons specially when the two of you have no enough time with each other to maintain the close relationship or you have found that other person is better than him or her. As the saying goes, think twice and be wise!
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Feeling in love with other person is just natutal, we are all born tio have feelings. I have experience the same thing, but I was not tempted since I really love my partner. Maybe if you are going to do that, you should know your limitation, another thing what you are doing is a sin. If you would be in the situation, how would you feel? Isn't its painful right?
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