How many of you would just accept the friend request?
By wchingya
@wchingya (73)
Malaysia
November 11, 2008 1:29am CST
When it comes to 'new' friend request, how many of you would just click 'accept' without considering much? Would you take account of the 'mutual' friend, or looks, or anything else? Since in facebook we won't be able to see much details until we accept his/her request. Just curious.
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7 responses
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
I am new to Facebook, actually I have only one friend as of now and He's one of my best friends at the other site Yuwie, he's the one who invited me here at Mylot. He's no other than Mike,(Boraxo) a very good, well loved Yuwie friend. As to new friend request oh yes I would accept without taking much into consideration other things as I have a very good experience at Yuwie (a social networking site where pageviews and everything are being paid) accepting and adding friends who are totally strangers. During my first days at the Internet, my children would remind me, mom don't believe too much to those people who are befriending you at the internet not all of them are real but so far the strangers before are almost all of my closest friends now. I found them real and true. With almost a year of getting along with them everyday by sending blog comments, messages, greetings for all occassion, caring for each other, sharing each others life's ups and downs, praying for each other when needed, shedding tears when one is lost, oh well, I can feel that these online friends are worth loving just the same as your true personal friends. Actually the Keyword is TRUST. I trust them to be real and I let them feel the same. Now in getting along with them, you'll feel somehow if they're worth of your friendship, should you have doubts, you can just easily stop communicating with them. How will you know what kind of persons they are if you won't give them the chance of knowing each other. I often mentioned in my blogs, Yuwie is a wonderful world as I may not be earning there that much but am gaining the best of friends. Now, here in MyLot maybe someday I'll say, this is the perfect site where I gained the most wonderful friends and earned that much. (hehe just a wish)
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@wchingya (73)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
Wow.. very well shared experience. For me, blogging and forums are my ways of getting to know new people, as I'll be able to know them through their postings, and how they react on certains matters, while sharing experiences and opinions. I found MyLot is a nice place for that purpose as well, what I love is you can get feebacks and people interact with each other on certain topics. For me, I feel much better with it than just accepting a stranger's request without knowing anything about them first. Thank you so much for sharing. Hope all of us could meet and have that genuine and wonderful friendships along the way. =)
@kyliexo (71)
• United States
11 Nov 08
On facebook I pretty much never just accept friend requests because of how private facebook is. You can't look at anyone's page or see any of their information really without being their friend, and pretty much all of my friends on there are people I actually know, so I feel weird just adding someone randomly who isn't a friend or a friend of a friend. On Myspace, however, I seem to be a lot more liberal with who I add but I think that's just because Myspace seems to be more public to me.
@wchingya (73)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 08
Yes, that's what my friends said as well. They prefer facebook 'cause it provides more privacy. MySpace huh.. I haven't tried, 'cause Friendster and Facebook are quite enough for me to handle. I find MySpace is not so popular among my friends here.. maybe not yet.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 08
It is my policy not to prejudge an individual so on other sites and myLot I accept 'friend's request' without much thought. Id the person proves to be a trouble maker then it is easy to delete the person from my friends list. Things like looks, culture, and religion are secondary to me. I believe we can learn something from other people. This is not to say I do not have any principles in life. I hate the thought of losing an opportunity just because of being extremely biased or prejudicial.
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@wchingya (73)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 08
Good remark you put there. The world goes crazy because we are all different in some ways.. sigh.. it's a lesson that we should be learning. Anyhow, glad that MyLot is a place for people to speak up and share opinions. I think I learn something today.. thanks.
@MizzWilliams33 (74)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I only accept friend requests from people I know. I have 82 friends on Facebook now and most of them are people I have reconnected with from highschool and some from Junior high and elementary school. I have a few family members and my best friends...that's it. I have no desire to have hundreds of "friends" on my page and in my business---I keep my page private and only FRIENDS can view it.
@Beruang (1309)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 08
I would normally accept first. If later that person happens to be doing something that i do not like or behaving annoyingly, I would just remove that person from my list and that's about it.
The only problem so far is there are sites out there (I have not checked on myLot) that does not allow you to remove friends. in that case I normally contact the admin to have the person removed from my list.
The reason I am doing it that way is due to the fact that I always give people the benefit of the doubt. I would take my chances with them as most of the time, they turned out to be great people that I could have missed if I were too picky about who can be my friends.
I believe that if we have good intentions, nothing really bad is going to happen to us. Cheers!
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@zhaychel (610)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Nov 08
When I have new friend request, I take a look at it if I knew the person but if not I send a personal message to him. Fortunately I haven't been in the situation where I have to ignore friend request. I have a lot of friends in facebook and I knew them all because they're my friends, colleagues and family members as well. ^^,
@wchingya (73)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
Same, almost 90% of my friendster/facebook are all familiar faces.. It's a good way to stay in touch/find long lost pals. =) So you mean you never got any strangers' friend requests from either facebook/friendster? If you did, how do they reply you when you send them the message?
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Hi there!
I always accept friends request and if they turn out to be adding me up just so they can invite me somewhere else, I just delete them.