Men is as old as he feels- Women as old as she looks?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
November 11, 2008 6:54am CST
It focuses on the aging process and on the fact that women have always been judged by their outward appearance; men less so. It is principally the woman who is butt of the sometimes spiteful, sometimes wry comments that are made about aging. And this statement; men is as old as he feel, women as old as she looks is no exception. But is this statement true?
In spite of all the creams and portions available today, it is usually possible to tell a woman's age by the condition of her skin and the shape of her figure. If she tries to stay young at heart a detractor might say of her 'she has no good nicks in her horn', a cow being said to have wrinkle in its horn for every year of its life. If she dresses fashionably she is accused of being mutton dressed as lamb, and if she should do anything to betray her age she is reminded that she is no spring chicken! Understandably, the aging process is resented by many women and I am no exception as am reaching my twilight life. But age is only a number and there is nothing a woman can do but to lurk in the shadows and appear constantly in the dusk with a light behind her in the hope of passing permanently for forty-three.
Men on the other hand are supposed to mellow physically with age, achieving a distinguished but still handsome appearance. Provided they have no aches and pains and keep a youthful outlook. Aches and pains are inevitable and drag a man's mind into old age. But by the time he reaches his sixties, it's uphill, or downhill all the way. It's only going uphill that one realises how fast one is going downhill. In fact, a man's spirit seems to age at the same rate as his body.
So whether you are male or female, as old as you feel or as old as you look, you are the age you are.
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9 responses
@carolrk (9)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Hi,
You can get the CD'S on growing younger and healthier on Ebay for a pretty good price under Hypnosis or Self Hypnosis. They really do work as I had two deep groves forming alongside of my mouth which is a sign of age, I am in my 60's, and within two months they did plump our again, You do have to play them after you get them and healthy eating helps.
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@carolrk (9)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I know what you mean, however, I believe you can talk yourself into old age at a very young age. I never think about it or worry about it just live each day as it comes. People tell me I am amazed at what you do at your age, its because I don't think old, why should I not continue to do whatever I want. I am learning new things all of the time. One good thing to do is get hynotic tapes or CD'S and play them as you are falling asleep telling you that every day you are getting younger and younger and healthier and they work.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 08
Ok Mechanic I should stop talking like an old woman, wait till I cross the bridge, the truth will reveal in itself. In the meantime think young always and the positive side of this thought will automatically reflects in looks and action. 
. I really don't feel as old as I thought I am. Very much young at heart though. Cheers!
. I really don't feel as old as I thought I am. Very much young at heart though. Cheers!
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
12 Nov 08
Yes there are people who think like this, some men dump their wives in the search for a younger model. However, I think that the beauty industry, and the men and women behind it, has to bear a lot of the blame for this attitude.
Personally I am as young as I feel inside and I do not care what people think of my outside. I do not look at it and if they do not like it that is their problem not mine. I dress as I wish to and until I was 50 I felt quite young.
In the last 2 years I have been ill and my pain levels have been growing so these days I tend to feel much older than my years. There are days when I wake up feeling 80 not 52. I think that the only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself.
I certainly do not care what other people think about me and I am not interested in anyone who thinks such sexist thought. Oh I get some disapproving looks from people sometimes so I must be doing something right. ] I do not die my hair any more and I have not work make up for years, nor do I waste money on anything other than a moisturising cream for when my skin feels dry.
I dislike the beauty industry and all the lies it tells and the fake images it uses to brainwash young girls. After all they just con people into spending a fortune on products that are useless and they push the myth that you need to look young and perfect.
] I do not die my hair any more and I have not work make up for years, nor do I waste money on anything other than a moisturising cream for when my skin feels dry.
I dislike the beauty industry and all the lies it tells and the fake images it uses to brainwash young girls. After all they just con people into spending a fortune on products that are useless and they push the myth that you need to look young and perfect.1 person likes this
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
Turning 50 can be a powerful and transient event even though many women believe that everything starts to change or even fall apart at 50. This doesn't have to be so! Women can stay strong and competitive, healthy and fit well over the age of 50. There may be some changes you need to make, but it is an important time for you to make these changes so that you can continue to stay healthy and young looking. Cosmatics? I have long stopped buying them as I prefer using natural products like coconut oil as my daily moisturizer and it has proven to be effective in delaying the wrinkles. At my age my face is free from wrinkles after using virgin coconut oil.
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@tankookoo (19)
• Singapore
12 Nov 08
For both man and woman, they should be as old as they feel. Always believe that one is as old as one feel regardless of age because one will act the age one feels. Personally, i feel younger than my age at some days and older and other days and will behave accordingly. Different situations or mixing with different people will make you feel different also. When mixed with younger folks, you tends to feel younger and vice reverse.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
It is true. our socializing plays a role in outlook and that influence our feelings. When I am with the youngsters I talk like them, playful and bursting into laughter at every conversation but when I am with older people I will be more serious and talk on daily issues like religion, politics and business. So I never really feel that I am getting older each passing day. It is fortunate that I am a social and flexible person and able to accommodate myself in every age group.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Hi zandi! I just love your discussions! You are such a wise
and eloquent woman! And again you have picked such a wonderful
topic, although it is a difficult one for me to deal with and
answer. I am an older woman and I hate it! No matter what I try
to do there is no way that I can hide the fact that I am the
age that I am. I have not aged well at all. I was for awhile, but
suddenly it has all gone downhill and I now am looking the age
that I am and it is making me very depressed. It is especially
difficult for a woman who has always looked younger than her
age to suddenly look like the age of an older woman, like a
"granny". I don't have any grandchildren, but that is the age
that I am. I dress cool, I try to look as good as I can, but
there just is no way anymore to hide the fact that I am old.
And it hurts and it bothers me very much to have to accept what
nature has done to me. There is nothing that I can do but accept
it. I am glad to be alive and well so I just have to deal with
it. But, the media and everyone makes it so difficult for a
woman to age and be able to deal with it. They expect you to
look like they do in Hollywood. But they have makeup artists!
I do not! I am not about to go under the knife for anyone!
My mother did! But I am not that vain! So like it or not world
take me as I am!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
Nobody said getting older was fun, but it does not have to be painful. The age-old adage that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure applies to the aging process very well, and if you take these measures you too can age gracefully. We are about the same age and your seniority is not much difference. I can relate what is life for women in the 50 age bracket. Try to be cheerful always and we are what we think we are so don't surrender to the word 'aging'.
