The Quitter in Me

Hey, maple. Hugs. Hugging your baby Nicolas too. And stop putting yourself down. You're too intelligent for that. Hugs again.

wow this is a interesting discussion a lot people feel they can,t just quit like that when they feeling they are being a burden. did you ever think how he feels about what you are trying to do.you are in a two way relationship here there is his feeling as well as yours to be considered.snap out of it if you do nothing else you owe him a explanation.on the other hand maybe you did him a favor and just let him go thats way he don,t have to hear you whine about what you did.if you love him why did you do it why? because you feel something is wrong are missing did you try talking to him about it are it,s not that serious for you.i bet he loves you and he too is hurting you did this thing.i hope i didn,t hurt your feeling thats not my intention i just was expressing if it was him how he must have felt being kicked to thr crub.

i'm so sorry to hear about your story... i think you have to learn to let go and just try to live this life easily... give yourself and other people a second chance... things might change for the better for you... pray to God and asked for His help and guidance... i wish you all the best... take care and have a nice day...

Well I do not see you as pathetic. You decided what you think is right for you and you found more value in quitting than living in a life that is just not suiatable in you. I guess you need to just stop putting yourself down. Move on with a new life ahead and try to become as strong as you can be. Also try to learn from the past to guide you in you in your future. As long as life is here it would present new opportunities and challenges as well it is up to you to choose which ones to grab and which ones to ignore.

The pathetic one is the one that doesn't have the courage to face his problems, to be honest with his partner, to share the goods and the bads. You just want to make everyone happy and I know how you feel, this happens to me many times, including with friends. When I feel I've become annoying for someone, I prefer to just retreat, if that person doesn't say anything. The most wise thing to do would be to try to discuss that with them, but sometimes words are too much. We're just human afterall ;)

First things first, you are hardly pathetic and you're definitley not stupid. Everything you just said sounds very normal. You're afraid of getting hurt. So is everybody. It's natural when you see your boyfriend un happy to look at yourself for the reasons why. Rest assured that the vast majority of the time the reason that he is unhappy is his own personal problems, nothing to do with you. Happiness comes from within. If you find someone that is truly happy inside then you have found someone that can be happy with you. You need to stop putting the burden on your shoulders. It's unfair to you and will only lead to pain. Give yourself a break and quit being so hard on yourself. You are a wonderful woman with lots to give. And besides, quitting just means you have another chance to try again. Good luck, Jay

I think we are a lot alike. Before I got with my husband I quit every "real" relationship I had. I tried to with my husband...more then once. But he wouldn't let me. We finally got married and even then I tried to quit the relationship. Still he MADE me stick with it. We've now been together for 5 years. You just have to find that one guy who won't let you quit on him. I do have to say though...I've traded quitting on relationships with quitting on everything else. LOL Nothing major...but business' stuff and online stuff. I can't seem to stick with anything even if it is starting work out.

You should pray for someone to love. I think that all this is not finding someone you truly need to be with. If you pray to God for a good life partner He will send you one.

If you really think that the relationship was going nowhere and that the guy wasn't man enough to tell you about the truth, then I don't think it's considered quitting. Sometimes, people don't even stop and think about their situation and how it has changed even if they are very much aware of it. I think being able to end things when they aren't going right is a brave thing to do. But then if we just give up for no reason at all, without even trying to find out the real truth and we just quit because we are afraid of what's to come and we'd rather have control over what could be, then, maybe it's something that we need to change. Sometimes, we are blinded by our fears and worries that we end up not really opening ourselves up to people who are willing to embrace us. Take care, maple_kisses.

Have you read teh sayng that "winners never quit and quitters never win." If you have to win, never wuit. If you quit a relationship, it shows you are not serious about the relationship. You need to ive more commitment only then willit last. Why don't youfind a guy and get married? That way there will be a commitment. /don't feel miserabel and indulge in self pity. It never helps. You have to make a lot of adjustments to let a relationship work.

Get over it, easier said than done though but you have to or else you find happiness...you are not pathetic, people really at times like thatt. Pray for enlightenment and strength.

i know how it felt, coz i was like that too b4. i called myself that time as a Sceptic person. i already gave up b4 i try, b4 i check if that sth was right or wrong, n i decide sth not based on the truth the logical reason, but just based on my stupid feelings at a time. i usually became so emotionally when i will have my period every once in a month, i marked that bad behaviour so i'll be more carefull when sth come to me while im so emotional. n there was some1 who made me realize that it was wrong, my bestmate in hi5. she made me realize that i shouldnt gave up for sth n decide sth too rush, or i will regret my decision. she told me that it was just my way to look for attention, attention ! n think that it was all bout me..yes,yes,yes..she was right ! now coz of her, i can face my day better coz ive realized my mistake n i wont do that again. i dont wanna be a skeptic person again, i really wanna grown up n be more mature in logically n emotionally..i dont wanna be a childhish person like that again =) hope it helps a bit maple_kiss it was just my experience, everything is back to u urself maple_kisses

maple_kisses, please don't berate yourself. You are not blind, pathetic, or stupid. We only call ourselves that when things don't turn out the way we expected. You should be proud that you had the guts to turn your back on something that wasn't worth your while any more. Every experience is a learning experience. I don't think there is anyone out there who hasn't been hurt by the ones they love. Then again, that's the very reason why we get hurt. Many of us go through trials in relationships. Sometimes we quit, other times we stay. It depends on whether the person is worth hanging on to or not. As for all the pain you're feeling, remember, this, too, shall pass...

Let's get one thing straight. You're not pathetic. This happens to everyone. If you only knew what I been though. The key is to keep your head up. One day you will find the person who really does care and love you. Do not worry about it. Go find your self esteem and self confidence and show the world who you really are. Don't think negative, this will only make things worse for you! Best wishes!